Seeing all these Feeling Low Posts makes me feel like screaming THAT'S LIFE

[RegularPoster]

I'm sorry

I don't really read these threads

I do know that depression is a real illness and requires medical help and I do not wish to denigrate those who are suffering in this way

I cannot help thinking that a lot of these posts stem from expecting more from life than there really is. Some people just seem to want to feel good all the time, and the things that are getting you down are JUST LIFE

I think a lot of you do need to pull your socks up and stop analysing things. just get on with your lives and make the best of it

God forbid you had something proper to worry about - like war, disease, famine

Don't seem to see many of the mothers from the SN board posting here nor those who I do see as having real problems to worry about.

Discuss...

just thank your lucky stars regularposter that i havent got PMT!!!

To be fair I think the first post refers to very trivial things although they havent come back to explain further.

I'm still ignoring by the way

On a more positive note, Kirsty MacCol suffered depression, and someone in her documentary reckoned it was coz she was super clever and intelectual. Not verbatim, but the general feel of it was, Only clever people get depressed coz they have the wherewithall to realise that life is shite!

can i just say regular poster may have problems of her own and not live in a bubble. It is kind of presumptious to think she has a perfect life. Maybe she has been through the mill and could just be pointing out the fact that moaning about ;ittle things is a waste of energy, we all do it and i try to make a concerted effort costantly to remember how lucky i am. Perhaps thats all she meant.

All I want out of life at the moment, Hercules, is to feel normal. I used to feel normal, before my depression, and I think I have the right to want to feel like "me" again. That's what all of us on this board want. And if support from others in the same position helps, then why shouldn't people take it?

i expect too much from life. who doesnt?

all iwant is to win the lottery..........

but i found st johns wort excellant for mild depression, after being on anti-depressions for 6months it helped me a great deal.

I agree. I think that partly because he was so spoilt he now has unrealisitc expectations of life and he cannot give himself the same lifestyle he had growing up although does have now through in laws.

He does feel shit most of the time as well.

feeling normal? after having kids who feels normal? what is normal? arrrgh!!

Normal? I just want to feel like me again, not some miserable piece of shit in the bottom of a black hole.

same here WWB

Is having dreams not part of life too?
Expecting more from life... well I think hope comes into it more than expectations.
RP, if an area of MN chat doesn't interest you, don't post or, even better, don't read the threads.
Everyone else, don't rise to what RP is setting up. In fact, don't post any more, then the thread will end.

u on anit depressants WWB? any other support apart from the board. gotta dash for a bit, dd2 just handed em a tub of ice cream.

I'm not refering to posters on this site, more an observation based solely on my bil.

I mean that for most people they realise that they're not going to win the lottery and dont let it consume their lives.

I am under no illusions that depression isnt a physical thing and mental but I can see tha point that perhaps some of it stems from our expectations in life.

find this all very disturbing the tone was not kindly just like to point out I do worry about war disease adn famine I also expect more from life but if someone is low just expecting a normal life is hard adn if you feel you can't cope or do something support is important - I am sure the sn mothers probably have good support networks as well maybe just not visible to us on MN

she also says she understasnds deppression, i don't think she is having a go at anyone with cd, i think people without it actually

The sad thing about your post, RP, is that despite the huge number of thoughtful and understanding messages that other mumsnetters have posted, the one that will stick out for most people suffering from CD is yours. I can guarantee that your attempt to prompt a "discussion" has made a lot of people feel really crappy this evening. I've never started a thread on Feeling Low before this evening, I've just kept tabs on the other threads which has helped me enormously. Knowing that there are other people out there who can sympathise with me is a real comfort. I started a thread tonight because I am feeling pretty dreadful. Perhaps I wasn't melodramatic enough to meet your deserving of sympathy criteria. Your thread has made me feel ten times worse. I know that my life is not as awful as that of someone living in a warzone. My perception of my own life and my ability to cope with it has been hugely affected by my CD, however. How dare you tell me, and others who post here, to pull ourselves together. Perhaps the problems may seem superficial to you, sometimes it is easier to talk about the superficials as a way of getting into the more difficult areas. Your attitude to mental health is decades out of date. And you are a coward.

Well I never ever read these threads .. but this one has made me have a look

I apologise to all those of you suffering from 'feeling low' that I am not aware of your individual circumstances, but that's cos I don't read these threads

Titania .. I think you had a great response .. I admire your anger .. good on you

I'm kind of with Hercules here

As for the original poster

S/he says that she appreciates that depression is a real illness and needs treatment

S/he then goes on to say that 'some' people expect more out of life than what life has to give

I'm kind of scared of saying this but in a way I think s/he has a point ... I come across many people in RL who complain because their house isn't as big as someone elses, or say they are 'feeling down' because they aren't appreciated or some ambition hasn't been realised .. and yes rather than lending a shoulder I really want to tell them to get a real life .. or walk for a mile in my shoes

though this isn't the right forum for this discussion maybe

That's how I read it too ff. RP doesnt seem to be refering to people with "depression".

By the way if regularposter had seen my previous threads they might realise that being abused as a child, having a still born baby, other miscarriages, having your 1st husband walk out on just after you have miscarried, and various other horrible things which I have been too ashamed to post about might contribute towards depression inc my recent emergencyb hospital admission with a suspected life threataning blood clot and being parted from my tiny newborn, my gp says he amazed I didnt crack earlier so BELT UP and CLEAR OFF if you have nothing constructineve to say, I hope you have had your fun.

Regular Poster. I think that if these are your opinions then you should have posted under your user name. A lot of people will find your comments offensive and not in keeping with the supportive ethos of Mumsnet,.
Everybody else- can I suggest that we let this one go and stop posting on it- Regularposter hasn't been back, they've just 'lit the touch paper and stood back' so to speak.
I shall pass this on to HQ for their attention although I'm not sure what can be done about it apart for let it die.

Yes, Twiglett - that's what I thought too.

yes but I think the point here is it has upset people who we don't know how low they are feeling adn often the posts aren't just about trivial things ther is often a hidden undercurrant I think it takes guts to post on here as peopel normally suss out who is genuine or not by other threads etc.

Maybe Mumsnet haven't chosen quite the right name for this board. Perhaps "Feeling Low" doesn't quite make the point.

I dont see how this is so offensive to be honest. RP is not belittling the kind of circumstances people are writing about on this thread.