No Taylor Swift tickets pushed me over the edge tonight

[SadUselessMum]

I know this is 1st world problems but I’m feeling so sad tonight. I’m just sat here sobbing. My DD has saved up £200 from all the birthday/xmas money to try and get a TS ticket and I’ve been saving a bit every week so we would have enough for 2. We didn’t get any with our code (as it wouldn’t work) and I stupidly thought that £400 would be enough to get 2 tickets even if they were really rubbish seats.

I’ve been looking for weeks. Anything within the price range is rare and gets snapped up. I even looked tonight for short notice and the cheapest were £800 for 2. One ticket was going for 7k!

This has been the final straw for me. I work all the hours god sends, missing time with my kids, just to keep a roof over our heads. We have no money for fun. I go to bed worrying about money and wake up worrying about it. My DD had no presents or trips this year as she wanted money for one measley concert ticket! But no! All the ticket touts got there first. She’s being brave about it as she can see I feel bad but I’ve heard her crying in her room tonight. I didn’t have much when I was a child but I had more than this. I’m a shit mum and my DD is having a shitty childhood. I wish I’d never had her.

If this is life, I don’t want it anymore.

@SadUselessMum I have the VIP bic from the concert that I was going to sell on Vinted - it's got a lanyard, tote bag (will wash as I used it and it's a bit grim), poster and holographic ticket. If you feel comfortable sending me your address, I'll send it over for you and your daughter. Probs next week as I am bedridden with pregnancy nausea ATM!

Thank you for your kind offer but honestly, please sell it on Vinted and put the money towards your new baby. We have been spoilt already with someone sending DD a little goodie bag. It’s a hard time for everyone and I don’t want to take things from people.

@SadUselessMum honestly I don't mind - won't pressure you but offer is there if you want it. Hope you're feeling better this morning. You sound like a brilliant mum

I felt similar disappointment when I didn’t get concert tickets for another big act once. I would have felt even worse if it was for my daughter.

I think it’s because it’s so out of our control, no matter how much we want it, and we don’t get it, that’s why it’s frustrating. Not to mention the hype around codes and queues.

Btw, Taylor Swift will probably tour for another 40 years. There will be other concerts! And your dd will always remember how hard you tried.

I've just watched this it is indeed on Disney and as someone who likes TS but isn't a fan... it was a really good watch. She puts on a fantastic show.

OP I know it won't make a difference but if she watches this full blast (with neighbours permission of course) she will have a better view of more than half the people in the stadium did. It won't be the same I get that, but there are millions of people in the same position who wouldn't have seen it live.

Your daughter has a Mum who loves her for life. That's worth far more than a three hour concert with thousands of people who would have drowned out the singing and gotten in her way anyway.

On a separate note something really needs to be done about these ticket touts it's absolutely scandalous. Concert tickets for an event this huge should be sold like plane tickets. If your ID doesn't match at the stadium entrance - you don't get in!

Someone just posted on here about possibly selling TS tickets?

OP please don't be so hard on yourself.

You are doing amazingly.

While I know it's disappointing missing out it's not your fault.
Maybe find another artist DD likes who's touring whose tickets are readily available.

Smaller venues are much better as you get to see someone close up and really experience it. Get tickets as a surprise.

Who else does DD like. What style of music aside of TS?

@MaidOfAle

I wasn't commenting on the OPs feeling but on the feelings of sone people who didn't quite get it / were being rather unsupportive of someone struggling

That's why I began "I expect people " not I expect op "

I was outlining why those people who don't get it lack emotional literacy. Consider it an observation about the thoughts and feelings involved rather than a rebuttal of your point.

To use an analogy: I can see why someone with £1 resents someone who has £2 and at the same time I can also see that the person with £2 who had previously thought they could afford a £1.95 coffee at the works canteen would be disappointed to find that the coffee had all sold out, whilst the person with £1 knew all along not to even bother heading to the canteen.

Ah! Exactly

It takes so long to type rather than speak that I know I sometimes lead to confusion by not explaining myself properly

Anyhow glad OP feeling a bit better today

Did you register for London?
If so keep a constant look at your email
Liverpool released some more on Wednesday evening (ticketmaster)
£59 each
Edingburgh did the same so London is a high possibility

Ahhh, how nice to see you back. What a relief! Glad you're feeling a bit better about yourself. The TS evening sounds amazing. I hope you both have a great time! 😆

I am glad you and your Dd have made a lovely plan