General support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

That sucks mrsgoodenough. You are more than your profession.

You'll have good and bad days at work. Good ones, enjoy, bad ones, you could reflect and learn from. My job there was an emphasis in training on reflections, could use the Gibbs cycle and it counts towards cpd. Someone at work once said, today, you are the worst version of yourself, You always learn and improve..nice thought but I've gone up and down.....

Allthough I need to practice what I preach and write myself a little reflection

Thanks for this- I'm on 5mg olanzapine atm and my GP told me the others in the same class would have the same impact but he might not know.

I will ask about this in future if needed, my on mounjaro along with the olanzapine atm and have lost around 3 stone but still have a bit to go and it's expensive.

I think weight gain is also a side effect of qutiapine, but as I was pregnant then postpartum I put any weight gain down to that.

Hey how long have you been on mounjaro? I'm 6 days in. Weigh day tomorrow

I was doing really well till I went out for a Christmas party, then I had Norovirus and my brain has been pretty shite since then, so about 3/4 weeks now.

So maybe a convo of alcohol and illness? That makes sense. Anxiety goes through the roof with both. Hopefully it's short lived for you x

Interesting what you say about olanzapine as I was on it but not now on it.

Today is ok but feeling slightly anxious and a bit down due to lack of work but apart from that fine.

about 4 months, have lost 2.5 stone so far

Amazing well done! 3lb in my first week but we ate out a lot last week so I'm really on it now.

Hope everyone's doing ok. I booked disneyland paris today for me, ds, dm and dgm. Definitely cheers me up booking things in the diary

Good morning ladies

Happy (belated) 2025

I was well prepared for this year's Xmas and NYE to be hellish but it... wasn't as bad as last year's? I actually kind of enjoyed it. I realised that a lot of Xmas and NYE jingles and TV ads annoy me so I just avoided all of it and it wasn't as bad.

@Helplessandheartbroke I am so proud of you lovely, I remember last year was pretty difficult for most of us. Look at you, making plans, going to Disneyland Paris with your loved ones. I am so glad things seem to be okay as I remember both us struggled a lot last year. I am genuinely pleased for you xx

How is everyone else doing? Sending hugs to everyone xx Recovery is almost never linear. It's normal to have setbacks when we least expect them.

@snowfoxglove your right about it not being linear. I'm in the middle of a set back atm and it's so disheartening.
Just trying to make it through each day at a time atm. X

@Ilovedogs1 I know what you mean. I had a setback a few days ago myself. But that doesn't define all your progress.

Keep going. One day at a time. You got this X

@snowfoxglove thanks for your reply.
Just finding it very overwhelming atm, my intrusive thoughts are relentless, one after the other. Just finding it all exhausting. X

Sorry if I’ve missed anyone out.

So on Monday and Tuesday I came down with a vomiting virus but I was sick in the evening both days just after I’d taken my meds. This wasn’t the cause of the sickness but I had no meds for 2 days
and when I restarted Aripriprozole I’ve now had 2 days of being totally restless and hardly any sleep. My meds person has arranged for a review next week and I’ve got a sleeping tablet prescription apparently this one knocks you out but never mind maybe I need it.

@Ilovedogs1 agreed with other posters hang on in there you have got this. For what it’s worth with me feeling bad these past few days I have felt pretty low too.

Hi all,

Sorry I've not been on. Hope youre all well.

@snowfoxglove thank you! We've both coke so far since then! I honestly wouldn't be where I am without a few people on here. One of them being you x

@Ilovedogs1 it's OK to have set backs. You've still come a long way. Thinking of you x

@Orangesandlemons77 I feel for you! I've got a huge fear of being sick. Hope you're better now x

I had my second to last cbt session yesterday and we discussed how far I've come since this time last year. 1 thing I've realised though is I really just don't like myself. It's something I'm just trying to learn to live with x

Happy weekend everyone. I feel pretty good and on top of things at the moment, but have a nagging feeling everything is going to crash down. My life is so busy and I'm doing well at my work and as a parent. My emotions are relatively steady and I'm enjoying the beauty of the ice and snow...
But

I do have a nagging feeling that everything could come crashing down. I was feeling excellent, and productive just before my first breakdown. Since then, when I feel happy I'm worried about it. I've not slept well and cocidered calling in sick on Thursday or Friday to catch up with rest. Thursday I was rotated in the area I had a bad lunchtime at last week and was with lovely colleagues, it was a long ok day, but exhausting and at the end of my shift I made a mistake because I was too tired. I knew I was so was speaking aloud what I was doing to help me focus.

