General support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

@JamSandle please don't think so little worth of your life. You're in your 30s and have a lifetime ahead of you. You will meet the right person when the times right. Are you taking meds?

I think he was the right person but i messed it up with my behaviour. I am on antidepressants and just finished therapy.

Really struggling. Just can't see a way forward and can't cope with life like this every day. But can't commit suicide as I have a DD. Feel totally trapped. On meds, having therapy, not sure what else I can do. Just keep on going for the next 40 years....

@JamSandle what's meant to be will be. There's a reason behind everything. Hope you're feeling a bit better.

@MsGoodenough I'm here and listening if you want to offload?

As @Helplessandheartbroke @MsGoodenough I too am here if you want to offload.

Things do get better, I know it doesn’t seem that way but they do. I won’t lie and say every day is perfect but it’s a hell of a lot better from in June/July/August this year for me.

Hey everyone

Unfortunately days when everything seems off still do happen. Peaks and valleys. Today was a bad day where things felt off again.

But overall I feel like a lot or progress was made since Xmas 2023.

@Helplessandheartbroke I noticed that I relied a lot on SM as an emotional crutch. Online world can get very complicated but people irl aren't very complicated. And MN (excluding AIBU and Relationships) isn't as dramatic as other parts of the internet.

I had a friendly response in regards to connecting with my art teacher but no art classes soon. How about you? How was your holiday? Or is it in the future? Sorry I forgot xx

In understand that things are difficult (very difficult) for everyone from time to time and then it's okay to slow down and rest. We don't have to figure everything out in one day.

Thank you. I have felt like this on and off for 20+ years. I just can't take it any more. Xx

Hi All,

I hope everyone is doing okay!

I've recently had my first child and have been suffering from postpartum depression. Things have been getting worse over time.
I've been prescribed anti-depressants from the Dr, but have advised that I will feel worse for the first month, before I start to feel better. This is where my problem is; my other half works away every other week, and I'm worried that if I feel even worse, I won't be able to function enough to care for our baby.

Has anybody else been prescribed anti-depressants, and is happy to talk about how it made them feel? Were you still able to function until the phase passed? Or did anybody go a different route that they could recommend?

I have a fantastic support network and I'm really lucky, but still struggling to cope.

Any advice would be amazing, thank you in advance!

Welcome @Skiprat95 I hope you find support you're looking for on here.

It's hard to talk about about antidepressants because diffferent people have different experiences.

If you're afraid of starting, start cutting pills in half or 25 % -- that way it's not going to feel dreadful until you could get used to it.

I did Fluoxetine and Escitalopram.

Prozac still helped me feel good things as well as bad things. I would go for a run or socialise and I woukd feel that high whereas Escitalopram completely blocks my Endorphins so I don't feel those good emotions but I still feel anxiety and depression.

I'm on Escitalopram right now and things don't bother me as much but I also don't feel good like I did. Fluoxetine gave me nightmares but I felt happier overall.

Nobody told me how hard it was gonna be weening off antidepressants (there is a website called surviving antidepressants).

Antidepressants numb you a bit so you can get on with life but they will not entirely fix your core issue that's causing depression and anxiety.

Psychiatrists are one of the most arrogant "class" of people I have ever met who have no empathy -- again, just my experience.

That said, this is only my experiences and a lot of people on MN so ask around. I'm obviously not speaking for everyone, just for myself.

That said, if you decide to stick around here I think you'll find people here supportive and decent and genuine when they have time to post on MN of course.

P.S.

Apologies for typing like a monkey, using my mobile 😅

I’m on two anti depressants and one of them is an anti psychotic one. Mirtazapine is one and Olanzapine is the other and I’m also on levothyroxine too.

I can function fine whilst taking the anti depressants and I take them in the evening so any drowsiness is felt from eg 8-9pm onwards. The timescale from when you start to feel better is about right too. I do want to come off them eventually but they do take the edge of my depression and anxiety and I feel much better than I did (I was also in 2 psychiatric units on more medication than this). One of the tablets does increase appetite and I’ve put on weight (Olanzapine I think is the cause of it).

I’m fairly lucky as supposed to be starting talking therapy soon and I have a doctor’s review of my medication soon too. My case worker isn’t the best, she’s forgotten one appointment with me and sometimes I feel like a tick box exercise with her but with the NHS how it is I’m lucky I see anyone.

Hi all, sorry I've been having a shit time lately. I had a very tough therapy session a couple of weeks ago and been on a downward spiral since. Crap at work and some at home. Hope bonfire can bring some joy to you all this weekend. I've been stood watching some fireworks with ds at the door. Not sure how he would do at a bonfire being asd.

@snowfoxglove I wish I had your enthusiasm! Going for runs etc. Ive piled on 2 stone this year on fluoxitine and not taking care of myself.

@Skiprat95 stick with them. I didn't think I could feel worse or better but both happened. Were here for you.

@Gonnagetgoingreturnsagain glad you've got a good support network. We're all here too as much as we can be.

@Whycantgiraffesdance @Ilovedogs1 @JamSandle @hk1993x hope you're all doing ok and everyone else of course x

I was just about to post asking how was everyone's weekend.

@Helplessandheartbroke Oh it's not enthusiasm, I am just going by what Dr Julie Smith said that sometimes we have to push ourselves and not avoid anxiety. I just push myself while I still feel anxious, fatigued and lonely. I am so so so knackered most of the time.

