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This is a pointless life

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inuet · 25/12/2020 06:05

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard".
British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.

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southeastdweller · 25/12/2020 08:51

The hot chic brigade have come out in force as usual. Have some empathy.

I feel similarly about this joyless life. It’s shit and I don’t feel much hope about it. All this misery and destruction for a fucking phoney war.

midnightstar66 · 25/12/2020 08:53

I hate the place I live and it has turned everyone against each other. The forced jolliness of Christmas is just about the final straw.

I guess this is a major issue and something you can focus on changing. You coins spend time making a long term plan to find somewhere you want to be . I love where I live, it offers never ending places to explore even in a lockdown situation but until tomorrow we've had a good amount of things open. Tomorrow some more major restrictions but it won't be forever.

Mumof3andlovingit · 25/12/2020 08:56

As far as I know every single person has restrictions on them in some form or another and everyone is feeling the grief of losing their “old life”
I don’t know one person who is happy about lockdowns, tiers or the virus. Regardless of whether they are financially stable or not not one person is truly “happy”
We are all dealing with the loss of our old life, it’s the way we deal with it that varies from person to person.
Some have anxiety over their jobs, some over their homes, some over their lack of social life and some who maybe financially secure still worry about their vulnerable family members or their own health etc. We all have a certain degree of MH issues going on at the moment.
Sounds like you do need perhaps some medication to help you control and switch off some of the negative feelings. We all cope in different ways.

Scaredshitlessagain · 25/12/2020 08:58

@ArseInTheCoOpWindow

Bet NHS workers and people who’ve lost loved ones wouldn’t like this thread.

It’s shit for everyone. But more shit for them. Be thankful for what you’ve got.

Christ. It's people like you that send people over the edge. Have some fucking empathy.
ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/12/2020 09:01

I have plenty of empathy. I understand it all completely.

My DS has lost his job
I’m about to lose mine
Dh has had his reduced to 50
Dd has missed lots of school.
My mental health is fucked completely by this.

It’s shit for everyone. Everyone. But the only way over it is through it. We have to get through it. There is no other way.

Oliversmumsarmy · 25/12/2020 09:03

It isn’t that this thing will pass. It is how many of the current restrictions will be kept noe they know we will comply

User158340 · 25/12/2020 09:07

@inuet

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard". British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.
This won't go on forever you know.
midnightstar66 · 25/12/2020 09:20

It isn’t that this thing will pass. It is how many of the current restrictions will be kept noe they know we will comply

But what would be the point of that - continue to damage the economy just because they can? What would be the justification,in the absence of a pandemic?

BaileyBoos · 25/12/2020 09:27

No I don’t see it as pointless. I still have my friends and family to love, and I still have my health. I realise I’m fortunate for that, and I feel very grateful.

Tough at times, most certainly, but not pointless.

Kirstymonkey3 · 25/12/2020 09:31

@inuet Northernsoul your post has totally and utterly pissed me off. Is saying that you don't like the miserable apology for a life now on offer and that you liked travelling now tantamount to saying that you have no empathy for people who have lost those to this? Is bereavement in the pandemic the only one that now counts and yes I lost a job as well but it wasn't that I was focussing on. I'm already feeling worse thanks to your post, thanks a lot.

I agree with this. I know people have it worse than me, I know there’s a lot of shit things happening to people at the moment, but that does not invalidate your feelings. We all have different lives and different things affect us. This year has been shit and I understand where you’re coming from

Belepheron · 25/12/2020 09:34

It is shit. The idea that the government is doing ANY of this deliberately is fantastical. I loathe this government but there is no way any of their (crap) decisions are made to test our "compliance".

Frankly, a lot of people don't seem to have the inner reserves necessary to cope with a major downturn in the quality of life. And that's indicative of the shallow consumerism of the late 20th century. We don't all cope in the same way. Some people have more resilience than others and that's just a fact of life. Work on your resilience the best way you can, or collapse in a heap. Those are the choices. We have lived in the most incredibly fortunate and wonderful era and now it's less so. We are not as humans entitled to the life we want and sometimes life is misery and frustration. How you respond is up to you.

dannydyerismydad · 25/12/2020 09:46

DH is ECV. He is safe and alive. For that I count my blessings.

I very much look forward to being able to travel and socialise, but all these restrictions are easier to cope with when protecting someone dear to you. I do imagine it's much harder for those who are having restrictions imposed on them who are at least risk from the virus.

