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can't take much more! :(

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 13:24

Some of you may have read my thread about my neighbours, I am feeling so drained and tired, DH is in deep depression and won't leave the house, I am trying to keep things as normal for the kids as possible, but they are wondering why daddy won't take them to school etc, I feel like I have been hit by a hammer, and can't do this much more, waiting for the comminutty policeofficer to phone me so I can get a letter so we can move as an emergnacy, the kids are fighting and screaming and I keep crying,

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tiffini · 14/05/2005 14:49

crying down the phone is a good thing, as they are more likely to realise the seriousness of the situation and take more notice. [[[[[[[[[[[[HUGS]]]]]]]]]]]]]

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 14:53

but are we just letting it get to us too much??? Its knowing about their past and what they were jailed for in the first place, and the threats, and the looks they give you as you walk past them and drive past, the noise and the worry about what they are capable of.... its just too much....

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FIMAC1 · 14/05/2005 15:01

SparklyMieow

So sorry to hear of your familys situation and AWFUL neighbours - I know my local MP does get involved in housing situations, would it be possible for you to contact him/her? There maybe a email address for yours on BBC website or contact their office and get an appointment for their weekly surgery. The MP getting involved may help highlight your case, esp as it is making you and dh so ill. Make sure you have a record of all events, so you can go through it with them to help your case

Don't know if this will help but hope it does

Have you spoken to the Police?

misdee · 14/05/2005 15:02

its awful whatthey were put away for b4. try not to think about it.

dd2 was asking to come to yours today, but amnot sure itsa good idea, seems like you need some time away from there, not me descending on you.

jjash · 14/05/2005 15:02

think its totally understandable to feel as you do .wish there was something else i could suggest , i really do .I know what its like to feel intimidated in this way.Dont play it down when you speak to your housing officer etc- let them see exactly how its got you and that they have responsibilities to you .

tiffini · 14/05/2005 15:04

i have never been in your situation, but i know i would be terrified too. you have very good reasons for it getting to you, we cant control our emotions.
You have enough to deal with without worrying that you are being too sensitive about it all.
Remember you are scared for yourself and your whole family, that is a heck of a lot to deal with. Concentrate on doing all you can to get a move.

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 15:08

Thanks girls, Ds is playimng upstairs atm so giving us a break. the girls are watching telly. I feel so tired, lke i haven' slept for months....

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misdee · 14/05/2005 15:10

i think you need to see the GP for AD's possibibly. i felt like that 2 weeks ago. its just too much to cope with.

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 15:11

my skin has come up in spots too, Dh has a shave today coz he looked in the mirror and didn't like the beard he had grown over the last few days, hehe

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FIMAC1 · 14/05/2005 15:16

SparklyMieow

If this is your MP (Welwyn Hatfield?) there is no telephone number for him!

Maybe there is a telephone number for the Local Con Party somewhere in your phone book.... It does give his email though - I would copy him a link to your threads on here and see what he can do - you really need to move asap....

c&p:

Thank you for taking the time to visit our site. Your views are important, and the Conservative Party is listening. To contact Grant Shapps MP fill in the form below. Alternatively you can write to Welwyn Hatfield Conservatives , Maynard House , The Common , Hatfield , AL10 0NF or email [email protected].

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 15:18

Grant Snapps is our new MP, what can he do?

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misdee · 14/05/2005 15:20

bug the council.

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 15:21

the council have said that we can't stay in this area, because of the neighbours and because of Danny,

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 15:24

they also said that ebcause it was one incident, they can't really help unless we have the police backing. I think they think it was a disagreement between us and it will all blow over, what they don't seem to realise is that its making a huge impact on our health, relationship and freedom/

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 15:45

ssssssssooooooooooo tired......... just want to wake up tomorrow feeling fine...

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tiffini · 14/05/2005 15:53

can you try and get your head down now for a while,it is sometimes easier to sleep in the day.

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 16:02

been asleep this morning, jsut feel drained still

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hub2dee · 14/05/2005 16:07

I knew Grant when we were 15. Went to the same youth group. I don't really remember him very well, and doubt he does me, but I can drop him an e-mail. sparkly... can you CAT me your name / address / contact details, a very short summary of the situation / logged incidents etc. and I will write to him this weekend. You can then subsequently write / call him on Monday maybe, and he will at least have a familiarity with your case.

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 16:12

just worried that if I take it to the MP, or further with the council they will tell the neighbours

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 16:17

look what i fouund on the council site

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hub2dee · 14/05/2005 16:27

Sparkly, I don't know the ins and outs of how your situation would be handled. I am sure they have experience of violent / foul neighbours causing misery and appreciate it is not always feasible to knock on these people's door and have a polite chat and a cup of tea.

You could always contact the MP / whoever and request that they do not contact the neighbour directly because you fear for your safety, and these people would then liaise with other service / emergency assistance providers rather than asking apeman for his opinion.

Anyway, the offer is there if I can be of help, or you can, of course, choose to simply write / call him direct.

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 16:32

thanks, going to do the kids tea now

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FIMAC1 · 14/05/2005 17:13

SparkyMieow

This is what your MP is for! He will be able to contact the Council and Housing Ass for you and push your case and try and resolve the situation. The local Cons should be able to get you a telephone number for him, book into his weekly surgery and explain the situation - each MP has a surgery in which you can air any case that directly affects you that is not being resolved.

His email is [email protected] but don't know how often this will be checked?

Also do not fear about contacting the neighbours etc, it will all be done in confidence and you can explain about you not wanting them contacted (and why) when you speak - the fact you are so fearful of them can only help your case

Please contact him, this is the sort of thing he has been elected for!

FIMAC1 · 14/05/2005 17:15

SparklyMeiow

Also, why don't you contact:

Welwyn Hatfield Council administers the work of the Community Safety Partnership and can be contacted on 01707 357193 or by emailing [email protected]

c&p from your link?

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 17:54

are this weekly surgery things in front of lots of people? Or can you speak to the MP privately??? Been looking online for all sorts of info. relating to this, and have found out a lot (mainly thank to MNetters) especially glad taht someone put up a link to the goverment guidelines to Homeless and violent, as I wouldn't have phoned the homeless dept.

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