This is a pointless life

[inuet]

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard".
British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.

It’s shit. Totally shit. I’ve moved across the country and it’s not gone well the youngest is off tomorrow with my abusive ex. Court in February again over access as ex wants 100% of all holidays. Great.

I’m fed up.

Covid showed me that a lot of the ‘good friends’ I had weren’t. Days and days of the phone not ringing. Back in lockdown and I can’t do anything.

Shallow consumerism? what, if people a re as they can’t see their relatives?

"Covid showed me that a lot of the ‘good friends’ I had weren’t. Days and days of the phone not ringing. Back in lockdown and I can’t do anything."

Covid is showing a lot about a lot of people as this thread shows.

I'm sorry, OP. It's OK and natural to mourn what you (we) have lost. Ignore those who say you shouldn't because they deem someone else's situation 'worse'. There are good, kind people out there, honest, but sometimes they can seem thin on the ground.

OP it's perfectly normal to miss all sorts of stuff. Covid has certainly shown up how smug some people can be.

@BaileyBoos

Drivel?? I find your victim mentality a load of drivel OP.

It is not a victim mentality it is the truth of now I feel. What you and others have written I find unsympathetic and ignorant. For all the resilience merchants what precisely is the Level of resilience required in your judgemental world to escape your invective and what measure do you use to calibrate it?

And what is it exactly that I deserve in your opinion?

@BaileyBoos

Drivel?? I find your victim mentality a load of drivel OP.

This.

So many disgusting comments here. Is it any wonder mental health issues still aren’t taken seriously in this country?

am sorry you are feeling bad OP bit fact is that turning on people and being snippy won't help you as you will put people's backs up.

Please sit down and make a list of 10 positive things in your life right now. If you cannot do this the en I suggest a phone call to a mental health practitioner to ask for help.

I am abiding by the rules....this does not make me "a coronaqueen" or whatever other snippy name you have. It makes me careful of my elderly parents for whom COVOD could be a detah sentence....even if my dad does have Alzheimers. He currently has a fairly good quality of life and I'd like to keep it that way for as long as possible.

Just because he has Alzheimers doesn't mean he's worthless nor would COVID be worthless on a death certificate for him as it would mean he died before he should have done.

Anyway you are clearly here for a fight given your responses so I will just wish you well then block this thread.

Time to grow up and accept this is a pandemic and you are not the most important person out there.

Yep

@Whiskyinajar

am sorry you are feeling bad OP bit fact is that turning on people and being snippy won't help you as you will put people's backs up.

Please sit down and make a list of 10 positive things in your life right now. If you cannot do this the en I suggest a phone call to a mental health practitioner to ask for help.

I am abiding by the rules....this does not make me "a coronaqueen" or whatever other snippy name you have. It makes me careful of my elderly parents for whom COVOD could be a detah sentence....even if my dad does have Alzheimers. He currently has a fairly good quality of life and I'd like to keep it that way for as long as possible.

Just because he has Alzheimers doesn't mean he's worthless nor would COVID be worthless on a death certificate for him as it would mean he died before he should have done.

Anyway you are clearly here for a fight given your responses so I will just wish you well then block this thread.

Time to grow up and accept this is a pandemic and you are not the most important person out there.

I never once said I was more important than anyone else. As for turning on people and being "snippy" has there been no disdain or bile directed towards me? Also I do not think anyone's death is worthless. As for telling me to "grow up", I don't agree with nor appreciate the sentiments behind this and it seems to me it is said only to make you feel better.

@inuet
I totally agree. I got a lovely travel book for Christmas and looking at it has made me realise we will probably never be going anywhere again. We can’t see family, can’t go out for a meal, can’t meet a friend, no kids parties etc for them. Life is so fucking miserable

Omg anyone having a go at the OP, leave her the fuck alone. She’s totally and utterly entitled to be miserable with how shit life is right now.
FFS I have chronic health problems but that doesn’t mean I don’t listen to my friend moaning that she has a headache.

There is no hierarchy of suffering

Luckily for me I have a covid exemption pass - it's not touched me at all, my life is totally unchanged and thus I am speaking without any understanding or experience of the miseries of the last 9 months.

Of course not. I'm suffering, my loved ones are suffering. But there is still purpose and meaning in life, there are still happy moments, kindnesses, love and laughter, possible for us all.

Wow, OP, you're so protective of your misery. You must really love it. If not, what are you doing to help yourself feel better?

I'll tell you what I'm fed up with, the utter lack of resilience and stoicism in the world. Many many people for thousands of years have had it much worse. Pull your big girl pants up and count your blessings.

@Redbrickwall

Omg anyone having a go at the OP, leave her the fuck alone. She’s totally and utterly entitled to be miserable with how shit life is right now. FFS I have chronic health problems but that doesn’t mean I don’t listen to my friend moaning that she has a headache.

There is no hierarchy of suffering

This!

Leave op the fuck alone!

God there are some vicious nasty idiots on here. How fucking bitter does one have to be to kick someone when she’s down!let her be upset if that’s what she is atm.

Last few posters should hang their heads tbh.

@mzhz well said. There are some posters who appear right smug, self righteous moo bags. But I suspect the truth is that a lot of them are trying to kid themselves and they are really miserable.

@fortunatelynot surely if we were all about consumerism, people would be more resigned to staying home with Amazon available. It's precisely because people are attached to other people, or to maintaining their income and sanity, that this is so hard for some.

700,000 new people are going to be pushed into poverty by covid. They don't lack resilience, they lack funds. Others have lost loved ones, lost healthcare, lived alone for months on end. Have some fucking empathy.

@unchienandalusia

I'll tell you what I'm fed up with, the utter lack of resilience and stoicism in the world. Many many people for thousands of years have had it much worse. Pull your big girl pants up and count your blessings.

What does that even MEAN? Pull up your pants? What does it mean? You're going to continue being utterly fed up then because people WILL be down and depressed and fed up and people like you don't get to control other people's emotions or have them act on your patronising statements.

inuet Crack on with your bleakness and misery, if that’s the way it’s got to be for you; no one is stopping you. You’ve posted a thread and people have responded with their views.

Yes, this global pandemic is shit; it really is. But some of us feel it’s pointless to just bang on about how awful everything is- it’s not going to make anybody feel any better about how things are, is it? 🤷🏼‍♀️

I distinctly remember the OP calling other peoples opinions on this matter “drivel”. In other words people who think this pandemic is tough, but not pointless, didn’t really suit her narrative.

Misery loves company though i guess.....

@inuet

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard". British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.

The solution is to move to any other country in the world. None of them have the virus or rules of behaviour for that matter. Everyone just does what they like in those airy fairy lands regardless of how it affects others.

What were you hoping to achieve from posting the thread, @inuet?

@waterlego

inuet Crack on with your bleakness and misery, if that’s the way it’s got to be for you; no one is stopping you. You’ve posted a thread and people have responded with their views.

Yes, this global pandemic is shit; it really is. But some of us feel it’s pointless to just bang on about how awful everything is- it’s not going to make anybody feel any better about how things are, is it? 🤷🏼‍♀️

Judging from your response you probably think people will are unhappy, dissatisfied or depressed actively choose to be that way. I don't and neither do most other people. As for this "crack on with your bleakness and misery", you're not forced to read or engage with this or any other thread either. I didn't say I was expecting to make others feel better by saying how miserable I was although believe it or not there are those who draw comfort from knowing others are also struggling. I'm not going to turn into some cake-baking Pollyanna just because that's what this new emotional fascism dictates. When I'm happy I'm happy and when I'm unhappy I'm unhappy.