General support thread 2

[Helplessandheartbroke]

All welcome. No judgement and kindness all around x

Hi everyone,

How are we all doing? How are things?

Sending everyone good vibes. One day at a time x

Hey. Doing OK here. 🤞 Hope you ladies are OK. Xx

Hi @snowfoxglove how are you?

@Ilovedogs1 glad you're doing well!

I've been up and down a lot lately and can't put my finger on anything particular other than its coming up to ddog anniversary next month and hes been on my mind a lot x

@Helplessandheartbroke You've come so far! Can't believe it's Christmas next month -- that's where we all met on here. They already started putting up decorations where I live, ugh.

I've allowed myself to rest 2 days and stay home. Been pushing myself a bit too much. I also told that nice private therapist that I won't be seeing her anymore, and I feel so much better.

All she did was dig through my problems and told me nothing about herself which made me feel even more anxious and lonely. I like it when a relationship between a therapist and a client is fair. You tell them a bit about your life and they tell you about yours -- I know this is possible because I've already experienced it and it helped a lot.

Sorry for waffling on lovely xx I hope you managed to get some rest, and that DS is sound okay. @Ilovedogs1 happy to hear from you and to learn you're OK.

We can do this ladies, one step at a time. SM is a lie, we all struggle from time to time.

Had an alcoholic drink for the first time in ages tonight. Drank slowly with a film. Still missing my ex. Adhd doesn't help with rumination! I have a new medication to try.

I hope you're all well.

@snowfoxglove thanks lovely as always. Weve all coke so far this year. And a handhold from one other always helps. Glad you managed a couple of days rest. It's hard to get into festivities when it reminds you of hard times x

@JamSandle that's ok to miss someone. I'm sure almost everyone misses someone but we need to be kind to ourselves. Did the drink help? Wine helps me sometimes lol x

Happy Friday everyone x

Hi @Helplessandheartbroke

One drink was okay but in general I'm avoiding it. Been my first in a while and seemed okay.

How are you today? Any nice plans for the weekend ahead?

Out tonight for an event and started missing my ex. Full face of makeup and just want to cry. It's so hard.

Hey everyone, sorry haven’t commented in a while but I’ve been seeing the posts.
generally been doing ok but it’s comforting to know I’m not alone when I have a bit of a wobble!

sending hugs to anyone that needs one, I think you’re all amazing for getting up everyday and carrying on even though sometimes all we want to do is hide away and cry! Xxxxx

Hi ladies. Hope everyone is having an OK weekend. Still OK here 🤞. @snowfoxglove I think I need a bit of a rest day tbf. Had a few busy days at work and sometimes you get into that loop of being busy then just carrying on and on. Also I need to watch myself when I'm feeling OK because I then have a tendency to do to much then the overtiredness doesn't help the brain.

Still having the odd intrusive thoughts but on a whole OK. Sending hugs to you all. Xx

Hi friends,

Weekend! Doing relatively ok. Ups and downs but still better since I created boundaries at home. Either we communicate and it's friendly or don't communicate at all and be cordial to each other.

It was that hot and cold environment that was a bit of a problem. Now I keep to myself but I feel a bit better

Fingers crossed 🤞

Let's survive Christmas and NYE together if it gets stressful lol

How is everybody doing? Sending love to everyone reading xx

Hi all

Sorry I've been quiet. I've been having a tough time. A handhold through December is much needed and I'm here for anyone else too. Will check in daily as the most wonderful and stressful time of year approaches. I love Christmas but ddog was pts on 17th Dec last year which is also my wedding anniversary and things are hard. The guilt and sorrow are on high alert for me atm. Hope everyone else is doing ok x

Just checking in. Hope everyone's well x

Checking in as well. How have you been @Helplessandheartbroke ? How is everyone else? I hope things are okay-ish

My mindset is hope for the best expect the worst in December, it can be wonderful and challenging. Monday feel a bit off right now

P.S.

Also I learned when things are extremely stressful and toxic we get into this mindset of being overwhelmed and thinking we have to fix everything all at once.

But we don't. Then it's just step by step. Basic easy things

Hi everyone, I hope you're all okay x

Hi @snowfoxglove feeling overwhelmed here. Skint with Xmas, grieving ddogs anniversary, guilt and sadness all in one. How's things at home? X

@JamSandle how are you x

Me too @Helplessandheartbroke

Just sitting outside in the park and trying to breathe a little right now.

I won't give any advice because I know what's it like to feel overwhelmed. Just sitting next to you. We are going to get through December hon x

@snowfoxglove I'm sitting with you too. If you were in Manchester I'd join you IRL. Good on you for getting out and in the fresh air even when it's cold x

How is everyone? I haven't been here for ages which is a good sign

but the loneliness of Christmas hits hard 😭

please don't make suggestions, I've tried everything and things are better than last year so I have to focus on that

plus trying to tackle loneliness makes things so much worse

anyway, I just wanted to be heard. Thanks for hosting this space ❤️

Hi hope it is Ok to join you? I'm mid 40s, perimenopausal and taking olanzapine and fluoxetine for depression, have been on meds for a long time.

Anyone else struggling a bit with this storm etc? We had the loud warning on the phone earlier as in the SW. had an elderly relative on the phone quite worried about it.

I'm at the stage of having teen DC and elderly parents / in laws and it is all quite stressful. Feel quite alone with my feelings at times.

I was recently screened at the memory clinic for possible early dementia, my memory had got pretty bad. But after some scans they think it's probably not that. probably the mental health stuff / hormones. It's all been quite stressful and Christmas coming up too.

Hi @EmeraldRoulette and @Orangesandlemons77 hope you're both OK today.

Xmas can heighten a number of feeling including loneliness but were here for you!

I'm in the NW so rainy and windy here but nothing major. How have you got on today with the storm? Hope everyone's safe x

Hi everyone, @snowfoxglove @Ilovedogs1 @EmeraldRoulette i’m glad to hear you’re all doing relatively ok! I find Christmas a hard time of the year as every song on the radio reminds me of Christmas’s past when my dad was still with us 😢 trying to focus on the kids though and enjoy the present as much as I can. I find it really hard to concentrate on the here and now and not be either dreading the future or thinking of the past, anyone else?

@Helplessandheartbroke sorry to hear you’re struggling. Will u commemorate your lovely dog on his anniversary or will it be too painful? Sending hugs xxx

and welcome to anyone new, I hope you find some comfort in sharing with the lovely ladies on here x

Thanks for the welcome! best wishes to everyone in the run up to Christmas. It can be a tricky time of year.

I love how this wee post is still so active, holding hands with everyone ❤️