|i think dh is having a nervous breakdown and I don't know what to do

[snowkitten]

he is totally stressed, regularly sobs or bursts into rages.He is totally wired. Twitches, shakes, rants, rocks in tension. he has two high profile jobs and is under enormous pressure. This is having a terrible effect on me and lo's. He rows with dd (nearly 12yo) adn it is having a dreadful effect on her well being. I am worried sick. Saturday morning he had ds and dd in tears because he swiped the contents of the breakfast talbe onto the floor, dd was pleading with him to stop (I was in teh shower) she came upstairs carrying ds (3yo) asking me to help her . Yesterdat, he was to put up Xmas tree and decs with ds and dd. i went out to get mince pies and party snacks for us to share and when I got back dd was in floods of tears because dh could not find the lights adn he erupted. it is horrendous and I am at teh end of my tether. I need your help please

snowkitten you have to call space or not. Do you not have a mobile phone? Go sit on the toilet or plonk the kids in front of a dvd and go upstairs. Stop postponing now. Please x

0808 2000 247 - new life for you and your DC could be just a phone call away. BE BRAVE and do what's best for the 3 of you.

You have friends of family who know what's going on? Can you go round to them for coffee/lunch/tea and get them to occupy the kids while you use their phone in a different room?

Good luck.

friends or family

of course.

sorted. more later

well done xx

Well done, Snowkitten!! You should be very proud of yourself. It takes courage to get out of such situation.

well done!

my exP has veered from being very agressive to being all miserable poor me etc. be careful in your dealings with him and have protection from a third party...

"sorted" just seeing that made me smile. I hope you're on your way out now.

Just keep going! You can do this!

Hi Snowkitten, have just caught up after several days away from my laptop.

WELL DONE YOU! I hope you will really change your name to SnowTigress soon ! Let us know how things go. Whatever happens, once you are out of there, things can only get better!

Hey snowkitten, fantastic news, don't back down now you have come so far!

still feels like a mountain to climbe - but thank you all

climb

Are you out with the DCs? Are you safe?

You've done so well

Good for you. Best of luck.

it's never easy to do what you've done but keep looking forward and upward.

What is happening snowkitten - are you able to say - did you call WA - have you got any plans for getting out - thinking of you.

Snowkitten - please don't stop posting even if you aren't yet "sorted" - we are all worrying about you and will support you whatever.

Snowkitten NanaNina is right - you are not 'letting us down' if you don't come back all sorted - we just want to support you whatever is going on. So please let us know how you are doing...

been visiting relatives today - not abandoning you. more later......

Hope you're ok x

Hope you're ok Snow - anxious to know how you are. x

Sounds like the emotional temperature has gone up - how are you coping?

Hmm ..........I don't think Snowkitten is sorted - I wonder if she wants us to back off as it is all too much pressure. I know so many of us are worrying about her and she may feel she is "letting us down" if she can't take any action. There is another woman in similar circumstances over on the R/Ship thread and said she would stop posting as she can't get it together to leave, but we said we would support her whatever and she has come back............so Snowkitten ...........please let us know how you are and we will support you whatever you decide to do............it just might take longer to get sorted but I think there's more chance of it happening if you continue to post and get support.

Update from snowkitten... she is fine. her dd's birthday today, had a lovely day. getting rl support. things quietened down. will update soon