I've really tried to engage in the fwr board but it's so hostile.
I really wanted to explore more but I just feel attacked whenever I speak my truth.
I don't know what came of the Caroline what's her name thread because I hid it . I really wanted to try and understand what was happening there and try to offer insight and engage from the perspective of a woman in the police .
But I just can't get through the "your all bastards , Wayne cousins, watching me , agenda , trans rights , you're all bastards cos some forces are talking bollocks stuff .
I agree with most of everything but when I'm trying to engage and proffer my support all I get is you behaved badly because you said police should patrol at nigth and have the audacity to LOOK at a woman out at night . The. WC gets brought up like the majority of the police force men and women are some physical threat - when he was the absolute definition of exception not the rule.
I get insulted time and time again and I still tried . It's just turned me off the whole topic because no one will actually talk rationally with me .
And if I ask why all I will get is sulky replied about how police are all shit with some anti feminist agenda when I work in a drive that has never ever had that agenda - no stonewall training , no lanyards with rainbows or cars with stickers - yet when I say this is not my experience while respecting it may be yours - I get told I must be a man .
Last night I posted in a thread and asked what is the issue with police patrolling at night and looking at people who are out ?
Result : your behaved badly . You said it wasn't an issue . You said that's what police are meant to do . (It is actually! Police patrol at night because that's when most crime happens like burglary and car crime )
The reason I'm posting before anyone says something really witty like do t let the door hit your arse on the way out
Is because I wanted to engage and be included in chats that involve women . No
Matter what their job is . I have no trans agenda - I have always said and always believed you are born with either an x or a Y chromosome and that determines your skeletal frame , and your sex . And that cannot be changed.
I'm horrified by the tales here of thought police and wrong think .
I'm in that job and I could actually raise this . The more I learned the more ridiculous it seemed . But I can't even talk about it without jibes or civility.
The fwr board is really really hostile . As a woman I feel unwelcome to even discuss anything .
This will cause more offence and a round of fuck offs. But I really wanted to learn what the issues were around fwr and policing . Its like an exclusive club that no one can gain entry to unless you absolutely comply with the narrative- and I don't even know what it is !
I really wanted to try and understand and learn and possibly - possibly try to raise some of the issues from within .
Anyway - please please don't pile on - this is constructive criticism.
And I won't engage . I've hidden the fwr board now because I don't feel I can be included or add anything of value .
Please don't prove me right by being vindictive or abusive .
I just wanted to learn , help , engage.
I really wish you luck in what ever you hope to achieve .
Feminism: chat
I've tried .
stillvicarinatutu · 06/10/2022 00:11
SuperLoudPoppingAction · 07/10/2022 01:46
I work with police constables on the degree apprenticeship. It's been interesting and has given me a different perspective on how hard it can be for police.
I've also seen some brilliant essays from a very well-informed feminist perspective by some of them.
I would agree that most are pretty decent sorts.
My area isn't really going in for the trans-agenda-above-all-else stuff either, thankfully.
When I worked in Scotland, police worked hand in hand with rape crisis and women's aid and helped to ensure some really vulnerable women got support.
I think it's easy to dismiss a whole group of people, but it usually isn't very helpful.
I'm glad I get to have a bit of input into training and that I get a bit of an insight in return.
WalkthisWayUK · 07/10/2022 01:37
I can roll in breadcrumbs and identify as a fishfinger but it doesn't alter what I was born as ha ha made me laugh
PinkPrettyAndPointed · 07/10/2022 02:25
I recognise your name, have been on here myself over 10 years.
But you are defensive, you are used to be listened to, having some authority, because you're the police. Why should anyone care that you're trying to engage? I mean that in the nicest way.
If we all started threads like this when our opinions were ridiculed, or ignored, on here MN would be a boring place to be!
For now you should read the posts, understand where others are coming from.
Don't try to change OUR opinions of the police. Try to change YOUR opinions on Jane Public. You don't get to cruise past a woman, multiple times, late at night because 'you're doing your job'.
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