My partner is leaving me

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Sorry it's not an AIBU but I'm so down. I have PND and a 6 month old. He's leaving from tomorrow he's just told me. I have no idea how I'm going to get through it alone.

I’m sorry to hear op
Do you have some real life support you can access?

I’m sorry OP. Is this news to you or did you have an idea?

Oh lovely. I have no advice, I'm sorry. That sounds so hard. Do you have support or anyone that cwn help?

@PinkiOcelot

I’m sorry OP. Is this news to you or did you have an idea?

News to me this evening

It sounds like you're in a hard place right now. Sending sympathy and a hug. Deep breath, nothing horrible is going to happen tonight. See what's what tomorrow and take it steady then. x

Oh that's horrible you must be in shock .....call a friend

I'm upstairs with the baby, she's crying and he's just ignoring both of us as if we don't exist

Is he really going, or is he lashing out because he wants something to change and this is his way of getting your attention?

I’m sorry either way OP. It’s a stomach churning feeling. Please talk to your friends, lean on them.

Yes, contact a friend or family member. You shouldn't need to go through this alone. He has had however long to process this idea but it's so fresh and raw for you so please get some support.

This was me. My son was 9 months old. I went to the shops and when I came back my husband of 10 years told me he was leaving, completely out of the blue. I was devastated.
But I got through it, and my life has been so much better without him in it.
Sending you hugs, it’s truly shit. But your baby needs you, be strong for her. Tell your friends/family, take the help they will offer. You can do this.

I'm so sorry OP. Do you have any real life support?

Has he not got anywhere he could go tonight so you don't need to sit in the house together?

So sorry that you're going through this OP. It's awful that he's ignoring you and the baby. Please stay strong. It may not feel like it now but you will come out of the other side of this. Do you have anyone you can contact for support right now?

I’m so sorry. I have a 6 month old too so I understand that part of it.

What an absolute twat of a man

I'm so sorry, is there a friend who can come over? Or somewhere you can go?

Yes, as a pp says above,could this just be an empty threat,off the back of an argument? Or are you sure it's for real?

Firstly leave him to it. Dont try to talk or question him,it'll wind you up more.

Just settle baby for now.

Have you got any friends close by or anyone you could speak on phone to? If not..we are all here to keep you company anyway.

So sorry OP.

Who can you contact for support?

You need to do this.

Tell them the truth.

He has walked out and you need support.

Call your GP in the morning and ask for support.

Hang in there.

Keep posting.

I am messaging friends for support. Thank you all for your kind messages x

How well is your baby sleeping at the moment? Is she likely to go down soon so you can get a cuppa and have a breather ?

So sorry to hear this OP. I'm afraid if I were you, I'd tell him you're not prepared to wait for tomorrow, he can go now, why should it all be by his plans. Kick the bastard out! Then call your Mum/best friend for support.

I know you don't think so now, but if this is the way he treats you, you will ultimately be better off without him.

Sending a big supportive hug.

I know it won't feel like it now op but you can get through this. When DD was 4 my partner of 8 years announced out of the blue that he didn't love me anymore and that was that. I was utterly devastated,more so for DD though, I'd had separated parents and didn't want that for her. Bit by bit it got easier and now 11 years later I've been with dp for 8 years, we have a son and one on the way. DD also has siblings at her dad's and I'm not going to lie and say it's all been plain sailing but she's no worse off for not having her parents together. Stay strong op, sending you hugs xx

@Notimeforaname

How well is your baby sleeping at the moment? Is she likely to go down soon so you can get a cuppa and have a breather ?

She will probably go down in the next 45 mins or so, I will go down for a cuppa then. I don't want to be around him so I'll just get it and come back upstairs. He's downstairs acting like nothing happened ..

So sorry OP. Could he go tonight rather than drag it out until tomorrow? It must be such a shock. Real life support will massively help. Can you tell mum, sister, best friend? You will get through this. Best wishes xxx

I can't tell my mum as she's dead
I have a sister and my dad, and a close friend who I can call but don't want to do that right now as I don't want him to overhear

Op hugs. I am so sorry. Billy1966 has pointed great advice.
Also tell him to go now.
You need lots of support and advice.
You must be in shock
What way is your home? Rented ? In both names or mortgages.
You will need legal advice in the morning first thing.
Remember we are here for you. Also it is NOT your fault.
I will be thinking about you .

How can he be downstairs acting like nothing happened? I don't get it