Attempted suicide - Blame

[Nimbus1999]

If you were married to a cold, unloving, uncaring person and you attempted suicide, are they to blame? Are they guilty of attempted manslaughter?

I’ve been thinking about your thread and your situation a lot since yesterday. I’m very worried about you. In the gentlest possible way, I think you need to refocus your energies away from trying to understand him and see things from his perspective and towards keeping yourself and particularly your children safe.

Someone who is prepared to introduce the ideas of suicide/attempted suicide/not being here/manslaughter into discussion of your relationship and family is, in my opinion, someone to be extreme wary of in relation to your children particularly.

It doesn’t really matter why he did what he did. He put his own life in danger and he is telling you clearly that (in his view) it was beyond his control, you made him do it. I think you need to be very wary of him and concentrate on keeping your family safe.

We are currently going through court regarding the child custody arrangements, a section 7 report has been ordered. I am very nervous about having to face him in court but I’m just going to be as prepared as I can and hopefully it will be okay.

I spoke with my doctor today and I’ve got a chat with someone on Weds so hopefully they will refer me for counselling.

You can ring the Court to see if they have an advocacy service who could accompany you or a screen so you don't have to see him. Keep strong, we are all here with you,

An old post but DDay for me today. We get the Cafcass report and see what they recommend with the 50/50 childcare arrangements. I feel sick.

Stay strong op. You've got this far, you can see it through. It's been a long and painful journey, but you are further along now than you were before.

I was in a similar situation and have finally got that freedom and space to think and be me.

If he's strong enough to go through this court process then he was strong enough to actively choose to take an overdose. Which, btw, if he was only held for a day is not likely to have been THAT serious an attempt. When my ex made his attempt he was in hospital for several days and was then sent to a psychiatric hospital (voluntarily, but was told he would be sectioned if he didn't 'volunteer'). So please don't let him make you feel guilty, it was all manipulation tactics.

Such a tough journey hoping that the next few years are easier for you and the kids 🤞