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xh is potentially v ill

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:17

initial tests show he could have cancer of the oesophagus, he is going for more this week

i found out when i was away in thailand, i just got back today

i pretty much know what the outlook is for him if it is the case, but i wondered if anyone has any experience of it

it's such a huge shock, he is only 43

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Miaou · 21/03/2006 20:52

Lou, so sorry to hear this. I mentioned it to my dh as he and your xh sometimes post on the same fishing forum, and he was very sad to hear it too.

tamum · 21/03/2006 20:54

lou, I don't suppose this will be of any comfort, but John Diamond, a writer and journalist, had this. He died I'm afraid, but write a brilliant book called C. \link{http://www.oatridge.co.uk/cancer.shtml\This} is a diary of sorts written by someone with oesophageal cancer- it has very grim statistics at the start, but it's worth reading on. I am so sorry :(

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 20:55

well i am really hoping it is something else, but he has all the symptoms , so i will be v shocked if it comes back as something else

thanks for all your support

i thought we had gone through enough over the years, but it seems not

he isnt really talking about it yet, though i just got back, as i said, but i can see he is terrified

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SoupDragon · 21/03/2006 20:59

Hi Lou - so sorry to hear this :(

RTKangaMummy · 21/03/2006 21:00

Lou I don't really know what to say but I just wanted to send my love to you all xxxxxxxxxx

Cadbury · 21/03/2006 21:02

Sad really sorry to hear this Lou. Thinking of you all.

oops · 21/03/2006 21:07

omg, lou
i haven't really talked to you much over the yrs, but am aware of some of your stuff as it were.
I am so so sorry, i do hoep this isn't the case.
{sad]

oops · 21/03/2006 21:08

sorry to say that i do have fairly close experience of this....it doesn't sound great and can be quite a harsh disease...sorry Sad

mum2oneandonemore · 21/03/2006 21:09

Sorry to hear this lou Sad

puff · 21/03/2006 21:15

I'm very sorry to read this Lou and really hope it is something less sinister as some posters have suggested.

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lou33 · 21/03/2006 21:24

me too puff

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beansprout · 21/03/2006 21:29

So sorry to hear this lou Sad

Flossam · 21/03/2006 21:34

If it is easier Lou, my email is kurt-sam at kurt-sam dot wanadoo dot co dot uk. MN towers are probably home with babies! Smile

ScummyMummy · 21/03/2006 21:34

Oh no, lou. :( I'm so very very sorry to read this. I wish there was something I could say. I will hope against hope it's something else. You have been through so much as a family recently.

Aero · 21/03/2006 21:34

I'm really sorry to read this. I lost my grandfather to this and his symptoms were as you describe. I truly hope it's something less sinister. Wish I could say something more hopeful. Sad

mykidsmum · 21/03/2006 21:40

I know someone who has beaten this form of cancer, it can happen xxxxx

galaxy · 21/03/2006 21:41

Oh Lou....so sorry to hear this. I don't know what to say other than sorry. Sad

Saggarmakersbottomknocker · 21/03/2006 22:43

So sorry Lou Sad - hope the tests come back OK.

A friend's father is currently fighting this cancer. He's known for about a year now - has had chemo then an attempt at surgery but they were unable to remove it as the tumour was close to large blood vessels. He's had further chemo and radiotherapy - doing OK at the moment but no guarantees I'm afraid. Your dh is very young - this chap is in his 60s.

Yorkiegirl · 21/03/2006 22:45

oh lou Sad
I am so sorry to hear that you're going through this. I don't know what to say to help, just couldn't leave the thread without posting something.

beetroot · 21/03/2006 22:48

Shit Lou..shit!

PeachyClair · 21/03/2006 23:46

IF (and I hope to goodness he doesn't) he gets the dx these people \link{http://www.macmillan.org.uk/\ macmillan cancer r elief information line} are excellent and can tell you all you need to know} used to work for them and very proud to have done too.

Dior · 22/03/2006 00:05

Lou - don't know what to say...keep strong xxx

soapbox · 22/03/2006 00:41

Lou really sorry to hear this!

I hope the news is better than you fear, and if not wish you both lots of strength to get through the difficult times ahead!

I can only imagine what mixed emotions you have over this!

Pixiefish · 22/03/2006 00:52

So sorry to hear this. Hope his dx is different xx

DelGirl · 22/03/2006 01:05

been wondering whether to post or not. so sorry to hear this Lou. I really hope your dh gets a different dx. This is what my dh had. If there's anything I can do, let me know. I hope I don't upset you by posting, just didn't want not to iyswim. Take care x