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allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 10:32

i just tried to hang myself but i managed to get myself out of it, i feel like all the blood vessells in my face have burst.
i couldnt even do that right.
what the fuck can i do

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Lulumama · 09/03/2008 10:48

i was so ill i was hospitalised. it got better, it takes work and perserverance, but my reward was being well enough to get pregnant again and have DD

your reward will be being happy ,finding a new relationship and feeling valued again

allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 10:49

lucyellensmum

i had it all planned so my kids wouldnt be the ones to find me , it wouldve just been the estate agent later on, a stranger to me

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Dior · 09/03/2008 10:50

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allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 10:50

yes i know other people get happier again ,and i do feel happyish some days cos of the ADs but i know it is all FAKE

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themildmanneredjanitor · 09/03/2008 10:52

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Lulumama · 09/03/2008 10:52

it is getting you in a state where you can achieve real happiness.. gets your brain chemistry on an even keel again, then you can start getting happy for real!

lucyellensmum · 09/03/2008 10:52

agbu - im on the same ADs as you - its NOT fake happiness that i feel when i feel happy, it is REAL. These tablets do not produce feelings of happiness, they clear the mist so you can feel happiness.

As someone said, get through today - go to A+E if you feel like doing anything drastic again PLEASE do that wont you? Then tomorrow go back to your doctor, you sound like you need to change your medication, or as someone said, a pyschiatrist might be the person for you to see. I am considering this myself. I feel that all my doctor does is dish out the happy smarties and i want to move on from this.

I know it must be awful awful for you about your exH but you need to move on. He clearly wasnt good enough for you! Your children love YOU, she will never ever be able to take your place, they woudlnt want her too.

Please keep posting, i have to go out now, but will check on you later xxx

allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 10:52

thanks for being kind Dior but there is nothing around the corner but more pain

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ScoobyDYSONDoo · 09/03/2008 10:54

On no i am sorry you are feleing so down.

Don't give up please, your kids do need you, does not matter if they would not be the ones ti find you they would have to live there lives without you

Please get some help just phone someone or go to A&E please.

Where abouts are you?

lucyellensmum · 09/03/2008 10:55

SOrry, AGBU, i dont mean to sound harsh, just trying to shock you into some reality here. Im worried for you - i dont want you to give up, because if you do, then you will miss all the good stuff that is waiting for you - it might not be next week, or even next year but one day, you will feel happiness again, it WILL be real and you will feel it more intensely than most, because you will apreciate it. Please honey, you are worth so much, to your children, to you xxxx

PerkinWarbeck · 09/03/2008 10:56

AGBU - i am hearing that you can't see a future.

it might be too much right now to look into the future, as your depression is getting the better of you.

what you can do right away is call an ambulance or a cab to go to A&E.

lucyellensmum · 09/03/2008 10:57

You have been there in the past for me AGBU, i daresay i might need you to be there for me again when im having a run on shite, but for now, we are here for you - you are a good person. Now bloody well get on the phone to the samaritans or go to the docs, you cant do this on your own. You are strong, but you need a helping hand. I wish i could give you a cuddle, where are you?

allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 10:57

my kids tell me constantly that ds's gf is more fun than me and ds even says he wishes she were his mum

but thanks for all your kind words, making me sob as i write this

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allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 10:58

meant dh's gf

not ds's

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lucyellensmum · 09/03/2008 11:02

it doesnt matter if the bitch GF is seemingly more fun. YOU are their mother and they LOVE you. Its crap because you are the one that has to do all the shit stuff like make them go to school, do their homework etc. She just gets to pretend to be nice. Deep down YOU are who your children want, love and need.

CaptainKarvol · 09/03/2008 11:03

AGBU, please, please listen to what people are saying here - phone the Samaritans, go to A&E, you can get help, it can get better. Your GP is the start of the line, not the end of all help. The happiness on ADs isn't fake, it's the real thing, shining through all the other stuff. I've been there on ADs, I've been there with suicidal thoughts. There is help, things can change. Please hang on, for a minute, then another minute, for as long as it takes. Please.

themildmanneredjanitor · 09/03/2008 11:04

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lucyellensmum · 09/03/2008 11:04

I have to go out now, sorry hun, but please stay on here, there are lots of people who can help, im shit at expressing myself anyways Keep talking (and sobbing if you have to) it truly does help

ScoobyDYSONDoo · 09/03/2008 11:07

Do you know your kids may say that but honestly it's because they live with you a majority of the time so they see going to be with there dad the "fun" if they were living there constantly it owuld not be so fun, don't take it to heart it's the way many kids are.

There dad is probably having to do all sorts as he only sees them weekends, it's like when my dss comes to stay we go out & have loads of fun as we don't see him all the time & he does not live in our day to day life, so we make it special, he has said the exact words your kids have said to me but i know it's because it's all fun when he is here, day to day life, like school, baths, dinner, work,bed is not "fun" in kids eyes so when they get to go places with the other parent they think life will be like that all the time but reality is life isn't like that, there just kids they don't understand the daily grind.

Please honestly no matter what your kids say your there mother, they love you & without you there life would be full of pain, they need you.

You can get through this, just take one day at a time, your ad's may be the wrong ones for you, you need to get them changed, please phone someone hospital, doctor anyway if you talk to someone & get it all out if can help, there is other ways than just ending your life, your life will get better but at this point you can't see past the pain, these things take time & i promise things can work. x

Lomond · 09/03/2008 11:14

Please get some help, your children need you, you are their mother and no one else can come close.
They would never get over losing you. It would effect the rest of their lives.

Please call someone or go to A&E?

allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 11:18

thanks for all advice, i am feeling little bit less desperate now, thanks.
Have just arranged to see my brother and mum for lunch, wont mention it to them though, it would freak them out

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Lulumama · 09/03/2008 11:20

not mentioning it is not going to make it go away
you are suicidal
you need to get some help
i am sure your mum loves you and would want to help you
get them to go to A&E with you

please get some help today

next time you might succeed, even if you don;t mean to

allgonebellyup · 09/03/2008 11:21

still scares me how this can just hit me out of the blue when i thought i had been doing so well

its being on my own today and yesterday, hearing my kids down the phone being tickled by my dh's girlfriend, and they dont want to talk to me cos theyre having too much fun with her.

and my dh shouting at me that he will never come back and i just will have to get used to it, that he is having a baby with his gf and they are all happy together.

How the hell do i get over that??

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Lulumama · 09/03/2008 11:23

you will get over it becasue you are a strong person, you can make it without DH.. your children might like being with the GF but i doubt if they lived with her they would find her half as much fun

weekends with steparents is not the same as living withj your own mum

i bet when they have a bad dream or bump their knee,they want you

their mum

you are not replaceable.

Lulumama · 09/03/2008 11:25

i am the living proof that you can get through it and make your own life even better as a result,

what does not kill you, makes you stronger

it is a cliche because it is true