I thagree mostly, but I dont think meanness is required. I think she’s describing the stigma around women’s anger, and how it is often read as attacking when we express it. It took me two years of therapy to accept that I even experienced anger, and when I did I quickly realized it was the defining emotion in my life.
My whole life, I’d been conditioned to think that anger was bad, selfish, even hateful. And of course I didn’t want to be any of those things, and so I swallowed my anger until I couldn’t even recognize it. I see this in the movement when women are accused of hate and hate speech and being selfish (exclusionary). To me, when that happens they are being punished for their anger. Anger is good, healthy, and often justified. It is not hate or persecution. And we have a right to it. Calling it meanness just reinforces the stigma. I think it would be better to embrace and nourish our anger, and be fearless in expressing it.