I'm so sorry lovely, you had a hard time at work and at home and that therapy session was a bit intense and now it feels like things are spiraling. Somedays are just hard and the best we can do is wait for the storm to pass.

It's nice to read about Bonfire and DS. I know it's not easy for you xx Had two days of rest and crap at home Sunday.

Sending everyone hugs on the thread. Keep writing if it helps. It helps me too knowing there are people like me instead of scrolling thru IG and perfect lives that don't seem real anymore.

@snowfoxglove thank you as always lovely. I drank too much on Saturday after a shit few days.... felt sorry for myself yesterday and now ds has been up since 2.30am!!! Hes got school and I've got work. I just sometimes feel it's never ending x

@Helplessandheartbroke You're welcome hon xx I know exactly what you mean by saying if this will ever end. I think it's about doing the best we can. Sometimes we need to take our mind off things and not think about problems all the time.

Mum ruined my Sunday after I've been okay 3 days without her presence and guilt-tripping.

Now I have a lot to do plus anxiety bc living with a toxic person who ruins my MH. My motivation is spite. I will work bit by bit and get better because that's one thing she would hate to see happen. I am so fed up constantly getting paying for my MH by trying to be friendly with people who do nothing but drag me down.

Hello everyone. Sending love and support.

@MsGoodenough same to you too x

@snowfoxglove bizarre how your mother would relish from your bad times... they're meant to protect you! You know it's her problem and not you though x

It's remarkable how toxic people can ruin your holidays, birthdays, cause depression and anxiety by constantly picking on your self-esteem and then gaslight you how they love you and it's all your fault and you need meds.

It's also remarkable how 2 weeks without those people magically make depression and dread and despair go away.

I hope everyone is okay. I know we're all fighting different battles but keep holding on.

I'm doing okay but still miss my ex.

He was a good man, treated me well and respectfully and I spoilt things. Although I am trying to accept and move forward, I do feel sad that something and someone so wonderful is now gone from my life.

It is a hard pill to swallow. Especially when my actions caused the downfall.

I've gone into the office today. It's very quiet. But im trying to keep busy and distracted. I feel quite lonely as he was also my best friend so I'm grieving a lot. Its very painful. Trying to go day by day.

@snowfoxglove not sure If I've asked this before but is moving out not an option for you? X

@JamSandle I still feel incredibly sad, guilty, depressed and so many things after having my beloved dog pts. Blame myself etc. Sometimes we have to let loved ones go for the right reasons. It's truely painful and heartbreaking but probably the right thing 💔 x

Hey all it's been a little while. Im still here. Having a down day today, it's my sons birthday and this is when my whole mental health journey began. I should be happy and excited but I'm exhausted and sad, drove to the shops last night and the intrusive thoughts were horrendous. Hope everyone is okay x

Hey @Helplessandheartbroke thank you for asking, it's an option and I have savings. I started looking in October and it was so incredibly stressful that I had to postpone. People advised me again to try this month again.

@JamSandle My heart goes out to you. Losing someone and getting on while feeling grief is brutal. For what it's worth I think we all have many soulmates, but I'll be here and others. It's not perhaps much but you're not all alone x

@hk1993x It's hard. Don't force yourself to feel happy, allow yourself to feel sad and rest if you can, there is no right way to feel.

I've went to see a therapist (private) yesterday and she was nice and she dedicated a lot of time to me, but it's not working.

It's also lonely if a therapist pushes to know a lot about you and don't self-disclose (talk about themselves).

The more they push you to talk about your problems the heavier you feel. I think a lot of us just need soneone to be in our corner and be our friend rather than analyse things we are already aware of.

Seeing another one tomorrow and if it does't work I will finally be able to sleep again. I need someone to help me re-direct my thoughts on the world outside of me, nor rehash pain already within me.

Hello everyone. I hope you're all okay.

Been a really difficult day today. I have depression, anxiety and ADHD.

My work is extremely busy and I'm losing motivation to keep up with it. I've applied for 5 new jobs. I got one but turned it down because they were pretty backward with flexible working and nothing from the other 4 at all.

I live with my dad who is emotionally up and down and drinks a lot and my brother who isn't working.

I keep feeling like I'm close to a breakdown and don't know what to do.

I keep feeling panicky and scared. Things are so stressful and the ADHD doesn't help with emotional regulation.

I'm just holding on and hoping things get better. I also know I need to change a lot and right now I don't have the fight in me. Id quite like to be hit by a bus in all honesty.

@JamSandle Here for you.

Living with toxic family members increases our stress a lot. And that chronic stress leads to a lot of anxiety and depression.

You don't need to change a lot all at once. That will just scare you and overehelm you. If you're tired, rest a bit and watch something that relaxes you. If one day is a little productive, great. If you're depleted, rest a little and take it slow.

But don't try to do it all it once. One day at the time.

You probably know I live with a toxic family member myself who triggers a lot of MH issues. My motovation is spite. I absolutely refuse to give up so a crap person can win. Even when things are hard, I drag myself out of bed because I will nevet give her the satisfaction to ruin me. If she was worth my self-sacriface, she wouldn't ask for it.

Rest if you can but don't let bad people win. We are here for you and all of us are struggling but we understand each other. Thinking of you and everyone else on this thread x

Hi ladies

Just catching up and I'm sorry a few of you are still struggling too. I'm out of my depth atm. Had 3 very bad nights with ds, an a&e trip and work all week and I'm drained. Physically and mentally and to top it off I've ate loads of chocolate although I'm so fat right now! Vent over. Sending hugs x