AIBU to think there is nothing else I can do to get my child back?

[Helpmepleasevictim]

My ex has accused me of physical abuse towards him and I was arrested for it. I am currently on bail for another 5 weeks and then have to attend a police interview. I gave a no comment interview when I was arrested as advised by my solicitor as my ex will use what I said against me. I have never laid a finger on him but he has beat me up several times.

I haven’t seen my children since before Christmas and he is a neglectful father. The school won’t let me pick my children up even though I am allowed to see them, they said their dad has told them I am unsafe and the school said it’s a safeguarding issue.

Social services aren’t interested either as I haven’t done anything wrong.

AIBU to think there is nothing else I can do but wait for the courts to allow me contact with my children?

I am desperate and very much worried about what they have been told and why they think they haven’t seen me.

I am not allowed to contact my ex as per my bail conditions.

Pre-charge bail is when you have been arrested, interviewed by police, and released but not charged with any criminal offence yet. The police have not ruled you out as a suspect, but they don’t have enough evidence to charge you.

When you’re on pre-charge bail, you may have to follow certain bail conditions.

Pre-charge bail differs from post-charge bail. With pre-charge bail, you’re waiting to hear if you will even be charged for an offence. With post-charge bail, you are waiting for your court trial or hearing.

You think they have dna evidence?

I have no idea! The OP also seems to have no idea. People are talking about her being charged which seemingly she hasn't, but doesn't seem aware that she hasn't or at least didn't correct anyone. I have absolutely no idea what stage the investigation is at or what evidence they may have. If she had been charged then there MUST be some evidence (not necessarily DNA) but honestly who knows.

No the op is certain that she has not physically assaulted her abusive ex - you however are effectively saying the op is guilty based on fuck all.

Try reading my posts again, I never said anything of the sort

I have not been charged! Only interviewed!

Then you wouldn’t be on bail. You can only have bail conditions if you have been charged with something. At the very least being on bail without charge would mean you are still under investigation. Something isn’t right here.

This is wrong. Police bail is set when a person is only under investigation. Are you confused about what charging means?

www.lawtonslaw.co.uk/legal-processes/being-on-bail-without-being-charged-what-does-it-mean/#:~:text=This%20status%20means%20that%20while,conditions%20while%20the%20investigation%20continues.

Then why is OP saying the police have no concerns? If she has bail conditions then she is still under investigation.

I'm not sure. Clearly if she's under investigation they do have concerns. Maybe she means they have no evidence as far as she is aware.

As far as I am aware? I haven’t done anything! There can’t be any evidence for something I have not done. I don’t even have a frying pan so how can I hit someone over the head with one?

I know something isn’t right! I haven’t seen my children for months. This is not fair on them. They hate their dad and must be really upset. I am the one who takes care of them and nurtures them. They are innocent children suffering because a man in power can lie to get back at me.

I'm not saying you're lying. I have no clue what's true. You know the truth, there's not really any point trying to convince strangers on the internet though.

Have you heard back from your MP yet @Helpmepleasevictim? I would chase them for a response, I would really hope they might be able to help. What an awful situation for you, I can feel your frustration in your posts. I hope someone with some influence takes notice soon, and gets everything straightened out for you. It sounds like what's happened to you could happen to anyone with a powerful and abusive ex partner, it's a continuation of the abuse and I sincerely hope that someone from SS or the Police will be able to see the bigger picture soon.

Attended court this afternoon. The judge was not polite to my ex at all. He said there is no legal reason to not let me see the children. [name redacted] claims that the children do not want to see me. Now the children have to speak to a councillor or someone. I have asked if I can at least see my children supervised. [name redacted] said no but the judge said it wasn’t his decision! Have more waiting to do now but things are looking far better.

That sounds really promising, I'm SO pleased for you! It must have felt really gratifying to have the Judge tell him he was wrong, I bet he hated it! I hope things move quickly and you are reunited with your children very, very soon.