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Seeing all these Feeling Low Posts makes me feel like screaming THAT'S LIFE

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RegularPoster · 25/10/2004 17:48

I'm sorry

I don't really read these threads

I do know that depression is a real illness and requires medical help and I do not wish to denigrate those who are suffering in this way

I cannot help thinking that a lot of these posts stem from expecting more from life than there really is. Some people just seem to want to feel good all the time, and the things that are getting you down are JUST LIFE

I think a lot of you do need to pull your socks up and stop analysing things. just get on with your lives and make the best of it

God forbid you had something proper to worry about - like war, disease, famine

Don't seem to see many of the mothers from the SN board posting here nor those who I do see as having real problems to worry about.

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OP posts:
captainCOD · 25/10/2004 18:52

(and I did have mild pnd)

hercules · 25/10/2004 18:54

I knew you'd think that!
No, I didnt think it was you.

nasa · 25/10/2004 18:55

making bread cod? gosh I feel inadequate - do you have breadmaker or from scratch?

nasa · 25/10/2004 18:56

just seen breadmaker thread.

princesspeahead · 25/10/2004 19:00

RP has been extremely successful in provoking a quick and hefty response and pissing a lot of people off, both of which I think she was aiming for.
But I must say that those of you who object to whether a thread should be posted on "feeling low" or "feeling pissed off" ought to consider a second career as a librarian, file archivist or indexer. Or alternatively I'll pay you £10ph to sort out the pile of papers and mess that is my study....

I must say "thread classification" is not one area of life that I can get exercised about!

vict17 · 25/10/2004 19:01

Aaaarrgghh - I hate these threads by 'a regular poster' and then people start guessing who it is but no one says who they think it is. It makes my head hurt! Just say who you think it is!!

BadHair · 25/10/2004 19:02

I think RP might have been posting in response to another similar thread that was started at around the same time, as it made me think along the "pull your socks up" lines too.
Didn't think her post was particularly inflammatory but then again I've not had depression diagnosed (felt shit often enough though) so should really keep my big mouth shut, I guess.
FWIW I'm with Twiglett and FF on this one.

fio2 · 25/10/2004 19:04

nmo it wasnt either but..I do understand a bit where this person was coming from and I am sure they didnt mean the post the way it sounded.

I have read a few of the posts on the feeling low board and found them very trivial. But when you think about it depression is a funny thing. You cant seem to grasp reality and sometimes trivial things CAN make you break. i think we all need to see this aswell. And whilst something may be trivial to one person it isnt to another

AuntyQuated · 25/10/2004 19:07

pph...pmsl....you really ought to see my filing system - everyhting is in a pile somehwere/anywhere...but i do like to make sure people put their stuff in the right place

Kayleigh · 25/10/2004 19:08

too to post... will be back when i have cooled down ...

zebra · 25/10/2004 19:09

I like the feeling low threads; reminds me 2 count my blessings when I'm otherwise prone 2 mope.

Of course, my life would be so fab if I only had a FIVE bedroom house, an au pair, a perfect body, a baby who slept more than 3 hours... hmmm.

fio2 · 25/10/2004 19:10

god my post was crap. i think i meant it is hard to put things into perspective when you are depressed IME

sobernow · 25/10/2004 19:10

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captainCOD · 25/10/2004 19:12

if you look att he topic heading "Feeling Low" the titles are somewhat gloomy, which is to be esxpected I suppose.

joanneg · 25/10/2004 19:14

The point is though who is to decide what is a 'trivia' problem!!?? surely it is better if you think that something is not worthy of advice/support just to stay off the thread?

I think that we all click on posts on all boards sometimes when we dont agree with someone, or think that we dont relate to what the poster is saying - but I have never started a thread just to point it out!! Too to make much sense as I really feel like this 'feeling low' board was a haven for people feeling bad/alone or whatever and now people are going to feel stupid posting and that pisses me off.

Enid · 25/10/2004 19:19

Sometimes dwelling on things and angsting over every tiny trivial detail in your life is only going to contribute to depression though, don't you think? I did feel quite miserable for a time, and was quite anxious/panicky and a bit depressed. What helped was forcing myself to do things that took my mind off my own mental state - constantly dwelling on it is SO exhausting and it just made things worse IME.

