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Its our last week together

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Flower3554 · 21/07/2008 11:09

Well this is it, one week today our little one meets his new mummy

I'm busy washing all his cuddly toys cos some of them are so grungyI'd be ashamed to send them with him

He's having a sleep at the moment and I'm imagining what it will be like when he goes, I know I'm going to miss him like crazy but it's long past the time he should have moved. I hope it all goes smoothly and he really "takes to her"

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ninedragons · 07/08/2008 07:37

That sounds encouraging.

It really does sound like you gave him the best possible start in life. To be able to give someone a gift that will last for 90 years or more is gooseflesh-inducingly amazing.

lazaroulovespastries · 07/08/2008 08:36

Flower, that's great. So, fingers crossed, you will see him in october.
So good to hear that he's settling down.

ImnotMamaGbutsheLovesMe · 07/08/2008 08:54

That is great

Why not send a card thanking her for calling? It might not seem much to make a call but it would be lovely for her to know how much it meant.

I had another letter from someone this week from someone who used to befriend me as a child (they wanted to foster me but didn't have the room) and it means such a lot as I dont have any family.

morningpaper · 07/08/2008 09:07

BLUB oh flower what a moving story

I'm glad he is okay, he sounds so utterly LOVELY

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Flower3554 · 07/08/2008 09:42

He is utterly lovely MP,

MamaG... I put a card for her in amongst lo's luggage, tucked down the side and she thanked me for it last night. I wrote to thank her for the gifts she'd given me and told her I thought she'd make a lovely mummy. She said it made her cry

I've finally put his cot stuff in the washer and I've found a couple of bits and pieces I forgot to send with him. His sw is calling tomorrow with my suitcase that I loaned new mum and she has to visit them next week so I'll give her the stuff to take with her.

Mind you the silly woman only went and left her document case with her ticket home, she was going to fly home last night, and.... her passport on the train or in a cab they were in so not sure his things will ever get there.

She's going abroad in a fortnight as well

The mills of god grind slow

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ladymariner · 07/08/2008 09:46

I've also just found this thread this morning, Flower, and I'm in floods reading it. My heart goes out to you, and to your lo and his new mum, you really are a very special lady and I wish you all the very best, you deserve it.
xxxx

onepieceoflollipop · 07/08/2008 09:56

Thanks for the updates Flower. I am so glad that his mummy rang you - that must make the "letting go" process a teeny bit smoother?

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Flower3554 · 16/08/2008 11:48

Hi all, just a brief update

New mum has phoned numerous times since he left, last night we chatted for over 2 hours Lo is doing well apart from the odd hiccup. He refused to eat on one difficult day for her.

She sent me a 10 x 8 photo of him this morning and both DH and I were in tears, he is sooo lovely. It was a very kind thing for her to have done and I will treasure it always

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ladytophamhatt · 16/08/2008 20:22

Flower, I'm back from holiday and searched for this thread.

Had I been here on my own I would have been in floods of tears but with a house full I had to hold it together.

I hope his new mum continues to stay in touch, for your and his benefit.

I'm sorry the thread ugly for a brief time, I'm quite stunned at Cods comments. I'm glad some of the post were deleted and I'm glad I didn't read it.

MatNanPlus · 16/08/2008 20:29

So glad it has gone well for LO Flower

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Flower3554 · 17/08/2008 06:13

Thank you.

LTH.... it was ugly and extremely hurtful at a time I was at a low ebb anyway.
I understood for the first time why people walk away from MN. Thank god for my wonderful DD1 her rush to my defense was so very typical of her.

We still have the 8 month old here but somehow the house is a little less "full" IYSWIM.

I found a well chewed book last night that he had pushed under a dresser and I was no good for a while, he is such a miss

ps.....hope you had a good holiday

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Lazarou · 19/08/2008 00:22

Hi Flower, have been thinking of you and wondering how you are getting on. How lovely of his mum to send you that picture.
I really hope you get to see him again.

Talia22 · 13/11/2008 22:11

I know this is a very old thread, but I have just read it in floods of tears following all the recent horrific stories in the news (causing me to consider fostering babies myself).

As a mother of a 17 month old boy, I simply can't imagine how anyone can do this. It must tear your heart out. What an amazing lady. What a difference she has made to this child's life x

Flower3545 · 14/11/2008 10:37

Thank you Talia for your kind words

I am expecting a visit from the little one and his mum a week from Saturday and I can't wait to see him.

Its been just over 3 months since he left and I'm doing ok (don't cry myself to sleep anymore)

It is an amazing job fostering but as well as the joy there is sadness too.

I have followed the recent stories in the news as well and it beggers belief the depths parents can sink to.

Talia22 · 15/11/2008 11:07

I'm so glad his adoptive mother has kept in touch, I know you were worried about this based on previous experience. It would be great if you could let us know how it went.

My local council are holding an open day for adoption today, and I'm going along later and plan to ask about fostering. It's not something I could think about now, as I have too much on myself, but it might be something for the future. Your thread has also made me think about the loss and sadness involved as well.

Well done again, your thread restored my faith in human nature x

Flower3545 · 24/11/2008 15:55

Just a brief update......

Little one came to see us on Saturday, almost 3 months since he left, and he was adorable, as he always was.

It was a bitter-sweet afternoon as he wouldn't come to us at first, a good thing for him I hasten to add but sad a little for us

He soon settled down and had lunch with us. His mum has my undying gratitude for bringing him all this way and she indends to visit again next year.

He was soon playing and exploring and he sat on our knee for a little while too

He seems really well bonded with his mum and she is very obviously still besotted with him.

Tomorrow we have a visit from another little one who left a couple of years ago, sooo excited about seeing him too.

MiaWallace · 27/11/2008 00:14

Just read through the whole thread.

I'm so happy that your last post was about the visit. I'm so glad his new mum has kept in touch, it's the least you deserve.

TeenyTinyTorya · 27/11/2008 00:58

Have cried all the way through this thread. I don't know how you do it. You are a truly amazing person, and it's so great that there are people like you in this world.

GreenEggsAndSpam · 28/11/2008 20:55

So glad you posted an update and that LO is so settled with his forever family. How fantastic that you could see that for yourself .
Like many others here, I think what you do is amazing, and your LO's parents have a huge amount to thank you for.
Hope your visit from your other LO went as well, and that you post more updates in the future.

Flower3545 · 29/11/2008 07:59

Thank you

Sadly the visit with the other lo didn't go ahead as his family had a sudden emergency and had to return home. They are planning to visit after new year so I'll see them then.

The lo we are fostering now will be with us for Christmas (and beyond) as her family is being given another assessment (4th one so far)to assess the risk of her return home.

Pixiefish · 29/11/2008 08:11

I rememebr this from wen you first posted and I have to say you are an amazing lady doing an amazing thing

Pixiefish · 29/11/2008 08:11

I rememebr this from wen you first posted and I have to say you are an amazing lady doing an amazing thing

blueshoes · 29/11/2008 13:54

flower, I have only just read this moving thread. Thank you from the bottom of my heart. This world needs more people like you.

kayzisexpecting · 30/11/2008 20:15

I have just read it too and you are amazing.

My MIL went through the same thing last year, she had a little boy for 15 months and when he went it was devastating for here. Luckily like you she still she's him and hears from his new parents.

You are a wonderful person!

Talia22 · 01/12/2008 09:49

Have only just read the updates and would like to add how fantastic that the little boy is so happy with his mum, and that she sounds like a lovely person too. Sorry that it was also a bit sad for you. Good luck with your other little ones.

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