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can't take much more! :(

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sparklymieow · 14/05/2005 13:24

Some of you may have read my thread about my neighbours, I am feeling so drained and tired, DH is in deep depression and won't leave the house, I am trying to keep things as normal for the kids as possible, but they are wondering why daddy won't take them to school etc, I feel like I have been hit by a hammer, and can't do this much more, waiting for the comminutty policeofficer to phone me so I can get a letter so we can move as an emergnacy, the kids are fighting and screaming and I keep crying,

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hub2dee · 16/05/2005 23:35

You go bulldozer babe !

Is dh a tad better ? Are you both 'in synch' with the desirability of a move ?

Hope tomorrow will bring further helpful phone calls. Rest assured everyone except apeman's mates hate people like apeman. EVERYONE will be on your side.

almostanangel · 17/05/2005 12:51

hun ? have you got relitives in other parts of the country? call the housing assosiations in the areas they are in a nd sa i need to be closer to ,,auntie mabel.whoever because ..blah blah..just an idea

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 12:56

we have got SIL up north, but because I have just sorted out respite, assessment for statement for DD1 we really don't have to move up there unless nothing come up here.

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almostanangel · 17/05/2005 13:35

but at least you could sleep at night and rest in the daytime your nerves must be frazzled sweetie[hugs]

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 14:40

I have to go and pick the kids up soon, feel sick and nervy.......

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almostanangel · 17/05/2005 15:46

you back?? you ok??

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 15:50

my cousin came with me. They aren't even in and I feel nervous. Just spoke to the council again and he went through the rules of housing with me, and said that the parents are reponiable (sp??) for their sons and any guests they have in, so because of all this they would risk eviction, even tho. they are unaware of their son's behavour.

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almostanangel · 17/05/2005 15:54

well thats really helpful ,not!! its not going to make you feel better is it ?if the parents are anything like them they are prob just as bad [sorry i havent read all your thread on this but i can feel your stress] hugs

almostanangel · 17/05/2005 15:55

how is dh?

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 15:56

the parents are lovely people, feel so sorry for them having wankers like that as sons. Never had a problem with them before they came out of prison, if music was too loud etc, I would just knock on the door and the parents would make the youngest turn it down, no abuse, nothing!! The are scared of their two older sons and they know theiy are arseholes (the dad told me that himself)

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 15:57

nervous, still hasn't gone out, he did put the bins out yesterday though.

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almostanangel · 17/05/2005 16:02

oh poor dh! where are the parents then

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 16:03

they work during the day, and the dad has about 3 jobs so he is hardly ever there

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almostanangel · 17/05/2005 16:06

so is it just days they are bad then?

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 16:10

they played their music quite loud last night, at about 9pm. I know they are trying to bait us to go round and complain and then they have another reason to start on us. I phoned the council t see what I should do, and he said log it.

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 16:30

BTW the Bolton thing, is something we are seriously considering tho. just to get a fresh start and because we would know noone (except SIL) we can choose who we talk to..

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almostanangel · 17/05/2005 17:29

i know its not fair you moving as its them[do they realise the effect on you] but it would be but new start .and as you can say you can choose who you talk to..

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 17:32

I don't think the reaise the effect it is having. I just want to live in my street with no hassle, I don't know everyone in the street and I have been her 5 years now, but that because I keep myself to myself, and we tend to keep quiet, my other neighbour said that our telly was too loud the other week and it disturbed his kids, I was so and was saying sorry so much.

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 17:50

aarrrrrrrrrrgggggghhhhhhhhhh!!!!!!! had enough!!!!!!!!

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jjash · 17/05/2005 17:58

oh no whats up?

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 17:59

just feel so fed up with it all, Dh keeps saying it will be fine when we move, but what if we can't move?? The council have said that they won't move us on one incident, only if the police say its a good idea.

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jjash · 17/05/2005 18:01

awww hun you must feel so frustarted .Im sorry i cant be more help .Who actually has the tenancy in their name next door, do you know?

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sparklymieow · 17/05/2005 18:01

the parents

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jjash · 17/05/2005 18:05

are their sons adults i take it ? why cant council send them letter - or do you not want to go down that route? Surely even just a standard letter on anti social behaviour policy to start with .

jjash · 17/05/2005 18:06

god im so annoyed for you .Its just what i went through . onyour behalf