General support thread - come on in

[Kielyflower]

I couldn’t see a recent one of these so thought I’d start one.

I just feel I need to do something positive so will hopefully share some more thoughts later that I hope will help - others as well as myself.

In the meantime, feel free to check in as, if nothing else, it helps to feel less alone.

@Takemeback2thestart how are you today? And everyone else?

@Jk24 thank you for asking. Not good really, I’ve tried to get an appointment with the gp but there’s nothing until the end of the week, I don’t feel I can wait that long. I just need the medication to calm me down, I’ve had it before so I can’t see why the y won’t just write me a prescription, I feel like they want me to suffer., they have all this control over me . I feel like they want to to just end my life, I’ll be one less person to bother about.

@Takemeback2thestart please don't think like that. It took me 7 weeks to get my first doctors appointment! Ring back and tell them it's urgent please. Tell them it's mental health related

@Takemeback2thestart how did you get on?

Evening, I'm so sorry to hear that things are bad with you @snowfoxglove and @Takemeback2thestart I have been at similarly low points in the past but it's really important to try not to act on the thoughts about taking your life or. It's a permanent solution to a temporary problem.

I hope that's a helpful thing to say, but if it's not then the other thing I have done is to just not act on them at the moment. Just get through each day and things will get better. I absolutely promise they will. I have experienced them get better for myself and also seen it in a friend. Also read it here from lovely mumsnetters.

I hope anyone who is struggling here can treat themselves like they would a child of their own who is poorly - with nothing but care and kindness. Remember also what doctors vow to do : First, do no harm.

Mental health issues really are hell. Lean on those here and those around you.

Great words @Kielyflower

Hi, sorry I didn’t respond sooner. I have to call in the morning to hopefully get appointment. I couldn’t bring myself to tell the receptionist how I urgent it was. I hate having to talk to them about these things, feel so embarrassed and ashamed of myself. No one knows I have such severe MH problems in RL ( except husband) I don’t really mix with anyone regularly so I can hide it quite well.
i hope the doctor is sympathetic and understanding, I don’t think I could take any harsh words. I would’ve preferred just a prescription without any conversation but they refused.
thank you for taking the time to ask, especially when you’re all suffering too. It’s comforting to know I’m not the only one feeling so low iyswim.

@Takemeback2thestart nothing to be ashamed of embarrassed about. Please let us know how you get on x

Thank you so much for your support and kind words @Jk24 @Ilovedogs1 @Kielyflower

On a relatively good day (sleeping well) there is just this overwhelming sense of lethargy and no motivation. Does anyone know from experience what to do about it?

I have learned that ruminations are not helpful (obsessive thinking about problems) because all it does is get you stuck.

I know how you feel @Takemeback2thestart

Feeling embarrassed and ashamed is common with MH/depression even if there is nothing to be ashamed of.

I hope you got on okay. It's really good to ask for help especially when things are challenging.

@snowfoxglove I hear conflicting advice on this one. Some say to allow your thoughts and feelings and some say don't. I've been stuck with my thoughts for about 6 weeks and I really struggled. It's just started to ease so not sure if my meds are kicking in....

@Jk24 I know how it feels to struggle. I hope meds started to kick in and eased life for you a bit. It does take about 6 weeks or so, and starting to take them feels worse and then this feeling subsides. Fingers crossed you feel a bit better xx

@snowfoxglove thank you and same to you. Please keep sharing and talking though it's surprising how helpful it's been on MN for me x

I'm not sure what's happening. I feel like my brain has had enough of all this shite and has just stopped. It's like I cant think but at the same time my thoughts are constantly there. I'm trying this new behavioural approach and I'm hoping this is part of the process. 😩

@Ilovedogs1 can you keep yourself busy? I think you need a distraction to help get away from your thoughts. Even if it's scrolling through different mumsnet posts and reading what others are doing or watching a comedy series on Netflix...

@Jk24 I'm at work atm. My head feels like it's full of cotton wool.

Spoke to the doctor earlier today, he was understanding and agreed I should probably try antidepressants again. He also agreed ( slightly reluctantly) to give me a short course of anti anxiety meds. I know they won’t work miracles on me , but as it is I’m barely functioning and couldn’t get out of bed today.
thank you for the kind words of support @Jk24 @Kielyflower @snowfoxglove

hope you’ve all have managed to get through the day ok. x

@Takemeback2thestart that's great to hear! It won't be a miracle cure but definitely a good start. Once you feel a little more human speak to them about an assessment for ds. That way IF there is an underlying health issue, you can all get the help you need.

The friends we've never met on MN have really helped me through the last 6 weeks. I don't know where I'd be without some of the advice and reassurance I've had. If we can all take a little and give a little back, hopefully everyone will be in a better place.

Have a nice tea, hot bath and early night. Sending hugs 🫂

Good Morning everyone. How are you today??

@Ilovedogs1 morning! I'm in a foul mood today but I've been up since 4am! How are you?

I'm ok. Still got this weird feeling of impending doom but also like I don't care. Like I'm so tired of it I don't even have the energy to think or analyse. Hoping its progress and trying to do the right things, eat, sleep, meditation etc etc. I went to bed at 8 last night and at least im out now walking the dogs.
What's everybody's view on journaling? I think it would be good to get your feelings/emotions out on paper but also aware it could become a compulsion type thing. Hope everyone's day is ok. X

Youre definitely sounding more positive apart from the impending doom of course. My therapist has asked me to do a thought diary but I've not got round to it yet

Regarding lack of motivation and lethargy...sometimes you need to do nothing and rest, and that's ok, don't beat yourself up about it. Try to make it a deliberate and positive decision IYSWIM.

Other times, you just need to DO something, whether you feel motivated to or not. The motivation sometimes comes AFTER. If you wait for the motivation to come before, you can be waiting along time.

I have felt extremely similar to this in the past. It's a possibility that feeling so tired of it etc can be like a rock bottom and therefore the only way is up.

I have done a lot of journaling over recent months and have found it helpful. Personally I haven't found its turned into a compulsion type thing (and I can be prone to compulsions). I have allowed it to be very free flowing/not organised, kind of literally just my thoughts and so in a slight way getting them down on paper can help them not swirl round in my head.

Am really glad you got a doctor's appointment @Takemeback2thestart

If at possible, cut yourself some slack if you can these next few days/weeks

@Jk24 it's so lovely what you said about us helping each other. It can be so lonely so I'm glad this thread is of some comfort.

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