No Taylor Swift tickets pushed me over the edge tonight

[SadUselessMum]

I know this is 1st world problems but I’m feeling so sad tonight. I’m just sat here sobbing. My DD has saved up £200 from all the birthday/xmas money to try and get a TS ticket and I’ve been saving a bit every week so we would have enough for 2. We didn’t get any with our code (as it wouldn’t work) and I stupidly thought that £400 would be enough to get 2 tickets even if they were really rubbish seats.

I’ve been looking for weeks. Anything within the price range is rare and gets snapped up. I even looked tonight for short notice and the cheapest were £800 for 2. One ticket was going for 7k!

This has been the final straw for me. I work all the hours god sends, missing time with my kids, just to keep a roof over our heads. We have no money for fun. I go to bed worrying about money and wake up worrying about it. My DD had no presents or trips this year as she wanted money for one measley concert ticket! But no! All the ticket touts got there first. She’s being brave about it as she can see I feel bad but I’ve heard her crying in her room tonight. I didn’t have much when I was a child but I had more than this. I’m a shit mum and my DD is having a shitty childhood. I wish I’d never had her.

If this is life, I don’t want it anymore.

@SadUselessMum I am really sorry that you feel like this. And also that this is the user name you’ve chosen. You may be sad but you are not useless. Please don’t think of yourself in this way.

The TS tour machine and associated media and hype that people buy into is madness. Who pays thousands of pounds to go to a concert? And then get rinsed for the merch. And feel pressurised into buying new outfits. Especially when the concerts are at such massive venues where you can’t see the stage except via a big screen.

You can do something so much more original and classy and different with the money you’ve saved I bet. And please consider choosing a different username :-)

And now you need to move on to another thing

I’d get dressed up and take her to stadium. We went to the N3 in Edinburgh and people were having a great time outside swapping bracelets, chatting and could hear the music. You may well get tickets on the night outside and if not, you can have a fun night anyway. Better than sitting in the house!

I'm sorry you didn't get tickets but you have £400 saved up that you could do something really lovely with.
It's ok to feel sad and disappointed but try and find a way to turn this round for you both.

Perhaps the prices were different at each venue as I was in the queue with my code, got through pretty quickly and there were only £180 seated tickets left.

Very slight hesitation while I tried to justify that cost in my head and it was too late only VIP packages available for even sillier money.

I'd love to know how many went on sale for £59

I should note I’m not sure Anfield is allowing it - is it in a more residential place? I have no idea! But in London I’m sure it will happen.

It’s not ridiculous and anyone who cannot read further than the “Taylor swift tickets” has the emotional depth of a puddle.

It’s not unreasonable to feel like this OP, life is very tough right now for a lot of people, it’s not ridiculous to feel exasperated, angry and sad that you can’t provide the lifestyle you want her to have - despite working so hard and forgoing those little treats just to survive.

I don’t have any advice but you’re not alone feeling frustrated and guilty that you want to give your child more but it is impossible. Of course long term what matters is that she is safe and loved, which it sounds like she is, but that doesn’t feel enough in the moment I know

I was literally just thinking surely you'd be able to clearly hear her outside Anfield 👏 Cracking idea.

I'm sorry you feel so down and it's absolutely fine to explain to your DD that the tickets are affordable and unavailable.

Tbh if money is tight I'd be showing DD that there are alternatives and making do is what we all need to do sometimes. Also don't believe the hype is also a good life lesson here.

Perhaps spend some of the money on a Taylor Swift themed sleepover with her friends, can you stream previous concerts and splurge on some special treats. You'd have quite some cash left over from that!

Lots of us have Year 11s who've almost finished GCSE exams - put on here the exam boards your DD needs and I for one would be more than happy to send her any study guides I have that match (for free). X

The couple sitting next to us inside the stadium got their tickets that day from a friends colleague. They paid face value after asking on Facebook for people to keep them in mind. It can happen!

Ticketing for concerts has just become madness. Codes and waiting lists and last minute releases...how did it get to this?! We used to buy tickets a week before big gigs or phone up Ticketmaster and easily get them. Touts worked for their money outside gigs buying the extras and selling them on.

We didn't get tickets either, didn't even get a code. Didn't have any expectations of it either. I told DD straight off the bat when the tour was announced that it was very unlikely because a) crazy ticketing and b) prices.

But. If you are able to save that sort of money for tickets...are you able to agree to like an annual trip/event that you can both definitely get to (theatre show, theme park...whatever) and do that?

Op I get you. This isn't just about the tickets, it's just the last thing in a long line because life has obviously dealt you some tough hands and things are hard at the moment.

Lots of love. Wish there was more of an answer for you and I do hope you can use your hard earned savings on another treat, even though it's not the tickets you and your DD wanted

People get dressed up and dance outside the stadium! You should still go, I bet you'll have a brilliant time. It'd all over tiktok how people swap bracelets, dance etc ❤️

https://www.google.com/amp/s/www.liverpoolecho.co.uk/whats-on/music-nightlife-news/taylor-swift-seating-plan-ticket-27337166.amp

Standing tickets were £143 which is not a reasonable price at all IMO

OP I hear you and understand. The ticketing has been very frustrating. I think we got 2 codes and didn't get tickets when all DDs friends did.

However at each event more tickets go on sale. Have you got any codes? If so just keep trying, you never know. Fingers crossed for you and your DD 🙂

Which part of "cancer" didn't you understand? OP wouldn't have been able to work whilst ill and that will have knock-on effects for years.

Sadly I can only do supply teaching as I have a lot of bad days. Some days I can barely walk so I can’t work on those days. We have a massive mortgage and a house that’s falling down. I wish I could work more but I physically can’t.

Thank you for all the kind and supportive words. I know I’m being a cry baby. Just got to carry on.

You should be angry at Taylor Swift for charging absolutely ridiculous prices for her concerts.

OP @SadUselessMum (you certainly aren’t that) I haven’t read the whole thread but just wanted to say a couple of things.

My DD is the same age and we did a road trip together recently where we spent the whole 4 hour drive listening to the Eras tour playlist and honestly it was so much fun. Could you take your DD somewhere fun perhaps when the weather improves and do similar? I’ve also seen some candlelight concerts in London with an orchestra playing her set list. Would she enjoy something like that?

also, I saw your post about DD putting her money away for study guides. She sounds so mature. I just wanted to say that you can often get these for amazing prices on Vinted - just check they’re the up to date editions and for the right exam board etc. You will save a packet.

Yes the last bit , i mean, why? . Before i went to uni we had nothing, i mean nothing, but my child was healthy, happy and got what she NEEDED, id never wish i didn't have her..ever. we lost a baby so realise how lucky we are to have children.
OP, it is what it is... throw a swift party and invite her friends...please dont say you wish you hadnt had her though.

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