A&E with DD14 overdose posting for hand hold please

[Tinkerbellone]

I'm sat with DD14. She's taken 17 paracetamols after social media nastiness from girls at her school.
So worried. We got here within 30 min.
They've given her active charcoal. Has anyone had similar happen? Advice handhold please. I'm single mum and so worried. Xx

Wishing her all the very best

Sending love to you both, hope she is soon home. Some people are so horrible, hope you both get support. X

Hi OP just wanted to say I hope your DD makes a speedy recovery and also wanted to say that maybe your DD can attend lessons by zoom. My neighbours son was badly bullied so now he does all his lessons on zoom. They are well set up for this after the lockdown.

Really sorry to hear this. Not a priority right now I know but try to get screenshots when you can so you have evidence.

Wishing your daughter a full and speedy recovery and strength to you both.
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I was a teenager pre-internet (just missed it), but knowing adolescent girls I doubt it’s that easy. If you drop out of social media, that in itself becomes an excuse for bitchiness (“you think you’re too good for Instagram don’t you” or “oh, poor baby, doesn’t mummy let you use it?” or “we don’t think you should hang around with us anymore, since we like to catch up on Instagram and you’re never on it” etc).

Also, social media is where teenagers arrange stuff. It’s where they discuss who is going to sit with who on the school bus, and countless other silly, petty things. You can’t opt out. If you do, you’re no longer in the loop and you get left behind/left out.

Were the messages threatening? If so, please report to the police. Hopefully the school will be supportive and punish the culprits. You may have to raise hell with them to do it.

Is she in year 9? I imagine you could try to change your dd’s school. My dd changed from state to private this year so going into yr10 next. It is a lot more supportive and I haven’t heard of any cyber bullying. She was in a very large state school and the peer pressure was immense. Smaller state schools especially serving more rural location and villages seem also to have better behaviour.

Please do be aware that with phones a lot of children network so if your dd goes to a new school kids from her old school will know kids from her new school unless you go out of area. I’m not trying to put you off changing btw. Just please look at the ethos of any school you choose and talk to any parents you know as that will give you some idea of what it could be like for your dd.

I really hope your DD is okay! Please let the school know who is involved in the bullying. I wish there was a stricter system in schools for bullies. They shouldn't be allowed to learn in the same environment as others! Social media is also awful 😞

so sad to read this. Dreading my 7 year old DD having to deal with this. Big hugs to you both, do whatever you need to do to protect her. You must be so angry. Hope you both get some rest x

My child did the same. It's okay to cry.
Seek the help your child needs. Give her as much time as she needs. Take her out of school if necessary to keep her safe. Seek support for yourself (I wish I had).
My child is now well and healthy.

Wishing you strength

So sorry, it’s absolutely awful. Been there with my DD, same age. I took her out of the school and moved her. I won’t lie it was very hard going at first and school move didn’t solve things immediately but she is doing so much better now. Your DD will come through this.

it’s fine to take yourself off to the family room or somewhere similar and have a cry, you can always tell your DD you’re going to put a parking ticket in the car or something.

Im so so sorry. This is every parents worst nightmare. Sending a big hand hold and love to both of you 💜

Thinking of you op and your dd.
My own 14 year old dd is having issues with her peers.
Social media has most definitely made these situations so much worse, it’s 24/7 for them.
DD school has been next to useless and I am thinking of pulling her from school.
Her school has been next to useless.
I am so sorry this pushed your dd to the brink.

I've been through similar. Have you got the messages she was sent? Please screenshot and send to school.

Thank you everyone. I'm so overwhelmed by all your messages. I've read them all but I think they're not going in at the moment.
I'm so thankful for mums net!

My son took an accidental overdose of Calpol when he was a toddler, they made him sick and then did something else. He's now 33. I hope your outcome is the same as ours, a few hours panic and then relief he was OK

Sending you love and strength op. At 14 my dd was suicidal. I spent many a sleepless night on the floor outside her bedroom door. I didn't think she'd see 15 . I have no real advice, except to look after yourself. The saying about putting on your own gas mask first is so true. You need to think about yourself so that you can keep strong for her. And quietly let her know you are always on her side. she's 18 now and smashing life . Thinking of you and your dd.

Love and thoughts are with you both. You sound like such a lovely Mum.

So sorry to hear this, absolutely devastating.
Your poor daughter. Sounds like she’s very lucky to have you though. Sending love xx

My DD14 did the same a month ago, sending you both so much love.

I know how terrifying and heartbreaking it is, I posted on here from the hospital and the amount of support I received was incredible.

My DD starts a new school tomorrow after continuing to struggle where she was, we are still waiting for CAMHS so I'm glad you have support in place.

Please feel free to message me if you want someone to vent to, a lovely mumsnetter did the same for me when I was where you are and it helped me so much to have someone who knew what I was going through.

Wishing your DD a speedy recovery, and please look after yourself ❤️

How awful for you both Wishing her and you the very best.

My friend did the same at 15, they pumped her stomach as I think she had taken a larger amount of paracetamol (or perhaps just procedure at the time). She was in hospital being monitored for a few days.
This was forty years ago and she is a very happy fifty something.
I am so sorry that your daughter has been bullied like this, it is horrendous.