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Its our last week together

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Flower3554 · 21/07/2008 11:09

Well this is it, one week today our little one meets his new mummy

I'm busy washing all his cuddly toys cos some of them are so grungyI'd be ashamed to send them with him

He's having a sleep at the moment and I'm imagining what it will be like when he goes, I know I'm going to miss him like crazy but it's long past the time he should have moved. I hope it all goes smoothly and he really "takes to her"

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LIZS · 06/08/2008 07:43

Hope it goes well today

whooosh · 06/08/2008 08:11

Flower-sorry you had such a bad night but it merely highlights why you are so good at what you do-you care.

Will be thinking of you today and hope it goes as well as it can.

ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 06/08/2008 08:21

Been thinking of you.

What time does he leave?

Your work is done - and done well - with him as he is able to go off into the world with his new mummy.

HUGS

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Flower3554 · 06/08/2008 08:35

He's gone... my heart is breaking. He has been sat on my knee this past hour, something he usually has to be paid biscuits to do, and he's held my face and kissed me

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ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 06/08/2008 08:40

OMG I hadn't realised he was going so early.

You poor darling, I am in tears for you here.

He knows, you know. He was trying to give you everything he could to say how much he loves you and thank you.

Have you sorted out staying in touch?

poshtottie · 06/08/2008 08:43

me too. I hope you get to stay in touch. You have been his mum for such an important time of his life.

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Flower3554 · 06/08/2008 08:44

She says she will I hope she does, couldn't bear not knowing he's ok.

They have to travel to London from the North East so it was always going to be an early start.

I've texted my DD's one is in a bus station on her way to work and she's in tears too, wish I hadn't told her now

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ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 06/08/2008 08:48

Cry all day if you want. It is only to be expected.

ninedragons · 06/08/2008 08:49

I am so, so sorry. I have been lurking on your threads and it is terribly sad for you.

Treat yourself well today.

lazaroulovesleggings · 06/08/2008 08:58

Ah Flower. I doubt anything can make you feel better at the moment, but remember how much this little boy is loved, by you, your family, his mum. That's all that matters. {{{{hugs}}}} to you and all your family.

onepieceoflollipop · 06/08/2008 09:45

Flower I am crying for you too. However that little boy has been so blessed by the start you have given him, as ImnotMamaG said he was saying thank you and telling you how much he loves you. Even very small children (imo) understand stuff even if they can't express themselves.

Hope you get some rl hugs from purpleparrot and your other dd. Is the other one a mnetter too?

Look after yourself for the next few days, even if you don't feel like it.

LIZS · 06/08/2008 09:49

He's a very lucky little boy. I hope they do keep in touch , I know my mum still enjoys hearing from those who do - even though the youngest would be over 30 now!

lucyellensmum · 06/08/2008 10:09

Oh Flower, i don't know what to say. So lovely about him sitting on your lap. You must have your ways of coping i guess and im just so full of admiration for you. I really feel that social services should at least report to you his progress every so often - quite cruel that they don't.

You are one of life's treasures flower and that little boys life will be touched by you forever, profoundly giving him strength for whatever life throws at him.

I wish i could make this less painful for you, but then it would be a poor show really if you could just hand him over like he had only stayed for a week.

I know my words must mean nothing but just wanted to offer some support.

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Flower3554 · 06/08/2008 10:17

Oh god!!! Just answered a knock at the door and a delivery guy is standing there with flowers from Purpleparrot and my grandson.

Poor guy asked if it was my birthday and I fell apart sobbing, he ended up hugging me, poor soul, I feel awful now

Thank you so much Purple, so very thoughtful of you. xxx

On the contrary Lucyellensmum, it's words like yours and many others thats kept me going these last few days, so my thanks to you too.

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ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 06/08/2008 10:31

You more than deserve them.

magso · 06/08/2008 10:42

Flower, am thinking of you!
My ds was same age as LO on 'coming home day' 7 years ago - and it brings it all back. The sadness for ds and the (redeyed) FCs and Fsibs, and the mixtures of emotions (overwhealming love, joy, fear, wonderment). I still feel immense gratitude to the FCs- it is oddly inhuman to spend so much time in the family and then suddenly disapear. We were not supposed to contact the fc for at least a month- but I knew how much they (and their dcs) needed to know ds was ok - so phoned to give an update. Their dcs were ds dfb/dfs - it seemed hard for everyone. We still send cards, and have met up a few times.
You have given this LO love and taught him through that attachments.
We still see some of SIL grown up FCs!
Hugs to you. Magso

lazaroulovesleggings · 06/08/2008 11:31

A hug from the delivery guy! That's lovely.

lilyloo · 06/08/2008 11:35

Have lurked since you started this thread.

You are a very special person and he is a very lucky little boy to have had such a lovely start to his life.

What you have done for him will shape his life forever.

Be kind to yourself you deserve it. I can't believe he gave you such a lovely goodbye that memory can never be taken away!

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Flower3554 · 06/08/2008 11:43

aw thanks magso, my eyes are so swollen its an awful feeling. I just keep watching the clock and telling myself he'll be ok. They'll be almost there by now!

I stripped his cot earlier but I can still smell him on the sheets so I'm not washing them for a little while I washed our last placements cot stuff too quickly and I longed to get the smell back.

I've also moved all the furniture because he liked to push stuff underneath the sofa's and the dresser and I wanted to find stuff now rather than come across it later when I wasn't expecting to.

I found a few books, couple pieces of wooden jigsaws and ..... 4 dummies

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Flower3554 · 06/08/2008 11:46

And all the stuff is since last night

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Paddlechick666 · 06/08/2008 12:00

Flower, stuck for something to say because I am in awe of you and I'm afraid nothing I can say will make this less heartbreaking for you.

I really hope new Mummy keeps in touch and keeps you posted on LOs progress.

You are truly amazing.

lazaroulovesleggings · 06/08/2008 12:01

FLower, when is your husband back? How is he coping with it all?

hughjarssss · 06/08/2008 12:06

Flower my heart goes out to you.

You do such a wonderful thing and then are left with such heartache.

I hope the thought that everything you have done has turned him into the wonderful little boy he is helps somehow.

If only there were more people like you in the world

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Flower3554 · 06/08/2008 12:38

Thank you all

DH is away until a week tomorrow, I've been texting him photo's on my mobile all week.

He just wishes he could have been with me as do I. He was emotional this morning when I let him know lo had left

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Flower3554 · 07/08/2008 06:07

Quick update

Well thats the first night over with, yesterday was awful and coming past his empty room this morning was sad too.

His new mum rang me last night (yeayyy) and we had a long chat. He has been fine and was asleep in his new cot. He's eating well and she is keeping her fingers crossed he'll be ok this morning.

She has thanked me for everything and promises to keep in touch. She even said she would bring him back to see me in October

Thank you all for keeping me sane this last week or so. xxx

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