This is a pointless life

[inuet]

No enjoyment, no socialising, FB groups full of Coronaqueens telling people to "stay safe" and "it's ok to.find it hard, it is hard".
British government and the Daily Mail brigade utterly useless and now celebrating end of freedom of movement. Months more of not being able to do anything just getting more and more pissed off. My local community has turned into a vipers nest of curtain twitchers and sanctimonious busybodies. The longer this goes on the more life lost and the more pointless it seems carrying on when life is just an endless load of crap.

I saw that as dark humour from OP

The vast majority of the population doesn’t have underlying health issues that will lead to a severe reaction to this virus. If you look into it, many elderly people have Alzheimer’s, dementia and organ failure, but covid19 is put down as cause of death. We shouldn’t lock everyone up.

I want a baby, but I don’t want a child to live in this dystopian world of media exaggeration and restrictions to freedom. I don’t want this rushed vaccine that hasn’t studied long term effects. It doesn’t prevent transmission, but causes anaphylactic shock and perhaps negatively impacts future fertility. I hate the vast amount of people who downplay the devastating effects of loneliness and mental illness. So many people are struggling right now, many have contemplated or committed suicide. I’m fed up.

(Saying travel is now tantamount to child abuse)

@inuet I think your post to @Northernsoullover was a little unkind - a very good friend of mine lost her husband recently - travel was their thing - she can't do it. But she will be able to at some point. She tells me that.

What do you suggest ? I honestly believe at some point this thing will pass. In the meantime you can be an armchair general or think of something else you can do which you would enjoy.

OP you have my sympathy

The months (year) ahead is looking bleak

And too many sanctimonious people (on here, on social media) saying that we have no right to complain, as it’s not like the war () and that we should “stay the fuck at home without complaining “ (so nice, so caring) from the safety of their detached homes and secure jobs and family in the same Tier....

@TomasinaTiers

I saw that as dark humour from OP

What humour can be derived from child abuse? The OP had a choice of many taboos to pick from there. Why child abuse?

Because it’s the most unacceptable thing

Sorry you're feeling shit. Things will get better.

I guess

No need to be rude to northern soul. They are only
Trying to help

It's a hard day for all.

I hear you @inuet

I thought the same thing last night. Wondering if we’ll ever get the spontaneous fun and joyful stuff back in our lives. This situation has sucked all of this out of our lives, and even when we manage to claw back a whiff of our former routine, the anchors in our lives that make it ‘us’, that gets taken away over and over.

A huge hug for you @inuet, here’s hoping this shit passes and soon!

I feel the same OP.

@Singlenotsingle I love My 600lb Life!

I entirely get your point. I've missed travel desperately this year. The new experiences, change of scene, exploring and dip into other cultures. It's my passion too.

However, I'm in my forties and it's a year out of my life. It might be another six months but it won't be forever. I feel much sorrier for the younger people who are missing out on the experiences before responsibilities which should be carefree. You don't get them back.

There was nothing wrong with northern soul lovers post either. Turning on each otter isn't the answer.

@MzHz - I honestly hope this too - I did not mean to be sanctimonious - terraced small house here so not speaking from my massive detached house - because I do not have one - but - yes - life is uncomfortable , sometimes lonely and just not we want. So best wishes to all who are finding this time hard

I agree with you OP. I’m sorry you’re feeling like this. The false positivity about it all is really really wearing. It is shit. Why can’t we just acknowledge it as such rather than pretend it’s not that bad?

Cripes yes I too have had people giving me similar advice. It is like people are collectively losing it.

No, people are trying to keep it together and that sometimes means putting a face on it and controlling the things we can to improve our own mental health. I think we all have times when we feel miserable becasue of this whole situation, fear for the future and hopelessness, but there's no reason to mock people who are actually trying to fight it and enjoy life in whatever small ways are available to them.

