Now, I am not defending Amber here. It sounds like she was abusive towards Johnny, but it also seems that he was abusive too. I think this is one of those rare cases where they're both as bad as each other.
However, as a feminist, I am concerned about the narrative people are pushing with this case. Despite the evidence, Amber seems to be getting a far harder time. There's also lots of "See! Women are just as abusive as men!" rhetoric swimming around.
Men who admit to abuse aren't treated half as bad as Amber is being right now. It's like the people watching want her to be as abusive as possible.
Feminism: chat
The Amber Heard / Johnny Depp Case
TheFeministShrug · 25/04/2022 16:11
Enough4me · 25/04/2022 23:08
I agree he is obsessed with destroying her and appears to have a large fan base who agree and see no wrong in his poor behaviour. Her behaviour included abusive words and potential actions, but she appears to be moving on while he wants to continue arguing.
TheFeministShrug · 25/04/2022 16:11
Now, I am not defending Amber here. It sounds like she was abusive towards Johnny, but it also seems that he was abusive too. I think this is one of those rare cases where they're both as bad as each other.
However, as a feminist, I am concerned about the narrative people are pushing with this case. Despite the evidence, Amber seems to be getting a far harder time. There's also lots of "See! Women are just as abusive as men!" rhetoric swimming around.
Men who admit to abuse aren't treated half as bad as Amber is being right now. It's like the people watching want her to be as abusive as possible.
avamiah · 26/04/2022 04:59
Let’s be honest here , Amber Heard does not come across very likeable at all, but does that mean she is a Abusive violent woman?
RoseslnTheHospital · 26/04/2022 13:42
She was arrested once, and the charge eventually dropped. That's not a history of violence against multiple partners. This is what Tasya Van Ree said later about the incident - "In 2009, Amber was wrongfully accused for an incident that was misinterpreted and over-sensationalised by two individuals in a powerful position. I [recall] hints of misogynistic attitudes toward us which later appeared to be homophobic when they found out we were domestic partners and not just 'friends.'"
People seem determined to take things that are accusations, and treat them as proven facts. Heard is not a nice person, she is undoubtedly unpleasant and has clearly been violent to Depp. But the court cases are about whether Depp was abusive to her (too) or not, it's about Depp's behaviour only. Because he is the one who is trying to show that he has not been abusive, in order to win damages due to defamation.
AdriftAbroad1 · 25/04/2022 23:41
Agree with this, 100%
Itsnottheendoftheworldisit · 25/04/2022 23:37
I find it difficult to see any good in amber. She is like my abusive ex. He would treat me like shit then record me when I eventually cracked and lost it. Made me look like I was the abuser.
Enough4me · 26/04/2022 14:07
Even those saying that Amber is an unpleasant person cannot take away the fact he was found guilty of abuse and he's the one dragging her to court again. He's the one who wants to destroy her, she has moved on but he wants to continue the drama.
The money would be much better spent on charity rather than wasted on lawyers going through the same conversations.
Legrandsophie · 27/04/2022 08:04
He doesn’t keep dragging her back to court. The Virginia trial was already in the offing when the U.K. trial (which was JD vs. the Sun libel case) went ahead. The US system is just slower. The Virginia case is the only one he has brought against her.
And if you read the U.K. trial transcript you’ll find that her initial claim was for three incidents for which she had no evidence. It expanded to 14 only for the U.K. trial. She was told by a US divorce attorney that what she had did not added up to domestic abuse so she’s manufactured evidence (ie- stealing someone else’s rape story).
50ShadesOfCatholic · 25/04/2022 22:29
I don’t think it is at all rare for couples to be “as bad as each other” but I do think that is beside the point.
Depo is the aggressor in that he is continuing to abuse Heard by attempting to manipulate the legal system.
He is obsessed with destroying her.
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