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This is a pointless life

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inuet · 25/12/2020 06:05

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard".
British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.

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FreeBettyBoop · 25/12/2020 06:08

Yeah pretty much.

Cripesitsthegasman19 · 25/12/2020 06:17

I agree, it's shit. It'll be even shitter when schools close. Can see mental breakdown number 3 looming in January. One of my friends told me to go out for a walk every day like that's going to make up for the shitness of life.

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inuet · 25/12/2020 06:28

Cripes yes I too have had people giving me similar advice. It is like people are collectively losing it.

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Singlenotsingle · 25/12/2020 06:29

Come on, it's not that bad. Have you no friends or family to turn to? (Sorry, but you don't give much information). What do I get enjoyment from? My grandchildren, my dog, tv (and all the wild and wacky programs on there - Red Quest has one called My 600lb Life! ), music (always guaranteed to brighten my day), cooking, reading... This corona nonsense won't go on forever, and the vaccine is on the way. Spring is on the way too! Grin

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inuet · 25/12/2020 06:36

@Singlenotsingle

Come on, it's not that bad. Have you no friends or family to turn to? (Sorry, but you don't give much information). What do I get enjoyment from? My grandchildren, my dog, tv (and all the wild and wacky programs on there - Red Quest has one called My 600lb Life! ), music (always guaranteed to brighten my day), cooking, reading... This corona nonsense won't go on forever, and the vaccine is on the way. Spring is on the way too! Grin
I don't agree that it is not that bad. The friends and family stuff isn't the reason I am feeling fed up- its the poor quality of life in general and how people now seem to have such low standards. My passion was travel which now seems to be on a level of unmentionable transgressiveness one up from child abuse. I hate the place I live and it has turned everyone against each other. The forced jolliness of Christmas is just about the final straw.
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Newjez · 25/12/2020 06:37

Can't wait for the schools to close. I can't protect my family until then. Sick of all the new strain lies. No evidence to suggest... Well, that just means you don't know. If you don't know, just tell us that and when you think you will be likely to know. We're grown ups, and lies just breed mistrust.

chaosrabbitland · 25/12/2020 06:40

Yes i feel the same . Goverment seem intent on taking away all our freedom and i feel its now about more than protecting us from a virus that in the main only kills the very elderly and those with health problems. It feels like this is going on forever and i dont believe Johnsons crap we will be bk to nearly normal by easter with the vaccine any more than i believe the rest of the lies they put out . Given up complying with the rules dont care anymore . And i dont give a shit what all these santamonious idiots that blindly believe it all think either .im very depressed as well .just making the best of christmas really for sake of my twelve yr old . Im dreading nxt yr and just waiting to hear that they are closing the schools again .wont surprise me in the least . I honestly pray for this nightmare to end .i get so sick of hearing stupid comments about a new normal ! I dont wanta new normal .i want the old one back !

Matchsticklady · 25/12/2020 06:42

It’s hard to see an end to it all and the longer it goes on the more trapped and hemmed in I feel. I hate all my choices being taken away and the fact that every government announcement triggers my health anxiety again. I worry that even when I can do things I’m going to be too bloody scared to.

I hate that seeing my family is now illegal.

Having seen how much has unravelled this year, I’m frightened for the next and can’t understand the ‘“let’s just make it through 2020 and all will be alright” brigade

Northernsoullover · 25/12/2020 06:51

@inuet if your passion was travel then that makes you very privileged. Of course you are entitled to feel crap and just because other people have it worse doesn't mean you can't feel sad about your own circumstances but please try and have a little bit of compassion for those who have lost jobs, family members to this awful pandemic.
Like yourself I love travel and I'm really social. That's all gone. I'm also separated (distance) from my partner and I'm on my own today away from my vulnerable family. So are many others. I'm nothing special. In the first lockdown my mental health became very poor and I'm now on medication for the first time ever for this (I'm nearly 50). I'm not going to moan I'm going to try and take comfort from the small things. Small steps I can take to make my existence that little bit brighter. Perhaps time to speak to your GP?

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inuet · 25/12/2020 06:56

[quote Northernsoullover]@inuet if your passion was travel then that makes you very privileged. Of course you are entitled to feel crap and just because other people have it worse doesn't mean you can't feel sad about your own circumstances but please try and have a little bit of compassion for those who have lost jobs, family members to this awful pandemic.
Like yourself I love travel and I'm really social. That's all gone. I'm also separated (distance) from my partner and I'm on my own today away from my vulnerable family. So are many others. I'm nothing special. In the first lockdown my mental health became very poor and I'm now on medication for the first time ever for this (I'm nearly 50). I'm not going to moan I'm going to try and take comfort from the small things. Small steps I can take to make my existence that little bit brighter. Perhaps time to speak to your GP?[/quote]
Northernsoul your post has totally and utterly pissed me off. Is saying that you don't like the miserable apology for a life now on offer and that you liked travelling now tantamount to saying that you have no empathy for people who have lost those to this? Is bereavement in the pandemic the only one that now counts and yes I lost a job as well but it wasn't that I was focussing on. I'm already feeling worse thanks to your post, thanks a lot.