I couple of warning signs are purple flashes in the perifory of my vision. I get these when I'm very tired, since I was on qutiapine. More frequent than this are floaters in my vision.

@Helplessandheartbroke that's really sad coming to the conclusion of not liking yourself. At the moment I've got a focus journal and I'm reading and writing in and it's got some really nice activities, positive mantras etc. some I skip over as they aren't for me, but I like the practical ones.

Hope the weekend is going OK, it is pretty cold out.

GPs have given me Gabapentin for nerve pain, I'm still on my other meds too. Hoping it doesn't;t lower my mood like Pregabalin did.

It's quite a lot to manage all the meds together, might need to get one of those rosette boxes to help I think.

@2in2022twoyearson I'm glad you're doing so well! It's hard to not think about the downfalls isn't it. I guess we just need to try and live in the moment and enjoy it x

I guess I just can't forgive some of the decisions I've made prior and still make today. I don't like the way I look either but I'm too tired to put make up on every day and straighten my hair etc x

@Orangesandlemons77 has the change of meds helped? X

I'll set up a new thread tomorrow for anyone who's interested x

@Helplessandheartbroke i get that. One of the activities was to write a love letter to yourself. Think about these romcoms people accepting and loving the whole person, the good, the bad and the ugly. I think it's useful, you don't have to believe it but there's something in 'fake it till you make it'. 🙂 I'd like to be added to a new thread please.

@2in2022twoyearson I can relate to feeling well and almost believing it's to good to be true and feeling apprehensive about a crash.
I hope the wellness continues for you.
I have a dilemma. My sister has a long term health condition which is bad atm and my DM has asked me to help out with her kids, which will also include rush hour travel etc. But I'm struggling as you know with a mental setback presently myself. My DH has said I don't need the additional stress atm and should say I can't but then I'd feel guilty for not helping. My DH has said I need to prioritise my MH for our family which is probably true but I feel that I'm a crap, weak person if I don't help and also angry that my MH puts these limitations on me.
Part of me feels that I should just power through but if the additional stress makes me worse it's me and my family that suffer.
But if I don't help I'll feel guilty and selfish.🤷‍♀️🤷‍♀️

@Helplessandheartbroke definitely up for a new thread. Xx

Hey everyone,

@Ilovedogs1 I really sympathise with your dilemma. Does your sister know about your MH struggles? If you really don’t feel up to it I’d just apologise and explain why. Or would this maybe give u something to focus on to try and pull you out of this current slump? Either way I do agree with your husband, you need to do what’s right for you at the moment and try not to feel guilty if that means putting yourself first xx

@HelplessandheartbrokeI like you though. I get what you mean. Sometimes when we are overwhelmed and we have a lot of life's demands on us it's hard to be accepting of ourselves.

I think we all came far back from where it started. This thread helps because we don't have to impress anyone or be perfect. It's okay to struggle and to suffer.

@Ilovedogs1 I wouldn't do it.

Having more on your plate is going to hinder, and not help. I realized that people who use guilt to try and make me do something mostly do it so I would do their bidding. It's not your job to be perfect and hardworking and sacrifice yourself when you're already struggling a lot.

It's definitely not your job to set yourself on fire to keep other people warm.

Hi, I'm new to this thread. I've been doing okay since lockdown: shit marriage but made up for it with two close-ish friends and a few acquaintances. This was important as awful parents and I've struggled in the past to have back up.

Anyway both of them have moved away for very good reasons and my carefully constructed support system is smashed. Of course I can see them occasionally and message but I'm much better face to face or doing activities together than messaging and anyway they're caught up with their new lives.

I'm feeling pretty hopeless again. Don't feel I have the energy to start again from scratch.