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Seeing all these Feeling Low Posts makes me feel like screaming THAT'S LIFE

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RegularPoster · 25/10/2004 17:48

I'm sorry

I don't really read these threads

I do know that depression is a real illness and requires medical help and I do not wish to denigrate those who are suffering in this way

I cannot help thinking that a lot of these posts stem from expecting more from life than there really is. Some people just seem to want to feel good all the time, and the things that are getting you down are JUST LIFE

I think a lot of you do need to pull your socks up and stop analysing things. just get on with your lives and make the best of it

God forbid you had something proper to worry about - like war, disease, famine

Don't seem to see many of the mothers from the SN board posting here nor those who I do see as having real problems to worry about.

Discuss...

OP posts:
Titania · 25/10/2004 17:49

thanks for nothing....... nice to know im welcome here.......

KateandtheGirls · 25/10/2004 17:49

Oh boy. This could be interesting.

WigWamBam · 25/10/2004 17:51

This is a board for helping those with depression, or those who are feeling low in any shape or form, but who have no-one else to support them. Depression is a real illness, just as real as any other, and it cannot be quantified. One person's problems cannot be compared with anyone elses. It is unfair to compare the problems that people are discussing here with those faced by the SN mums, they are not the same. They may not be as important to you as they are to us but they are important and it is important for us to have somewhere to come for support.

Can I suggest that if you don't like these threads, or have nothing to post on them, that you leave them alone.

nasa · 25/10/2004 17:51

of course you are welcome to your opnion but it's a little bit cowardly not to do it in your usual MN name

WigWamBam · 25/10/2004 17:52

Titania, take no notice. This person has obviously never suffered with clinical depression and it's difficult for them to understand.

hercules · 25/10/2004 17:53

Surely though the title is not the appropriate place to post stuff about war, disease etc as it is "feeling low". I dont think anyone expects life to be hunkydory all the time. Feeling low doesnt have to be just about huge life changing events.

It does rile me sometimes to hear people complain about minor things eg already have a 3 bed house and want a 4 bed one. This isnt the sort of thing I think people are posting about though.

Personally I tend to avoid reading the feeling low threads just because they'll probably make me end up feeling low as well.

agy · 25/10/2004 17:53

I don't understand why you can't post this in your usual Mn name.

WigWamBam · 25/10/2004 17:54

It's called cowardice, Agy

nasa · 25/10/2004 17:54

exactly agy - bit cowardly I think

jampot · 25/10/2004 17:54

RP - we all have problems in one way or another and we all deal with our probs differently. Some people need medication because they feel so shit, others just need to talk, some need both and some could well be on the brink of something far more serious. I sometimes feel really shit but to date remain the only person I know who hasn't been prescribed or offered prozac so I really don't want to imagine how many of my friends feel at times. Your first line said it all, "i don;t read these threads" - well then do just that and don't read then you wont have to comment

kalex · 25/10/2004 17:55

You Coward, have the strength of your convictions and post in your own name

hercules · 25/10/2004 17:55

I think the original post was worded for a discussion rather than an attack on those posting on feeling low threads.

fabarooney · 25/10/2004 17:56

I think this may be in response to the thread that I've just started. RegularPoster, thank you for your viewpoint, even if I choose to disagree with it. I hope for your sake that you never suffer from depression. If you ever do have the misfortune to develop clinical depression, you will find that "analysing things" and worrying about life, whether or not they are real problems as far as you may be concerned, is a fairly common symptom.

If these threads do bother you so much, perhaps you should avoid them, rather than start another one that is sure to cause great hurt and offence.

agy · 25/10/2004 17:57

Read it again Hercules.

WigWamBam · 25/10/2004 17:57

The poster told us to pull our socks up and intimated that we don't have anything real to worry about. S/he obviously has no experience of, or interest in, depression.

kalex · 25/10/2004 17:57

Well herc, if she wanted a discussion surely that right way to start would be to use her own name.

Sorry, I have CD and have never posted about it, but I do read the threads, and they help.

joanneg · 25/10/2004 17:58

RP _ problems are all relative. If you really dont feel you relate to the posters then stay off of the feeling low board. simple!

Who are you to measure what is a worthy problem and that somebody who is feeling suicidal is not as entitled to support as somebody who is having a rough time with their dp, dh, inlaws or whatever?

KBear · 25/10/2004 17:58

I can't believe I just read this message - is this what you say to your mates when they need a cuppa and a shoulder to cry on? Pull yourself together. Glad you're not my mate.

I think MN is great in that it covers the whole spectrum of life - those of us who work outside the home, the SAHM, the SN mums, the rich mums, the poor mums, the sick mums and the healthy mums. We can all help each other and that's is what we do, I think. I don't read messages that don't interest me, can I suggest you do the same. And I don't want a row, this merely is my opinion.

joanneg · 25/10/2004 17:58

Discuss...

hercules · 25/10/2004 17:59

I guess I just cant believe somebody would genuinely think that.

Although it's a weird way of starting a discussion admittingly.

The poster does say discuss....

Perhaps they could come back and clarify more?

WigWamBam · 25/10/2004 18:00

I think this is exactly the response the poster was looking for, and to be honest, if s/he can't even do us the courtesty of using his/her real name then why should we bother to continue to feed his/her ego?

KBear · 25/10/2004 18:00

I am

Enid · 25/10/2004 18:01

Ok. I feel the same way about SOME of the Feeling Low threads, but not all of them.

I do think (and have said this before) that people use ad's far too quickly these days and that a lot of the time we do have periods of feeling low - often we are physically and mentally exhausted without realising it.

But I do think that for people suffering from severe/clinical depression, it can really help to 'chat' with people.

But again, I have read a few of the Feeling Low threads and must admit that sometimes I think 'get a grip'. AND I sometimes read the SN board and think 'what a fantastic, resilient bunch of mums, they could teach us all a thing or two'.

Titania, I don't mean you, I really don't, as I know you are feeling really truly dreadful at the moment.

Mum2girls · 25/10/2004 18:01

I think "Regular Poster" is a bit bored and out for some sport - I suggest no matter how hurt some people feel, that they ignore this entire thread.

joanneg · 25/10/2004 18:01

Kbear - our posts crossed the discuss was not intended for you!