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This is a pointless life

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inuet · 25/12/2020 06:05

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard".
British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.

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BabyYodasRattle · 25/12/2020 11:19

My advice: stay off Facebook. It has its uses and I'm pleased for my friends' good news and appreciative of their Christmas wishes. However, past that and sharing valuable information and ideas, it is a smoke screen. A happy life is a private life, IMO. For the most part it only currently serves to exasperate Covid fears and make you question your innate sense of self.

Admittedly I have been using it more than usual due to the pandemic... though as the year is almost done and Covid is not going away any time soon, I won't be using it much from now on. In fact, I will be having a lengthy hiatus.

Do yourself a favour and do the same. Concentrate rather on your present surroundings and your family.

Wishing you a Merry Christmas, OP and a hopeful new year. Xmas Smile

TheKeatingFive · 25/12/2020 11:20

The whole objective of life now appears to be to avoid death, and in my opinion this is not living

Yup. It’s crazy that it’s come to this.

JustDanceAddict · 25/12/2020 11:21

It’s pretty shit esp for the teenagers who should be having an amazing time. I was thinking back to last Xmas season - what we all did - just meeting up w friends and family. We all had great new year’s eves w our respective friends etc getting a bit drunk and this year it looks like we’ll be in w our 18 & 16 yr olds - rock on (in Tier fucking 4).
Quality of life is just not there in general atm, but it will come back, it has to for all our sakes.

Heyahun · 25/12/2020 11:22

I don’t get these kind of posts at all - I can’t understand how you can find a single thing to enjoy lockdown or not tbh.

Yea the winter lockdown is a bit harder with the weather etc! But there’s still loads to do - you just have to make the most of it!

Comparing about how crap it is won’t change anything - it just makes you more miserable and makes the future look even more bleak!

I can’t stand talking to negative friends anymore - about how unfair it is, how crap it is !

It’s fucking Christmas Day - lighten up - enjoy what you have, make the day fun

It’s really sad if you can’t think f a single thing to do in your house that you might actually enjoy tbh

Iheartmysmart · 25/12/2020 11:23

With regard to the comment about resilience, there is only so much people can take before this is eroded. We’ve had nine months of living with uncertainty and that takes its toll.

We also have a government who are unable to provide a coherent message, who are under the thrall of two men who have admitted to using incorrect data to scare people and SAGE who published a document early in the pandemic saying people need to feel they are under personal threat in order to comply with restrictions.

According to worldometers the UK has nobody who has recovered from Covid and we have MSM telling us that 39K people have tested positive for Covid on a certain day but fail to mention that 400K + tests were carried out that same day. If information was presented in a less biased and a less dramatic fashion perhaps people would feel a little less wretched about the whole situation.

waterlego · 25/12/2020 11:47

Frankly, a lot of people don't seem to have the inner reserves necessary to cope with a major downturn in the quality of life. And that's indicative of the shallow consumerism of the late 20th century. We don't all cope in the same way. Some people have more resilience than others and that's just a fact of life. Work on your resilience the best way you can, or collapse in a heap. Those are the choices. We have lived in the most incredibly fortunate and wonderful era and now it's less so

This, with bells on.

PuppyMonkey · 25/12/2020 11:50

I don’t think this thread is particularly helping you OP. Get off MN I would.

  • Waits to get slagged off.
OpheliasCrayon · 25/12/2020 11:54

I can safely say a lot worse things have happened to me and I'm still here. Christmas without the people you expect to be with is tough. And I'm very sorry, truly, to people who have lost people this year to due covid or otherwise.
I've had to arrange my children's birthday parties and then Christmas, weeks after one of my children died. I'm never going to get that child back pandemic or not.

I think whilst this is sad for people and this year is hard I think some people may need to be mindful of falling into the trap of nothing is worth anything. This is temporary and I think that it may be worth considering the wider picture and be thankful for things you do have.

waterlego · 25/12/2020 11:57

The whole objective of life now appears to be to avoid death, and in my opinion this is not living

Well, it’s not much fun that’s for sure. But unless you have a belief in some higher power, that sort of is the only point of life for mammals. Avoid dying and reproduce. Most of us want more than that and we’ve been pretty spoilt on that front for the last 50 years or so.

TheKeatingFive · 25/12/2020 11:58

It’s particularly shitty to wang on about people’s ‘lack of resilience’ or ‘inner reserve’ at this time. Hmm

Most people cope with tough times/anxiety by spending time with friends and family. Or doing things they enjoy. A lot of that is not possible right now, so people’s coping techniques are shot.

We are sociable animals. The way we are having to live right now is totally unnatural to us and that is bound to have a serious impact on wellbeing.

Flowers. For the OP.

frumpety · 25/12/2020 12:00

I think the next couple of months are going to be the hardest in some ways, the increase in cases and how that personally effects people, the not knowing when restrictions might be lifted is tough , not being able to plan things to look forward to with confidence, add in the lack of daylight and seasonally shit weather and it is all looking a bit grim for the forseeable.

