Suicide - why do people it it?

[BoundaryGirl3939]

I got word yesterday that an incredibly competent, popular and capable women in her early 50s committed suicide. I'm shocked. She had it all. A devoted husband and two beautiful grown up children.

Her poor mental was blamed on her menopause but apparently her mental health deteriorated a good few years before the change.

I got to know her about 11 years ago(lived with her very briefly) but hadn't seen or heard from her since bar her profile on social media.

I just don't know what can make someone throw it all away. She literally had it all, and she was still young.

If I was to compare myself to her, I would not measure up to the level of drive and success she had. In a material sense, I've got very little. How could she throw it all away? Was it a moment of delusion or did she really know what she was doing?

IThinkIamAnAlien but killing yourself does not just mean wiping yourself out. It's a particularly violent act in that it can annihilate others by that action - if not literally, then psychologically and for the rest of their lives. The families of those who kill themselves are blighted forever.

Suicidal people who survive their attempts so very often speak of their gratitude that they were supported and didn't succeed. Suicidal feelings are not permanent, they can be reversed, and the 'pathway' to killing yourself is not inevitable, you can step back. I think it's incredibly bleak to say that people going through a particularly terrible, yet non-permanent mental health episode ought to be allowed to just get on with it!

I've actually at the age of 57 come to the view that it doesn't matter if you live or die. If someone doesn't want to be here it's no big deal, only to their loved ones, obviously. I think the 21st century is incredibly shit and in many ways counterfeit and immensely damaging to the human spirit. The powers-that-be view us as caged animals fit only for wage slavery. Any human tragedy is irrelevant to them apart from the cost to the economy. That's assuming that they are not enjoying seeing people suffer , which I'm not 100% convinced about. I can only handle life if I shut myself away from everything - which is not as easy as some may think. I find myself wishing I could develop dementia so I can piss off to Dignitas and get this shit over with. I've suffered immensely in my life and I need a miracle to turn this around , maybe even ECT. I don't want to end up on some f***g railway line (like someone I knew well in 2011)

Sadly, I agree

This has resonated with me tremendously. Thank you for your honesty and candour. This has made my day in a way you can only begin to imagine. I feel exactly as you do.

@PinkFloydFan67Has any of your suffering in your life that you mentioned come from bereavement?

A little. But it's just been one thing on top of many other things.

Those that have never been in such a dark place to know what its like are lucky. I just wanted the pain to end, just felt like a worthless sack of shit and couldn't see a way out. Luckily I never acted on it but it scares me looking back to know I could've easily done it. The pain is unimaginable and hard to explain unless you've been there. There's no mental torture and sadness like it

or you could have said “op just so you’re aware to use the term commit is fairly outdated and to some is quite offensive, more accepted term is death by suicide”

so many OPs get a hard time for using a term they had no idea was offensive. Easy to just explain, without criticising

Commit suicide is a term that’s commonly used and usually not intended to be pejorative or judgemental.

Don’t discount hormones. I was at my worst during perimenopause. Suicidal.