Support thread for those with PND

[not4anotherday]

Hi there,

I thought a support thread might help me and others to get through this.

I think I have got PND again, I was diagnosed when my baby was about 5 months and took ads for a few months (I was ill and could'nt stomach them and thought I was ok without them).

Anyway it has dawned on me that it may well be back. I think a friendship (that was very special to me) ending may well have triggered it before christmas.

So, here I am just about to meet a friend (who is lovley) but I don't really feel like it and think this friendship will probably end at some point like most of them. I am worried that I will say or do something wrong. I know I need to get a grip.

Then there is the crying, unable to get off to sleep, late evening is when I feel worst.... snappy with the kids.....feel like I need to go on holiday and get away from it all (no my family).....will be but not for 5/6 weeks.

I keep worrying that DH is going to leave me - he might if I keep being so pathetic.

So, on that cheery note anyone else?

Hi Becky, I have got all girls! Up is brill. Good luck with the hynotherapy.

We've got 4 total, but the oldest 2 are out and living on their own. They are 25yo DS (plus DIL and their DS 3yo), and 23yo DD (plus her DS 4yo). Then we have our 3yo and 6 month old sons. So really just dealing on a daily basis with the two little ones (although the older ones haven't lost their knack for causing chaos sometimes as well, along with the grandkids!).

Not much sleep last night, but both boys are sleeping for the moment, so enjoying a bit of peace and quiet.

Hi Triggles,

Wow you have a lot going on. Put your feet up while you can LOL.

DH has taken my three out for a walk, peace!

Just popping by to wish you all well. Am going out tonight, am nervous and apprehensive, but a little excited too. Big smiles and happy thoughts sending your way. x

Waves to Erika Have a great night!

Christiana Welcome. I have a ear/throat bug going on as well and have stayed in bed for most the day today and feel a bit useless and guilty myself. Hey-ho, what can you do, if your ill your ill. Do you think that feeling a bit useless is part of the PND, cos I do.

Positive action for tommorrow, let Dh have a lie in and get up with the DCs!

Thanks not4

Christina - welcome! Have you tried Mind Over Mood? Its a self-use CBT book. I started CBT then had to stop because my ME was too bad, but even for the few weeks I used it found it very helpful. You can get it from £9 on amazon.

My mum forgot to bring my stick over with her when they came to pick up DS. Am now freaking out about how on earth I am going to manage without it. I struggle outside. Can manage without it inside because the floors are flat, but the slightest tilt in the pavement can knock me off balance. Have now had an argument with DP and feeling so shit I really just want to curl up. But I know if I cry it will just make it worse.

Knew this was a stupid idea.

Erika I hope you are ok - I know you are finding this outing without your DS hard. It was not a stupid idea at all, it's just so hard the first time - I remember with DS1 feeling that. I know how you feel but try to be positive. Your DS will be fine.

My HV told me that PND is more common to those who have boy babies. It seems we all have a mixture so not sure about that. Also more common if you've had depression before.

My PND is very mild I think: or 'borderline' as the doctor called it when I first went to him. But please don't worry anyone about being 'miserable' here as that is what this thread is for - it is good to have a mixture of people with different levels and types of issues.

Christiana - welcome. Looks like your two are similar ages to my two youngest. When you say you moved abroad, did you go somewhere else and come back to the UK? Or are you from somewhere else? Just curious... I know that being in a different country can be really stressful sometimes, even when you don't feel like it's actually a huge factor, simply due to a lot of little things.

Erika I hope you had agood time last night

I had a lovely time thank you Though I have a rather painful head today Think the night off really did me some good. My Dad brought my stick over just before we headed out. I even wore high heels Though did change into my converse before we left the restaurant. Not a chance I could have walked home in them. Am back with DS now - can't believe how much I missed him, but also really enjoyed having DP all to myself for a few hours.

Hope you're all okay, am going to try and sleep for a bit!

Sorry Christiana, am here now. Email me if you want - honeyfromhell @ hotmail.com Hope you're okay. x

Christiana I feel for you. Being ill constantly is awful. I was like that after DS2 was born and our house was flooded - a bad time! But you will get out of it I'm sure. Like Erika says look for positives in anything and everything and that'll help you spiral back up again.

I've had 4 hours sleep as DS3 was awake for 2 hours last night and no idea what was up and it is half term. I was dreading half term. Me and three DSs alone all day. Well today we're going to Birmingham on the train to meet DH for lunch. I must be bonkers, utterly bonkers.