Anorgasmia - inability to orgasm

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5-10% of women have lived their whole lives without ever having experienced an orgasm.

The statistics in men with primary anorgasmia is about 0.15% so 1.5 in every thousand men will have the same issue.

I have roughly 20 good female friends, so it's possible 1 or 2 or them don't/can't ever orgasm. This is no doubt a feminist issue.

Seeing as some of the psychological causes of primary anorgasmia include bad body image, embarrassment and guilt, I'm not surprised it's more prevalent in women.

Maybe better sex education would help? FGM (basically forced inability to orgasm) affects only women, also perhaps it is possible that women are more likely to be turned off by sex from (bad) early childhood experiences.

It's rather a Taboo subject.
How many women on here can't orgasm?

I personally couldn't imagine my life without the experience, and basically had no idea it was so prevalent in women until recently.

What could feminists do to help?

I can't say that my memories of sex information in the 80s were that positive, but I do remember a shift to more openness due to the AIDS crisis. Which was a small positive from such devastation. I remember it being a more clinical openness from a sleazier era before that, but discussion of safe sex did mean non-piv sex was talked about.

Yy @NiceGerbil the girls are taught not to touch, ever, whereas at least boys have to touch in order to wee. I didn't look at my own genitals until I was 49 and considering waxing when I started taking pics to have a look. I thought they looked awful. Then I had a few partners who begged for pictures and sending them those got me used to the sight, and now I think they are my prettiest area

Yy also to the sex drive killer that is the pill. But it's still a huge advance in women's liberation and I wouldn't want to forget that.

I have a group of 7 friends (sports team) and we have discussed our orgasmic lives in close detail at some points. One of those friends has never orgasmed. At the time I'd never orgasmed with a partner - it was quite a long road to get there involving re-learning how to masturbate differently. The only one of us who looked mystified at the idea of not orgasming was the one who only has sex with women...

I can only make myself orgasm with a vibrator. I have slept with nearly 30 different males, had sex hundreds and hundreds of times, foreplay such as cunnilingus included, and I have never once had a partner enable me to orgasm.

Fascinating topic.

I was unable to orgasm for 4 years in my 30s-40s, and after that it was maybe once or twice a year at best.

To answer PP, yes, thanks would fake it because the pressure from DH who was so desperate to bring me to orgasm made me feel I was kicking a puppy to say “nope, not working.” He was great, experimental, would try anything but that somehow made it worse because I felt under such pressure to orgasm.

Improved by mid 40s, and MUCH better sex toys I’d use alone until I got the hang of what worked for me. Slump in peri menopause, but HRT fixed that.

Also, the clitoral stimulation gadgets are fricking amazing.