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chaosrabbitland · 25/12/2020 06:56

@Newjez

Can't wait for the schools to close. I can't protect my family until then. Sick of all the new strain lies. No evidence to suggest... Well, that just means you don't know. If you don't know, just tell us that and when you think you will be likely to know. We're grown ups, and lies just breed mistrust.
Its not that ppl dont believe theres a new strai . What they dont believe is the goverments response to it . No evidence they have produced to say its more deadly than the first . And despite the high death charts we still aren't getting told how many if these were very elderly, had health issues . If you want to keep your family cowering away in ur house for wks on end that's great..but there's a lot ofus that just want to deal with it and live our lives
Marleymoo42 · 25/12/2020 07:00

I went to my gp and he pretty much said 'I cant suggest you see your friends and a few walks probably wont help so how about you try antidepressants?' So refreshing to have someone to acknowledge the shitness of the situation and make my feelings valid. I am only getting through by medication and being busy with work. Now I'm off for Christmas I feel awful again.

SomeoneInTheLaaaaaounge · 25/12/2020 07:06

I totally understand. Some days I feel like this too.
The best I can offer you is a spiritual teacher called Jack Kornfield. Good bloke free talks here. Might help a bit.

jackkornfield.com/podcasts-heart-wisdom/

Daisychainsandglitter · 25/12/2020 07:08

I agree everything is pretty shit really. If they close the schools and nurseries it will be even worse.
With the exception of a few weeks over the summer where I live has been under some form of restriction since the end of August and I'm heartily sick of it. Still stuck in tier 3 and will probably be in tier 4 within the coming weeks so in my view compliance gets you no where.
A few miles down the road is tier 2 where life is largely carrying on as normal.
My work load has increased significantly since covid so am working long hours and have developed sciatica from sitting down so much. I've also piled on the pounds from comfort eating and the lack of activity.

redfernsydney · 25/12/2020 07:08

I am sorry you are struggling right now. It won't be like this forever. .things will change and they will get better.
In the meantime you have a choice. choose wisely.

Iheartmysmart · 25/12/2020 07:09

Yep with you there! Waking up on Christmas Day to a feeling of meh what’s the point. Sick of our local rag running constant doom laden stories which most people take blindly at face value. Can’t point out any facts cos you know Covid will kill us all. Personally I know 4 people who’ve had it - all recovered. However the 2 friends who committed suicide won’t, neither will the one who now has terminal cancer but they don’t matter cos it’s not Covid. Other friends have lost jobs and businesses and now face financial hardship.

Go for a walk - hmm have a dog and live in a flat. Going for a walk happens 5 times a day already. That’s over 1300 walks since this began, don’t need another one thanks.

The Pollyanna’s and their find joy in little things...! No thank you. I want to see my friends and family, go out for meals with them, go to the cinema, not sit in alone reading yet another book or watching TV when I already spend 8 hours a day in front of a laptop.

MLMsuperfan · 25/12/2020 07:13

It might not be back to normal at Easter but we could be at the lowest point now. It's always darkest before the dawn.

rosie1959 · 25/12/2020 07:15

Life is shit at the moment but tormenting yourself over what you can’t do will do no good whatsoever
Accept what you do have and for this moment in time it’s the way it has to be
It will get better
I find helping others takes my mind off self

Northernsoullover · 25/12/2020 07:18

Sorry. I didn't mean to.

AuntieStella · 25/12/2020 07:21

I don't see it as pointless, I see it it tough right now.

But it won't always be like this, and I very much hope the people I am not seeing this year will all be alive to see in future years.

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inuet · 25/12/2020 07:22

@rosie1959

Life is shit at the moment but tormenting yourself over what you can’t do will do no good whatsoever Accept what you do have and for this moment in time it’s the way it has to be It will get better I find helping others takes my mind off self
Sometimes it seems like all that ever happens is we are told to accept everything, then one day you wake up and your life has gone by and all you did was accept the unacceptable
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Luckyrabbitfoot · 25/12/2020 07:33

@inuet

My passion was travel which now seems to be on a level of unmentionable transgressiveness one up from child abuse.

What a strange point of reference Confused

rosie1959 · 25/12/2020 07:40

inuet unless you are 99 years of age life will have far more to come
And if you are take a leaf out of Sir captain Tom's book he has managed to achieve quite a lot even in lockdown

ThornAmongstRoses · 25/12/2020 07:44

You are comparing the fact you aren’t allowed to travel to child abuse?

MarinPrime · 25/12/2020 07:48

Sometimes it seems like all that ever happens is we are told to accept everything, then one day you wake up and your life has gone by and all you did was accept the unacceptable

How will "not accepting" the current situation change things for the better?