@Umbrellaisback its all manic, addictive behaviour, wrapped up in a different bow. maybe, @Perfectlystill, this shapeshifting is rooted in her desperation to get her parents to see her. To hear her. Yo validate her. Still.
Occasionally, we get a glimpse of the vulnerable little girl who could never emotionally grow up because she wasn’t nurtured. This is the parenting role. To nurture a helpless baby through the stages of holistic growth to a confident adult, ready and able to take in the highs snd the lows.
She’s written about the loneliness of her childhood. Maybe this was subconsciously why she studied psychology.
If she actually is honest and works WITH professionals to explore the root causes of her life issues I would genuinely follow her, read the discoveries, ONLY if presented by experts on the subjects. She’s not unique.
We are a generation of damaged adults. Our mothers pioneered feminism to a new level. It’s possible while marching and working for equality, a little of the mothering nurture we all need was forgotten?
I was a latchkey kid. I still ‘feel’ getting home from school to an empty house. Yet, I’ve pursued a career and am very conscious that often I’m not present for my children even when present. I’m knackered from trying and not succeeding to be who and what I want to be and giving all I need to to the children I chose to have.
From the outside, I’m sure people envy my life. I have the ‘glamorous media career’ Liz purports to have. From the inside, it’s not glamorous. It’s long hours and often toxic. I just want to sit down with friends and while away the day drinking coffee and talking.
But this isn’t what our mothers raised us to do. What we worked to get into uni to do. Did piano grades to increase our offer chances to do. We’re supposed to be “better” than this.
Better being generations of emotionally immature and broken adults raising future generations of the same? 🤷♀️
Liz is perpetuating this nonsense by presenting it as easy to do. We’re the losers because we can’t run a marathon without training. We can’t hop on a plain without planning. We can’t get two kids through Oxford effortlessly; raise successful, well balanced, mentally strong adults despite abandoning them to pursue other women’s husbands.
I read her books and columns and before i finally saw through it all, she made me feel I was doing life all wrong.
There is always a root cause. I’ve worked hard to understand mine and work my way through to a quieter mind.
She still needs to do this. There are reasons why she left stable Harry. Harry who is the same age as her brother, for the older man who she left for the younger man. Neither of these men were good bets. Both wearing their own mental health challenges on their sleeves.
She can’t see what we can see. What legions of followers lost have seen. What I assume her adult children can see and why they keep a psychologically safe distance from her. Nurtured and protected by Harry and HIS family. If you know, you know.