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Has anybody ever actually gone to A&E because they were suicidal or just not coping?

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ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 18:36

What do they do? Do they let you go? Do they involve SS?

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alypaly · 03/08/2009 19:10

ABitWrong
do you feel depressed or is it actually suicidal. What are you not coping with?

I called my GP out years ago because stress and a feeling of not coping was giving me awful panic attacks. To the point where i ended up sat in the middle of my lounge floor, baby in a high chair, toast burning under the grill and i was completely unable to virtually make a cup of tea without shaking.I ended up cracking up and actually went to my GP and said " lease help me I think I am going mad". I really thought i was , but it as serious depression which took quite a long time to deal with. Everything seemed like a major decision..it was awful... chatting does help and having a close friend does too.

nickschick · 03/08/2009 19:10

bump

ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 19:11

I wouldhave to find an excuse to go out so I could phone.
My "ex" partner is asleep upstairs. I don;'t want him to know there is a problem or he will think I feel bad becvause I am breaking up with him
Children won't be asleep for a while yet, everything running late, I am so crap

I have mental health number

don't knowwhat to do, feelslike my head ishaving a period, squeezing, I want to curl up and cry, I hate it

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weegiemum · 03/08/2009 19:11

And as Trinity says - if you are anywhere near me, as soon as dh gets home I would come and help if I could ....

Keep talking!

weegiemum · 03/08/2009 19:13

"head having a period" is a great description ....

I have been there!

TrinityRhinoIsInDetention · 03/08/2009 19:13

tell us where you live please

keep talking to us
can you post and then start getting the kids into bed

do the littlest you need to do to get them to sleep

keep posting please

ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 19:13

I have been assessed twice, am getting some help but is on hold for the summer because I findit hard to go anywhere when children about

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makedoandmend · 03/08/2009 19:14

Where are you ABW? Please talk - there are so many on here who have been through similar things.

TrinityRhinoIsInDetention · 03/08/2009 19:15

so you have an umber to ring and they know about your problems
well thats good

now you just need to get somewhere you can ring

I meant it when I say I will help if you live anywhere near me

ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 19:15

I am in wilts

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alypaly · 03/08/2009 19:17

are you down becos u are splitting up with your partner?

BTW there is nothing wrong with crying...it lets it all out,what ever it is. Do you know whats causing u to feel like this.

ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 19:18

maybe i can go out when dcs asleep, pretend I am going to shop, but it will be late

and once I can go to bed I am a bit better, evenings are the worst

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Faigle · 03/08/2009 19:18

I live n N. London. What about you ABW?

onepieceoflollipop · 03/08/2009 19:19

Would your ex-p look after the dc while you make an excuse to pop out and phone?
Also I wonder if you could arrange some sort of childcare even for an hour or so over the summer so that you could have even one appt during the holidays?

simbaMummy · 03/08/2009 19:19

The 'head squeezing' sensation definitely sounds like a symptom of depression. I would say you were depressed and were having a panic attack compounded by the fact that you are physically trapped at home at the moment with ex and kids. Can you phone a friend and get out the house for a while. make up some 'emergency' excuse for ex or get someone to come and watch kids. You need to get out and talk. You could phone out of hours and ask for advice. So sorry you're going through this. I've been through depression too and know it's hell but it's not a permanent mental state, you WILL come out of it I promise x

ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 19:19

no I am down because he is still here and I donn't know if/when he will go and I don't have any space and I am fighting bulimia and it is so fucking hard

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TrinityRhinoIsInDetention · 03/08/2009 19:20

oh sorry nowhere near me

onepieceoflollipop · 03/08/2009 19:20

It sounds very frustrating and stressful and horrible for you atm ABitWrong.

Faigle · 03/08/2009 19:22

would a drink calm you?

Just til you can find the time to make a call or whatever?

If gokng to bed helps, can't you ask your "ex" to sort things out re:DC and go to bed?

ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 19:27

I can't ask him to get up, he will be cross. I would have to tell him why.
I don't want to ask him any favours either.

Bedtime seems so far away.

Every day it is worse.

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alypaly · 03/08/2009 19:28

ABitWrong
I felt everything was hopeless at the time, i felt as if i had failed at literally everything,mum ,partner, daughter,and i hit rock bottom. Ended up in a nearby hospital out of choice( not sectioned)as i was suffering from severe depression but because i tried to hide it from everone,like you ,iy just got worse and worse until my head was scrambled egg.
I had lots of counselling and although it was 12 months after DS1 they all said it was post natal depression. It wasnt ,it was just the final straw that broke the camels back. I learnt that it was a series of seperate things over the years that made me feel bad about myself. The first one ws being assaulted but it took from 8 years old til i was 33 to rear its ugly head.You will find a link somewhere,im sure. Counselling really helped but it has to be the right counsellor other wise it doesnt work.

ike simbaMummy says you will come thro this and there is nothing wrong with falling apart. You can be put back together again and you are not going mad...

mollyroger · 03/08/2009 19:36

sweets, going to A&E is if you actually feel suicidal. Do you?

IN know you are in crisis. When you were assessed, did they give you a crisis number?

is this the right area for you?

I know your situation is complex and you have been feeling ill for a long time. I really think you need to tell him what is happening to you.

ABitWrong · 03/08/2009 19:39

part of me does and patrt of me doesn't, don't know which is stronger,

I have a number, might see if I can use friend as alibi later, then go out and phone

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mollyroger · 03/08/2009 19:41

I have to go out in 20 mins but shall I ring you now? Or would it make things worse?

FluffyBunnyGoneBad · 03/08/2009 19:42

Don't you need to go and get something from the shop?