I know if I read too many Feeling Low threads I start to feel pretty miserable myself, so I try not to read most of them.

captainCOD · 25/10/2004 19:20

donthey say now htta post traumatic conuinselling and therapy can do more harm than good?

Enid · 25/10/2004 19:23

Cognitive behavioural therapy is good - FORCES you to look at things positively and recognise the negative spin you put on things - apparently more effective than ads.

WigWamBam · 25/10/2004 19:24

My concern is that people will b put off from posting here. This has been a place where anyone can come and get support, even just for those times when all they want is a rant and someone to listen. How are we meant to feel now, knowing that we are held in such contempt by certain posters? Yes, I know that RP wasn't aiming his/her post at those with clinical depression, but many of us who are suffering with CD come here and do read the threads, either for advice or to add support. Everyone is entitled to their opinion, and I'm sure there are many more people out there who think we should just snap out of it and get a life, but the Feeling Low boards were set up as a support network, not an opportunity to dig at other posters.

If these threads don't interest you, or irritate you, or make you want to punch us, then don't read them. Leave them for those who do need the support they can find here. There are plenty of other boards here where you can find many other discussions going on that might be of far more interest to you.

nasa · 25/10/2004 19:25

enid - agree CBT is really good, is categorically not contemplating your navel but not appropriate for some people

melsy · 25/10/2004 19:26

OK BIG DEEP BREATH

I have tried to stay clear of several of the flaming posts of the last couple of months, but I have found this to be a little close to home and someoone shoule really (WHOMEVER U R) stay away from here, as it is NOT YOUR PLACE to comment. I dont feel a discusion on the TYPES or LEVELS of depression and wether they are worhty or warrant posting is not really appropraie really and Ive actaully had enough of the enourmous amount of negative comments of late.

I havent posted much on feeling low threads as Ive been through hell and come back in just a year and ive done god damn bloody brillaint I think !!I still have some dark moments, but I know now how to bounce out of it a lt better for the 1st time in years. I hope that many of you can find the therapy and help I have been blessed to have found. Im still going thourgh a battery of tests like : Cat scans & EEG's and others, but now I take it in my stride, (even if I find them unpleasant and emtoitnal at the time). I must say though if it hadnt been for MN over the last 12 mths my world post birth would have been very dark and lonely.

SO RP , Im aware that you express the opinion of several in society, but feel that you should really know a subject or be more educated in your information before suggesting to people that they PULL there sox up. and often the conversations here are not just analytical but CATHARTIC and release pain and tension ,that you have no right to judge as to the level of.

I am not going to get angry , as Ive had enouff of that emotion in myself and it takes me too longto calm down, but I feel that I needed to say somthing.

Twiglett · 25/10/2004 19:27

I think a lot of people use mumsnet from the active conversations board though so the 'board' each post is under makes no difference does it?

moomina · 25/10/2004 19:31

I agree that at times some posts or threads can make you wonder what the fuss is all about. Perhaps some people should be counting their blessings a little more. I'm not always the world's most sympathetic person and do now and again think 'Oh FGS, stop whingeing.'

But to start a thread with the sole intention of having a go at those whose problems don't subscribe to your specific idea of what's worth worrying about and what isn't? I quote '...nor those who I do see as having real problems to worry about'. Your decision, is it, RP???

And to do it under a pseudonym...

kalex · 25/10/2004 19:32

And Twigelett, Ithink that is a good thing, coz I have learnt so much, probably from the SN board. I have learnt that I have far fewer problems than most, I have learnt that alot of people have it worse of than me. I have also learnt there are people out there with incredibly gifted children and children who are incredibly lucky to have very well off parents.

GRMUM · 25/10/2004 19:34

I guess as with many things in life its often the straw that breaks the camels back... I also think that no-one else can judge whether somebody else's problems are serious or not because everything is so relevant to our individual life experiances isn't it? eg my dh travels frequently in his job for varying periods of time - he always has done -so I personally find it hard to understand why somebody finds it difficult if they have to cope on their own for a few days. On the other hand things that i might find incredibly hard to cope with might be second nature to some of you. Surely this is the whole point to share and support?