[quote BasiliskStare]@MzHz - I honestly hope this too - I did not mean to be sanctimonious - terraced small house here so not speaking from my massive detached house - because I do not have one - but - yes - life is uncomfortable , sometimes lonely and just not we want. So best wishes to all who are finding this time hard [/quote]
Thanks @BasiliskStare

I think one point is that even if someone does live in a mahoosive house etc etc, it doesn’t mean they aren’t entitled to feel the same as someone who doesn’t.

I know in life generally, there’s always someone worse off that we are, but that doesn’t give any acknowledgement of our hurt/disappointment/loss - we’re entitled to our feelings no matter who we are.

It’s ok to feel shit, because it is shit. It’s the loss of focus, the loss of control, the loss of perspective

AND the virtue signalling and the horrendous effects it’s having on everything and everyone.

Travel is my passion and I mean travelling, not just going on holidays. I usually spend an extended period, maybe 3 months every 2 years or so living out of a suitcase in a country or countries. So yeah, this sucks. But think how amazing the feeling of freedom will be once we can do all that again! We will appreciate it all so so much!
Also yeah, life is pretty boring atm. I've taken to doing a module at uni - distance learning - to give myself something to concentrate on. What about maybe learning a language so that when you do get back to travelling, you can speak the lingo on the country that you go to?

I know how you feel.

I felt worse when there was expected doorstep clapping, VE Day mania, countless walks, gardening and collective baking.

None of that is 'me'. I'm somebody who goes to the cinema, gigs, restaurants normally. And, after hours working on the laptop I want to escape too.

I can't offer any positive words, but I agree with you and what you're feeling and missing is acceptable, because part of that is anger/frustration. I think its more worrying if you don't feel that way.

@CuteBear the vaccine doesn't "cause anaphylactic shock" anymore than a peanut would cause anaphylactic shock - in someone who has history of anaphylaxis and an existing allergy. What effect does it have on future fertility...?

@Singlenotsingle

Come on, it's not that bad. Have you no friends or family to turn to? (Sorry, but you don't give much information). What do I get enjoyment from? My grandchildren, my dog, tv (and all the wild and wacky programs on there - Red Quest has one called My 600lb Life! ), music (always guaranteed to brighten my day), cooking, reading... This corona nonsense won't go on forever, and the vaccine is on the way. Spring is on the way too!

Of course it is bad. My life has completely changed. Can't see friends and family, I used to love going out socialising all that has stopped.

It hasn't changed one bit for a colleague, who lives with her parents and never went out anywhere or socialised so it depends on what kind of life you lived but for me it is totally shit and I feel like I'm not living

Bet NHS workers and people who’ve lost loved ones wouldn’t like this thread.

It’s shit for everyone. But more shit for them. Be thankful for what you’ve got.

You sound quite bitter, and determined to stay so, and perfectly ready to pass your bitterness on to make other people feel rubbish.

What do you want people to say? 'Yes, life is pointless, you're absolutely right.'

People who agree with you are bitter just like you. You can choose to be bitter or not, it's your responsibility. If you can't do stuff you used to enjoy, find something else to enjoy. Even if you never move from one room (there are people who have disabilities whose whole life was already like this and will be for their ever) there are things to see and do and learn, people to talk to, work to be done etc.

The world hasn't stopped. The world is doing things differently.

Engage.

I love that you’ve given me a new word OP

“CoronaQueens”.

Yeah they can ALL fuck off.

We are now in lockdown here, schools closed until 18 Jan and I’m supposed to be starting a job directly linked to mitigating effects of pandemic on the 4th. No childcare as we don’t qualify as Cat 1 so may lose job.

Idiots telling me it’s going to be ok “as your kids are so tiny, it goes by in a flash, enjoy it” inferring I’m some arsehole who can’t bear to be around my kids. Nah you’re ok, I worry about them dying each and every day so I hope that “proves” my maternal instincts whilst at the same time wanting to work and help and have something for me.

OP, YANBU.