Whilst I can't travel at the moment, I am going to start doing some research, I quite fancy the idea of travelling around Europe by train, are there any places you would reccomend visiting @inuet ?

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inuet · 25/12/2020 12:16

Amongst the usual patronising drivel from the "NHS/War/Resilience" brigade there have been some decent posts here. I'm very sorry for the person who lost a child.

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User158340 · 25/12/2020 12:19

@waterlego

Frankly, a lot of people don't seem to have the inner reserves necessary to cope with a major downturn in the quality of life. And that's indicative of the shallow consumerism of the late 20th century. We don't all cope in the same way. Some people have more resilience than others and that's just a fact of life. Work on your resilience the best way you can, or collapse in a heap. Those are the choices. We have lived in the most incredibly fortunate and wonderful era and now it's less so

This, with bells on.

We'd been spoilt for too long.
inuet · 25/12/2020 12:24

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megletthesecond · 25/12/2020 12:29

It's not that bad. Be glad you have something to get back to in a year or so. I haven't travelled or had a social life in a decade. I'm stuck with my stroppy teens this Xmas.
We've just got to knuckle down and push through.

motherrunner · 25/12/2020 12:41

I’m struggling too. I’m a secondary teacher and shit scared of being exposed to to many people without PPE. Im finding it hard to enjoy this Xmas as I’m dreading the Spring term.
My mum is in a nursing home and I haven’t even spoken to her since early March. Today is the first Christmas where we have had no contact at all in my life.
Yesterday had a message from m DD’s Head teacher to as there has been 3 confirmed cases in her class so she needs to isolate.
I’m on anti anxiety medication. I just keep telling myself there’ll be one day when we can take pleasure in life again and won’t be living in fear.

MLMsuperfan · 25/12/2020 12:49

@Belepheron

It is shit. The idea that the government is doing ANY of this deliberately is fantastical. I loathe this government but there is no way any of their (crap) decisions are made to test our "compliance".

Frankly, a lot of people don't seem to have the inner reserves necessary to cope with a major downturn in the quality of life. And that's indicative of the shallow consumerism of the late 20th century. We don't all cope in the same way. Some people have more resilience than others and that's just a fact of life. Work on your resilience the best way you can, or collapse in a heap. Those are the choices. We have lived in the most incredibly fortunate and wonderful era and now it's less so. We are not as humans entitled to the life we want and sometimes life is misery and frustration. How you respond is up to you.

Very good point well made.
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inuet · 25/12/2020 12:52

It wasn't imo a good point at all, it was poorly-made, and didn't help one iota, in fact made things worse.

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Heyahun · 25/12/2020 12:57

Fucking doom and gloom on this site all the time now Jaysis !

MLMsuperfan · 25/12/2020 13:01

@inuet

It wasn't imo a good point at all, it was poorly-made, and didn't help one iota, in fact made things worse.
The point is some people can't handle a drop in their quality of life without going to pieces.
BaileyBoos · 25/12/2020 13:02

The lack of resilience really is astounding and I speak from a place that isn’t from privilege. My husband lost his job, we are skint, etc etc etc. Live in a poor area blah blah blah.....

I have plenty of love and health though. It’s not forever ffs!! I count my blessings every day.

My friend has just been diagnosed with cancer and she has young kids..... that’s what I call hardship to be honest. It’s all about perspective and how you view life.

Eckhart · 25/12/2020 13:03

@inuet

It wasn't imo a good point at all, it was poorly-made, and didn't help one iota, in fact made things worse.
Because you are determined in your end goal to feel shit. Otherwise you'd be looking for something to make you feel better rather than wallowing.

We have all had to make changes. Some are making the best of it. You are not, and that's your choice.

Are you looking for someone to save you, or fellow wallowers? What are you going to do to make yourself feel better? You're an adult, I assume, and so you know you are responsible for your own well being?

Eckhart · 25/12/2020 13:04

@inuet

If I were "collapsing in a heap" I wouldn't have the energy to call out patronising sanctimonious idiots like you writing this drivel. Maybe they need to start a new version of MN so there can be one for Coronaqueens and one for the rest
And if this is how you choose to use your energy, you, like the rest of us, will get all you deserve.
BaileyBoos · 25/12/2020 13:05

Drivel?? I find your victim mentality a load of drivel OP.

fortunatelynot · 25/12/2020 13:27

‘Frankly, a lot of people don't seem to have the inner reserves necessary to cope with a major downturn in the quality of life. And that's indicative of the shallow consumerism of the late 20th century. We don't all cope in the same way. Some people have more resilience than others and that's just a fact of life. Work on your resilience the best way you can, or collapse in a heap. Those are the choices. We have lived in the most incredibly fortunate and wonderful era and now it's less so.’

100%. I have learnt so much about people’s inner reserves (or lack of) in the past few months that I think it will change the way that I look at the world for a long long time. There are a great many ways to build resilience and it is now starkly clear that a significant number of the UK population need to focus on this.