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xh is potentially v ill

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:17

initial tests show he could have cancer of the oesophagus, he is going for more this week

i found out when i was away in thailand, i just got back today

i pretty much know what the outlook is for him if it is the case, but i wondered if anyone has any experience of it

it's such a huge shock, he is only 43

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ponygirl · 22/03/2006 12:13

So sorry to hear this Lou Sad. Thinking of you all. Pg x

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hoxtonchick · 22/03/2006 12:25

how awful for all of you :(

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lou33 · 22/03/2006 13:51

wow, so many messages!

he went for more blood tests and xrays today, they will be through in about a week

right now he isnt wanting to think much about it, but i have insisted he cut back his smoking v strictly and cut out the drink

he has only had 2/3 cigarettes today so far, and normally by now since we split he would have had almost a pack

he tried to get up last night to have a fag but i heard him and shouted at him, so he went back to sleep, lol

so far today he hasnt been sick either, which is good, and he has agreed to stay with me for the time being

he is looking not too bad today, compared to yesterday

i tried to talk to him last night but he really isnt able to face the thought of what it could be, so i am not going to push it

i just told him he had to start looking after himself better

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Blu · 22/03/2006 13:53

So very sorry to hear this Lou.
It seems very very cruel. IS very cruel.

QE2 · 22/03/2006 13:55

lou - sorry to hear this. A tough time whatever the outcome of the tests. Thinking of you. Stay strong, both of you.

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lou33 · 22/03/2006 19:18

he's not feeling good tonight, he's in bed already

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sunchowder · 22/03/2006 19:20

I can't stop thinking about you two. I am hoping for the best Lou. I sent you and email, please email me back if there is anything that I can do to support you from here.

jmg1 · 22/03/2006 19:23

As was said on another thread recently why does the bad crap keep happening to people who least deserve it?

He needs to take it easy and rest as much as pos. The stress of worrying about the results will sap up energy.

Lets all stay hopeful about the test results.

Crystaltips · 22/03/2006 19:25

lou - Oh Hun - you poor thing ..... Sad

Just remember amongst all this to look after yourself as well
{{{{hugs}}}}

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lou33 · 22/03/2006 19:25

i will check email now sunny

jmg i still didnt get your text, do you have the right number? i had to change mine in the summer

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WigWamBam · 22/03/2006 19:28

Oh Lou. I've only just seen this and I don't really know what to say. So sorry, will be thinking of you all.

jmg1 · 22/03/2006 19:30

I will put my number here in an email.

Does dh still have the same number?

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lou33 · 22/03/2006 20:11

have replied to you jmg and all the others who have emailed me ( i think!)

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lou33 · 23/03/2006 07:59

i caught him looking at some pictures of the kids last night

he was crying

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throckenholt · 23/03/2006 08:04

it might be worth getting some books on positive thinking - I think your level of depression has a huge impact on your ability to fight off disease.

If you can try and help him to make the coming months as positive as possible, whatever the long term outcome it is likely to be rough over the next few months.

winnie · 23/03/2006 08:10

lou, I am so sorry... I have everything crossed that it isn't cancer.

how are you doing? What an awful shock for you all. Take care of yourself too xx

Freckle · 23/03/2006 08:20

Lou, I am so terribly sorry to hear what you are going through. What an awful shock on your return. What is it with men refusing to see the doctor? At least he is receiving care now rather than continuing to bury his head in the sand.

I hope the next few weeks bring you some positive news.

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lou33 · 23/03/2006 08:26

i think wrt books on positive thinking, that is something maybe a bit too soon for him, he has only known this for a week, so he needs time to get his head round it, but it might be useful for further along

it's so shit, i can't look at him without wanting to cry myself, and the kids are asking why is daddy still sick

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lou33 · 23/03/2006 13:44

just went and bought him lots of multivitamins and aloe vera juice and those build up drinks to see if it will help, also some chinese herbal medicines

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nailpolish · 23/03/2006 13:47

hi lou

which build up drinks did you get? most people tend to like the milky ones the best, the fruit juice ones can be a bit syrupy, but are nicer watered down a bit. just incase that helps.

thinking off you x

CountessDracula · 23/03/2006 13:47

omg Lou so sorry to hear this. How dreadful.

Let's hope it's just a scare xx