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Its our last week together

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Flower3554 · 21/07/2008 11:09

Well this is it, one week today our little one meets his new mummy

I'm busy washing all his cuddly toys cos some of them are so grungyI'd be ashamed to send them with him

He's having a sleep at the moment and I'm imagining what it will be like when he goes, I know I'm going to miss him like crazy but it's long past the time he should have moved. I hope it all goes smoothly and he really "takes to her"

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Flower3554 · 28/07/2008 07:34

Why thank you big german, thats the nicest thing anyone has ever said to me

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stoppinattwo · 28/07/2008 07:42

Flower without people like you, it would be a really poor do for these lo's...You are doing a wonderful thing be brave and v proud today XXX

itati · 28/07/2008 08:15

You do know he has been saving the wave for you and did it last night so today wasn't the first time? Knew you'd be in tears. Smart kid.

Hope it goes okay.

Just remember it is because of you he can now go off to his new Mummy.

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Flower3554 · 28/07/2008 08:47

I'm trying to keep this morning as calm as possible but he knows something is afoot, he keeps coming over to me and putting his hand on my knee

Usually he's off doing his own thing and getting into mischief.

The next week and a half are going to be hectic, some mornings his new mum will come here for 6am to see his getting up routine. I'm not looking forward to that at all.

I'll try and post whenever I get a minute

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lazaroulovesleggings · 28/07/2008 11:25

Hey Flower, what's that thing they say? 'Lie back and think of England' and 'stiff upper lip' etc

stealthsquiggle · 28/07/2008 11:49

Poor you Flower.

I really really hope LO's new Mummy will be one of those inclined to keep you in touch with him and his progress - I would like to think that under those circumstances I would want the person who gave my LO his start in life to see and be able to be proud of him as he grew.

mamadiva · 28/07/2008 12:08

Oh Flower, that's great about him waving to you the other night, must have been bittersweet IYKWIM. I don't know how you do it honestly I have a 2YO DS and I'm heartbroken at the thought of letting him go, although you knew it'd happen after such a long time it must be horrible for you.

I hope you will manage to somehow keep in touch with him and his new mummy as stealth said I'd like to keep in touch with the person who gave my child the best possible start in life.

Good Luck to you over the next few weeks and I'll be checking to see how things are

Not really sure how to feel for you.

MeMySonAndI · 28/07/2008 12:15

Hope everything is going well today. You are such a generous woman.

Earlybird · 28/07/2008 12:41

Flower - am filled with admiration for you. You've given him such a positive start in life, which will without question, contribute hugely to who he becomes as he grows up. It could have been so very different had you not come into his life.

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Flower3554 · 28/07/2008 15:33

Hi all

Well I brought his new mummy back to our house and she stayed an hour and a half, she has just left and will be back tomorrow to spend a good part of the day with us.

He was absolutely fine with her, he sat on her knee and he doesn't pop that particular cork for many people

She brought him a couple of new toys and she even put a couple of gifts in a bag for me, I was so touched There was a card as well thanking me for the "wonderful work I've done so far with him".

She seems a lovely person who is keen to keep to my routines and such. Well I'm off for a big cuddle with lo, thank you all again xxx

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lazaroulovesleggings · 28/07/2008 16:22

Flower, that sounds great, and it sounds like he has taken a shine to her.

itati · 28/07/2008 16:48

Brilliant news.

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Flower3554 · 28/07/2008 16:55

I know!!! I've worried myself to death he wouldn't, bless him.

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ladytophamhatt · 28/07/2008 18:25

Aww, I bet its a relief for you and for his new mum.

Still very bitter sweet

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Flower3554 · 28/07/2008 19:32

Dh just rang, he's working in Plymouth about 400 miles from here, he asked what new mum had said when she first saw him.

I told him she had said he was beautiful.

He replied " well of course he is, look who brought him up"

Lovely man my Dh, even if he does make me cry

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itati · 28/07/2008 19:35

hughjarssss · 28/07/2008 19:38

It sounds like his new mum appreciates everything you've done Flower so hopefully she'll keep in touch and let you know how he's getting on

missorinoco · 28/07/2008 21:25

Hello Flower.

Remembered the date from a previous thread. Wanted to tell you I am thinking of you and you are a fabulous person. I'm glad to hear it is going well. Best of luck for the next wee while.

onepieceoflollipop · 28/07/2008 21:37

Flower have read this thread with very mixed emotions - mainly in tears along with many others. You are fab, I don't have the words to say it any more clearly.

I am a bit of a lurker on the Fostering Topic, I am at the moment "dipping my toes" into the idea of it.

You are an inspiration, you truly are. All that unselfish love and the start you have given to some of these little ones.

Hope this week goes smoothly for you and the lo.

lucyellensmum · 28/07/2008 22:23

I have goosebumps - what an amazing woman. Heavens, i can't imagine how you must be feeling - thank God there are women like you who are so selfless that they can do this for children. Bless your heart xxx

ladytophamhatt · 29/07/2008 17:24

How has today been Flower?

HumphreySmallPillow · 29/07/2008 17:27

I hope today has gone well.
You are fab.

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Flower3554 · 29/07/2008 18:54

Hi all new mummy has just left, it's been a very, very long day!

She was supposed to arrive at lunchtime today, she arrived at 10am. I'm knackered, to put it politely

The day has gone well though. Lo is still, obviously, looking to me for the ok that its fine to sit on her knee and play with her.

She does tend to panic if he cries so it has been a day of re-assuring both of them.

She has helped him with his lunch and tea, he can usually manage mostly on his own but she seemed to want to feed him, I'll encourage her to let him feed himself whenever possible tomorrow. She wanted to bathe him tonight so I filled the bath, got towels pj's etc ready for her and she managed very well but he was adamant she couldn't get him ready for bed, he screamed blue murder so I took over as she was becoming upset.

It's still very early days yet and I've spent the last half hour going over the day with her and giving her more reassurance that she's doing fine.

I'm giving myself a small stiff drink now before I go and deal with the swamp land that used to be my bathroom.

LO is out for the count New mum is supposed to arrive tomorrow in time for him waking up, god help me she'll likely be here at 5am

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lazaroulovesleggings · 29/07/2008 18:57

Flippin heck Flower, you do need a drink
It must be so stressful, I just can't imagine.
How many of these visits does she have before she takes him home?

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Flower3554 · 29/07/2008 19:12

Until he leaves [sob] next Wednesday, every day except friday, whoopee, I get a day off

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