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Sudden break up

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Cj777 · 01/07/2023 15:49

Hi, I am completely and utterly devastated, my partner of ten years decided in Sunday to end things, and I feel so low and suicidal , I don't want to carry on, it hurts so so deeply.

I just keep crying constantly, I love him so much and don't want to let him go, he said he couldn't handle the guilty feelings he has anymore and needs some head space and time to sort himself out. He had a one night stand and the beginning of the relationship and about two years found out that the woman who he had slept with not thinks her daughter is his. So he told me after a few weeks of finding this out, we broke up briefly but managed to work things out.. or so I thought but then this shock decision to just say he couldn't deal with it anymore and it has broken him.

I feel so sad, I just want us to work together through it, but he has said he needs to be alone, he wants to be friends and we are still speaking and texting all the time.

I feel lonely and that I will never be loved again, we were so so close and loving, and it's like he has just switched off his feelings overnight, I am heart broken feels like such a massive loss, don't know what to do with myself, I just want him to come back .

Thanks for listening

OP posts:
Cas112 · 23/07/2023 19:54

Cj777 · 23/07/2023 15:23

Hi
Well he found a room and moved some stuff out today, but says he wants to remain friends and we have been texting, calling, going out places, he is taking me out for my birthday next week.
He says I am special to him and he doesn't want me out of his life. I am struggling with it as I really dont want him out of mine either.

This is exactly what my ex did to me.. asked me to move out on a break.. after a few weeks ended it but told me he didn't want me out of his life wanted to be friends still needed me. He was coming mine for emotional support about the break up even though he was doing the breaking up, having baths, I was holding his hand whilst he grieved for the relationship and I was able to grieve for it the way he was because I was to busy making sure he was ok. Till it came out there was an other woman, then he cut all contact and I never got any answers or closure and he went to live a happy life with her. Don't do what I did OP . Cut him off and try to move forward, help yourself not him.

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