What sexist event happened to you this week? Big or small..

[Quarks69]

I went to a group golf lesson for the first time the other week and as there were not enough bays, all the women were told to share and the men had a bay to themselves...for an hour..and I was the only one who noticed and said anything!!!

Response from male instructor.... an hour is a long time the women might get tired 😡. Shall I name and shame?

Would be interesting to hear if I am the only one who sees these things now, when I never did in my youth?

[Cismyfatarse]

In a rather nice shop stopped to watch one of those advertising screens which showed an advert for a pan scourer.

The hands which were scrubbing were all women's hands but the bossy voice over was male.

We should scrub while men tell us how to do it.

[CuckooCuckooClock]

I tried to start a feminist club at the school I work in and it has been omitted from the list of extracurricular clubs that has been sent out. Not a mistake. Management hate women. Trying to decide whether to fight them on this or just accept defeat.

[FFSFFSFFS]

Looked at the tending topic on Twitter of favourite comedians - there’s I think maybe 1500 comments? 99.9999999% male comedians mentioned.

[CuckooCuckooClock]

Love it virtuallife totally deserved it

[MorrisZapp]

It's me. I'm the sexist person.

I was reading a column in the Times, a guy was criticising anti vaxers. At the end of a long, dense paragraph he concluded 'when a scientist with decades of experience says it's safe I tend to believe her'.

I actually scanned back to see which female scientist he meant, before realising that he just meant a generic scientist and had gone for 'her' rather than 'him'.

Blimey. Lifelong feminist here and my own brain defaulted to 'him' for a scientist.

[JamieFrasersBigSwingingKilt]

I was walking to public transport from the office last week and a chap said to me, "You look friendly, could you tell me where X is?". I really wanted to reply, "You look patronising. No." but only thought of the reply 5 minutes after I'd told him how to get to X. So bloody undermining.

[FFSFFSFFS]

Oh thank goodness - a man has arrived to explain what sexism is. Spoiler alert: apparently it’s not prejudice against women on the basis of their sex.

[ANameChangeAgain]

@Somuddled
Interested to understand this one a bit more. I would probably say something like this, I congratulate and praise people constantly. Mind expanding on why you don't like such comments?
It isn't that compliments aren't appreciated, not at all. I've been approached in the past once or twice by other women asking for business advice, woman to woman, and I'm happy to help. When people compliment me or the service etc again it's appreciated. Its the "gosh you own this, not your husband" undertone that are a bit .

[DefineHappy]

“Lots of people have said this to me and I'm male, whys it sexist?“

• You didn’t have to announce it, we knew.

[DefineHappy]

[quote CBUK2K]@RumHoney Shouldn't it just be one course record? Seems kind of sexist to assume it should be gendered.[/quote]
It isn’t “gendered”, it is separated by sex. Due to - you know - biological differences between the 2 sexes……

[Catabogus]

@CBUK2K why have you come on to a thread of women sharing experiences just to tell them all that their experiences are wrong? I think that says more about you, really.

[MrsWooster]

I’m not sure that CBUK2K is trolling us…. I think we should keep the focus on the op, not the sea lion 🦭

[Callcat]

I was in a queue in a local supermarket, and my male friend joined the queue behind me. I hadn't seen him. He started to make creepy comments 'ooo alright love' in a creepy smutty voice, genuinely to try to be funny and get my attention. Meanwhile I was staring straight ahead, tense as fuck, thinking 'oh fuck how will I deal with this creep'. Men have no idea what it's like to have to be on alert like this to physical danger. It just drove it home perfectly that this stuff is just a joke to them. And the friend is definitely a good egg in the grand scheme of things. He literally changed the direction of his entire business to be more female centered etc. Still doesn't get it.

[MrsWooster]

Not sure he ISN’T trolling us!! 🦭

[ByGrabtharsHammerWhatASavings]

Almost forgot, I've also spent most of the weekend trying to brainstorm the best way to make the 10 minutes by foot journey to my kids school in order to attend the PTA meeting that starts at 7. Do I walk 10 minutes down the cycle path that is the most direct route? Do I double the length of my journey going a different but slightly better lit way? Is that even safer? Do I get a taxi? Do I just not go? I walk this route 4 times a day in daylight but as soon as the evenings close in the reports of women being assaulted and raped on the cycle path go through the roof. I just want to walk for 10 minutes to go to a bloody PTA meeting and yet I can't even do that without risking becoming a statistic. I've also had to move my evening runs to the morning now for the same reason. I don't drive so for the next 6 months or so my journeys will be largely dictated and limited by the very real threat of male violence after dark in my area.

[Heruka]

We are travelling around my husbands home country. He is the organised one among us in general, he has planned the trip and knows our itinerary and where we are going. Yet his mother insists on texting me asking questions about when we will be where, despite being directed back to him and told many times he is the one who does this. Either she can’t accept that the woman isn’t in charge of this shit or it’s a passive aggressive communication that I should be!

[NeverTheHootenanny]

My sexist event this week came courtesy of my mother who, when I was telling her about my birth preferences (specifically that I don’t want to be induced for dates reasons only), told me to ‘just shut up and do what the doctors say’

[SpinsForGin]

Two examples.....

I recently recruited a new member of staff and in our initial meeting I was explaining the changes I'd implemented since taking over and the plans I have going forward. New recruit told me how amazing it was that I'd achieved so much while I had a young child.
Checked with my husband..... nobody has ever congratulated him for managing to develop his career while raising a child.

The second happens all the time but happened twice last week. People always assume my older male colleague is in charge and often send emails to him and don't even bother to copy me in. I had two such emails last week. He is semi retired and works part time.

[ANameChangeAgain]

Lots of people have said this to me and I'm male, whys it sexist? I won't explain sexism to men, but I bet most aren't asking if your wife set it up and runs it behind the scenes for you, and you are just the pretty public face. When others suggest your wife is the boss you know its meant in a very different way.

[Mum2021askingquestion]

Every office I have ever worked in the women are consistently referred to as 'girls'. Men are seldom referred to as boys, and when they are it is a very obvious jokey way, as in 'how hilarious to call the board a bunch of boys `

These companies were all leaders in gender sex pay gap etc so hardly mechanic workshops.

Also recently had the taxi driver mansplained my road name to me. He didn't believe it when I told him - a much bigger road with the same name is on the other side of the city but I specified 'no its x road in bla, not the bla z one

Then he scoffed at me misdescribing a roundabout when I hadn't, then when we finally arrived he said oh it is called bla, you're right.

I told him that I had lived there for 5 years and yes I did know my own road name.

No tip for that condescending arsehole.

Hard to pinpoint exactly what it was but I've been alive enough years to know its because I was a woman. I could smell the misogyny.

[notacooldad]

Response from male instructor.... an hour is a long time the women might get tired 😡.
So what happened next.
Surely if you challenged the situation in the first place you carried on and spoke out against this ridiculous statement.

[NeverTheHootenanny]

My favourite ever was from a couple of years ago. Needed to get a taxi to work and when the driver dropped me off and saw it was an engineering business asked ‘so are you a receptionist or a secretary?’. I’m the head of a department.

[notacooldad]

My sexist comment was just over a week ago by a woman.

I said I'd lend a (male) friend some back packing gear and I would drop it off at his farm.

He lives with his mother in a really remote place and the sat nav doesn't quite take you there.
I found the place ok with his verbal instructions.
His mother was impressed and said most people find it hard to find.
She finished with 'you did well for a girl!'
Friend just buried his head in his hands and grimaced!!! 🤣