What sexist event happened to you this week? Big or small..

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I went to a group golf lesson for the first time the other week and as there were not enough bays, all the women were told to share and the men had a bay to themselves...for an hour..and I was the only one who noticed and said anything!!!

Response from male instructor.... an hour is a long time the women might get tired 😡. Shall I name and shame?

Would be interesting to hear if I am the only one who sees these things now, when I never did in my youth?

I've thought of another one that was a few months ago.

Dh and I both had to attend a meeting at 3 in the afternoon. When it was finished the male who we were meeting with looked at me and said you can go home and put your feet up now before getting on with things, looked at dh and said I suppose you're off back to work. We both looked at him and said you've got that the wrong way round, I'm going back to work and he's going home to put the washing on, prep dinner, run the vacuum around, blah blah. His face was a picture.

On a course last week as the only female in a group of men. Guess who got asked to make the instructors a cup of tea in at break time? At the time I brushed it off as maybe coincidence, but it wasn't was it?
Similar happened to me on a course pre covid so about 2 years ago.
I just said ' no sorry'
I could feel a bit of tension and knew that some of them felt awkward but I didn't give shit and brazened it out.
Someone eventually jumped in and offered to do it!

[quote CBUK2K]@DefineHappy Not trolling, I just like to point out the
hypocrisy here.[/quote]
What hypocrisy?

Listening to Woman's Hour this morning and being amazed at the number of women who gushed over how wonderful their husbands were because they 'helped' with the housework or childcare. and the one woman who was clearly not impressed that her son chose to go out food shopping after work and then cook an evening meal while her daughter in law had been at home all day with their baby.

Don’t feed the sea lions.

[quote CBUK2K]@SpinsForGin A post about sexism where the vast majority of the posts are people leaping to conclusions assuming all men are sexist?[/quote]
You must be reading a different thread to me if that's what you've taken from this thread.....

Giving specific examples of sexism is not assuming all men are sexist. If you'd bothered to actually read the thread you would have noticed that a number of these examples involved women.

Out for drinks earlier this week with my husband. Every time the waiter bought the drinks, I got the margarita and my husband the pint. Then we'd swap over, and he'd be confused again the next time. Bill was given to my husband, I took it and paid, card and receipt was given back to my husband. Its just constant and ridiculous!

Nothing yet but MILis visiting later with her lates squeeze, who is always good for misogyny so I am sure there will be plenty

@Anycolourwilldo

I've got completely sidelined at work. I've returned after maternity leave and my cover is staying for an additional year, doing my job. I'm now kicking my heals I guess until I get made redundant or choose to leave. It's miserable. I thought I was good at my job but this has knocked the confidence from me. Men don't experience this.

Happened to me working at a well known charity. I saw the writing on the wall and was there for only another 6 weeks including my notice after my return to work. I was snapped up by another organisation. Polish your cv and leave the fuckers to it.

My child free maternity cover was made redundant a year later.

[quote CBUK2K]@trancepants How so? I thought we were all about equality? Why do we need different records based on sex?[/quote]
Because women can't run as fast so all the records would be held by men?

I parallel parked my car. Whilst getting the baby out a man came over and congratulated me on getting into the spot. Told me "even I would have found that tricky". Not sure what made his parking skills superior to mine, maybe he uses his knob to turn the steering wheel?!

Boyfriend took me to the garage to collect my new car. Salesman went to handover the keys and asked who wanted the basic key and who would have the remote key. I answered with “it’s my car and I’ll have both keys thank you”.

This is last year but we had a landscaping company come to do a quote for clearing our front garden of old shrubs and tree stumps. DH was at work so I spoke to him. He said do you want to pay extra to have the tree stump ground down, I said yes. He said was there something at the back you needed me to quote on, I said no, just the front. He then insisted on ringing my DH to make sure whilst stood in front of me. My DH told the exact same thing but clearly he just couldn’t take the woman’s word for it. I made sure we used a different company!

[quote CBUK2K]@RumHoney Shouldn't it just be one course record? Seems kind of sexist to assume it should be gendered.[/quote]
it's not gendered.

it sex separated.

They are two different things.

Male athletes have a HUGE advantage of female competitors due to their larger and stronger muscle mass, testosterone levels, larger lungs etc etc.

[quote CBUK2K]@trancepants How so? I thought we were all about equality? Why do we need different records based on sex?[/quote]
Equality. Not denial of material facts about biology. But keep going. The obtuseness on display is having the exact opposite effect to that which you intend.

[quote CBUK2K]@trancepants How so? I thought we were all about equality? Why do we need different records based on sex?[/quote]
Because it isn't equal is it?

That's like saying "why do we need a separate records for disabled athletes?" Because, oddly enough, the person with one arm cannot swim as fast as a person with two arms...

But they might be the fastest one armed swimmer in the world...

And in fact, why do we need to have a different record for junior competitors...after all, we're all about equality. So if a 12 yo girls wants to compete in 100m front crawl, they'll have to go against a 24yo man.

🙄

I was told I'm not old enough to wear Sea Salt. Tounge in cheek, a bit, but honestly why do women do this to each other?

[quote CBUK2K]@trancepants How so? I thought we were all about equality? Why do we need different records based on sex?[/quote]
Are you exceptionally dim? I would hate to assume that many men are like you.

1). Out walking the dog in my local (fairly touristy) area. A group of female tourists approached me asking for directions to somewhere. I gave detailed instructions, answered some other questions about the local area and they thanked me. There was one man with them, who had been silent whilst the women spoke to me. As I left he pointed in the opposite direction to the place they wanted to go to and told the women ' It's this way, I've looked on my phone'. The women did go the way I suggested but the man was adamant that they were wrong. I mean, surely a woman who clearly knows the area well is not as reliable a source of directions as a bloke with a phone?

2. At a meeting for a local community organisation. Agenda circulated beforehand and people were given a chance to ask for items to be added. A few procedural items were dealt with and then the main item was looking at a community event that a group of women were planning. 2 men took over the entire meeting (and more) talking about an issue that really only effected them personally. On several occasions the women politely asked to move on to the agenda items and they were ignored.

On local social media website women posting with username attached to their husband's. E.g. margaretandpeterjones...

Really irritates me. Why can't they post under their own name (or a pseudonym. Why is it necessary to do this?

[quote Catabogus]@CBUK2K why have you come on to a thread of women sharing experiences just to tell them all that their experiences are wrong? I think that says more about you, really.[/quote]
It’s just what they do.
It seems to be their main hobby

Not against me personally...

But a discussion on Lego group on how to make it less gendered. Biggest assumption is it means making Lego Friends less 'Pink' and girly. Because of course, boys can't play with something from a pink box...