BasiliskStare · 25/12/2020 09:49

@Belepheron - like your post in that most people are just having to get through this .I am not keen on this government but honestly I don't see anyone e.g. Kier Starmer ( who I do quite like - ) coming up with any better ideas, Until which I shall obey all guidelines etc, & that is OK - harder for my son than for me - but we all just find our way & I do agree we have been fortunate to have years of nothing really going wrong

Reallybadidea · 25/12/2020 10:02

This is the most right-wing libertarian government we've had in at least 30 years. To say that "they" are going to continue restrictions after the end of the worst of the pandemic is over is pretty ridiculous.

Oliversmumsarmy · 25/12/2020 10:22

It’s shit for everyone. Everyone

Judging by some of the posts on the Coronavirus forum I would argue it isn’t shit for everyone.

Loads of people are loving it.
Loads of people want more of the same
Loads of people are not looking forward to getting back to normal.

I was pointing out that governments around the world now know how far they can go with taking away their citizens civil liberties and people not complaining and blindly complying.
In China no one complained when they were welding families into their apartments with no food. Certain countries made their citizens think that if someone was not wearing a mask people were perfectly entitled to verbally attack them in the street.

Somehow I don’t think we can be pushed that far. We have worn masks and locked down and now for a lot of people, we are fed up and are just doing our own version of lockdown

BasiliskStare · 25/12/2020 10:28

I don't like it - my son does not like it - if there are some people who are profiting from this , well, & enjoying it - OK - fill your boots - lots of people aren't - I am not sure that people can't see a difference between precautions and civil liberties,

Enough - Happy Christmas to all - whatever form it takes x

Bronzino · 25/12/2020 10:39

[quote Northernsoullover]@inuet if your passion was travel then that makes you very privileged. Of course you are entitled to feel crap and just because other people have it worse doesn't mean you can't feel sad about your own circumstances but please try and have a little bit of compassion for those who have lost jobs, family members to this awful pandemic.
Like yourself I love travel and I'm really social. That's all gone. I'm also separated (distance) from my partner and I'm on my own today away from my vulnerable family. So are many others. I'm nothing special. In the first lockdown my mental health became very poor and I'm now on medication for the first time ever for this (I'm nearly 50). I'm not going to moan I'm going to try and take comfort from the small things. Small steps I can take to make my existence that little bit brighter. Perhaps time to speak to your GP?[/quote]
Just sometimes it’s OK to say nothing...

GalesThisMorning · 25/12/2020 10:47

Does wallowing make it better though? Ok, it's a shit time, we all know that. So your feelings are valid. But how does refusing to look for any joy or count any blessings make it better?

Wallowing doesn't help

ArseInTheCoOpWindow · 25/12/2020 10:51

I’m not sure anyone is loving it. I know no one who is.

Why would they?

TroubadorinTrouble · 25/12/2020 10:56

There are small joys to be had but fundamentally, it’s a load of shite. Particularly missing the lack of live music, theatre and sporting events (that I can attend).

Also, your community hasn’t turned into a vipers nest, it always was a vipers nest. It’s just the vipers have been given legitimacy.

southeastdweller · 25/12/2020 10:57

There's been many posts in the CV threads about people loving it - having more family time and enjoying a simpler way of life. The financial benefit of it to some (saving lots of money on commuting) has also been mentioned many times.

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inuet · 25/12/2020 11:01

@ThornAmongstRoses

You are comparing the fact you aren’t allowed to travel to child abuse?
No I am not and if you'd read it properly you would have got it. It isn't really possible to even say how unhappy you are here without people making you feel worse. And I'm sorry I'm not Sir Captain Tom, do people ever stop judging here?
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HunterHearstHelmsley · 25/12/2020 11:05

I get you, OP. I'm finding it hard to keep in touch with people now as I feel like what's the point if I'm never going to see them again? Don't want to go to shops or to the gym as its all just wrong. I work from home and feel like it's going to be these four walls forever, so what is the point.

ShiteheadRevisited · 25/12/2020 11:10

I'm completely with you, OP. It's all shit.

The whole objective of life now appears to be to avoid death, and in my opinion this is not living.

I have a gaping hole where my friends and travel once were - privileged? Yes, probably. I do acknowledge that, but it doesn't make it all any less shite.

Thanks to you all.

Cecily42 · 25/12/2020 11:15

I don’t think anyone enjoys it. Of course we all want our old lives back. I do think some people are better at focusing on positives hence the posts about more family time, time to read good books etc Personally I have had the worst year of my life, but I still try to look at the bright side and I know it wont last forever.