A&E with DD14 overdose posting for hand hold please

[Tinkerbellone]

I'm sat with DD14. She's taken 17 paracetamols after social media nastiness from girls at her school.
So worried. We got here within 30 min.
They've given her active charcoal. Has anyone had similar happen? Advice handhold please. I'm single mum and so worried. Xx

I'm sorry op. That's a shitty situation for both of you, on every level. Bullying is the worst. My ds had years of it, I sympathise. I hope your dd recovers well physically and can be supported to feel better mentally. And I'm sending strength and resilience your way too. Take care

Will be happy for my DD to be left behind then, sounds like a nightmare to just be in with the in crowd.

I hope your daughter makes a quick and full recovery. Try and capture the social media posts and take it up with the school and the girls parents if they are reasonable people.

OP, there is some great advice for parents here:
National Bullying Helpline.

Get your evidence, screenshots of anything. I know they all use SnapChat so this might not be possible, but gather anything your daughter has on her phone/laptop.

These selfish, thoughtless girls probably have no idea of the consequence of their nasty behaviour.

I knew a very young child who helped himself to children's aspirin when they used to be fruit flavoured for kids. He had to go to the children's Great Ormond St hospital (as general hospital he was taken to first rejected him) and it took about over an hour to get him there. We never knew how many he had eaten. He had his stomach pumped and stayed in for 2 days. He never showed any sign of being the worse for it.

This was dd12 and me a week ago. Found out from the police banging on our door after midnight to say a young person had overdosed in our house. It’s so shocking and bewildering to be in, big hugs. The Crisis chap arrived early morning to chat to her and he was lovely.

I took 40 when I was 15 , and it was a delay of 24 hours before I went to a and e. I had the active charcoal I then went to inpatient mental health unit for a while.. I'm fit and well it caused me no lasting damage and I'm 29 now so fingers crossed she will be ok which I'm sure she will be! .

Hand hold from across the Irish Sea. I truly hope your daughter recovers.

Hi@Tinkerbellone

My son overdosed at 15, different reasons to your dd. He was given the charcoal, bloods checked then psych referral in morning.

Seen by Cahms as was under them for his ADHD which was the root cause for the OD.
He is now happy and settled with his fiance and their baby.

Children can be so cruel to each other and SM imo only encourages that. I am so sorry you are both going through this and I hope your DD recovers quickly.

The school absolutely should know what has happened and why. Name and shame the culprits. If you can I'd be looking at changing schools as this level of bullying is intolerable resulting in your DD having to he treated in hospital.

I wish you and dd a peaceful night. Tomorrow is a new day.🙏💐

Hope you get everything sorted. (This one's a NZ handhold as it's 10.24 am for us.)

No practical advice. Just wanted to say I'm thinking of you and your dd

Sending lots of unmumsnetty hugs to you both

Actually I wasn't given activated charcoal as it was too late I had Acetylcysteine drip to minimise any damage. My liver is completely fine and I took a big overdose. Your DD will be ok, please pull her out of school and block off her social media she needs a rest and make sure home is peaceful. Please push CAMHs for more intervention.

Don't just phone. Back it up with email and screenshots . I'm really sorry.

Have a hand hold - I've been there - it's soul destroying.
The charcoal will absorb the paracetamol but they will monitor for a good few hours yet. In all likelihood they'll keep you there until CAMHS crisis team have seen her then will send you home.
What is your relationship like with the school? I would tell them exactly what's happened and perhaps keep her off now until September (you might be able to get GP to sign her off medically), this gives you breathing space to think about whether to go back. What is her preference?
If you use FB please consider joining the private group Parenting Mental Health, such a wealth of amazing advice and support from other parents in the same boat.

I was bullied all through senior school, honestly pull her out it never gets better. I hope she makes a full recovery.

Women can be awful to each other.

OP💐 and I hope.a speedy recovery for your dd.
I would be calling school and asking that they call all kids and parents in to discuss this. I would also consider another school.

I agree about the school, they should be all over this.

I'm so sorry your daughter's been so upset. I hope she makes a really quick recovery and those horrible students get their comeuppance.

Schools can do a lot. Just because it happened outside of school does not mean they will not get involved. Something happened to my daughter (outside of school on a weekend) and when she mentioned it to a member of staff the whole school acted and called the police, myself and children’s services. Please inform all relevant authorities of this and I send my best wishes for your daughter. She will come through this and hopefully as a much stronger better person than any of her persecutors

Thinking of you both.

School. In writing and an action plan to safeguard her. If not forthcoming change schools.

CAMHS: if they say they will do x or y, insist on a time frame, and confirm in writing what they have agreed with you. Every communication with CAMHS sent registered delivery so you have an audit trail. They are slithery, wriggley buggers.

Look after yourself as well.

Sending love and strength to you both. Your daughter won't be a statistic with you by her side. Take her out of school. The school must and should address this but I wouldn't let her go back. They break up in a month and hopefully your local authority will not penalise you under these circumstances and will work with you to relocate her. Get your local councillors to support you on this.

You are your daughter's hero. You sound amazing 💝

Peers at school to be addressed with their parents getting involved. Also to decide jointly with your daughter which sides continue to promote her as a person and which do not.

I meant sites, social media sites

I was that child at that exact same age
i am fine now health wise but I never settled back in at school and had no friends even though I was no longer bullied
School days were the worst of my life.
Give her the choice. If she doesn’t want to go back to school withdraw her immediately and set her up to study for IGCSEs with an online provider
Join her to some clubs - sports, art, drama whatever she likes so she can meet some new friends with shared interests
Even after what’s happened she will be reluctant to give up social media completely - she’s a teenager - so agree a time to stay away from it, maybe 3 months or so
Above all just be her support, be uncritical and just show her you love her
Thinking of you both xx