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Can't take much more

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:07

I have changed my name because I don't want to be seen as someone who is always depressed, but I really don't know how much more I can take. Sometimes I just want to run far away from everything.

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Tortington · 09/08/2007 00:11

well you can't

so lets see what you can do. have you spoken to any professionals? doctor, councellor, health visitor?

what are you not coping with specifically? odds are there are people who can sympathise and advise you.

the only person who can change it is you

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:12

Sorry, I haven't specified any problems, but I don't want to be recognised. I don't even know why I'm typing this stuff. I just don't feel great, and I don't know whether I'm just very very stressed or maybe a bit depressed with everything

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:15

I know I can't, Custardo. I haven't spoken to any professionals recently. I don't want to be like this, I want to shake it off

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:16

I know I'm the only one who can change myself, but I'm so bloody pissed off with those around me!

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Tortington · 09/08/2007 00:17

thing is - its hard to help on no information. then you will think no one gives a shit - becuase you get no answers. people can relate to specifics

so say you have a drug taking teenager - i'm yer gal - no... i'm not a dealer but i have some contact info for you

say you husband is shaging another bloke - there are mumsnetters - who can sympathise...seriously

say you had a baby 2 days ago, feeling low, had a tear horrific birth

family member died

breastfeeding nightmare

potty training shit filled house

its hard to recommend a way for you tostart helping yourself.

see i have been so depressed i havebeen on the kitchen floor in a ball in front of the washing machine ....and stayed in bed for whole weekends at a time. contemplated suicide and my prefered method many many times.

so i can't and won't help you to wallow ... so my friend..... how may we be of positive active assistance here on mumsnet?

Tortington · 09/08/2007 00:19

one doesn't 'shake' depression off. wake up one day and say ..from now on i will be normal. it doesn't work like that.

onlyWotz · 09/08/2007 00:19

It is very late and depression gets worse through the day as your body gets more exhausted and you need sleep.
Hope you take custardos advice.

Califrau · 09/08/2007 00:20

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Tortington · 09/08/2007 00:21

i am listening but have to go to bed soon will be back tomorrow to check

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:22

I know, custy, I hate being a bloody depressive all the time & this is why I've changed my name, but I know what you're saying.
I have recently lost someone very close to me, I have recently gone through a separation which isn't the most simple, my family are pissing me off a lot, and I now think I have made myself obvious!

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:29

I am not normally one to wallow either, or even to show I'm a bit under to people around me

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UmSami · 09/08/2007 00:30

Custardo is right... to address and fight the depression you have to face and acknowledge it's cause and contributing factors head on - but if you don't feel ready to do that, something that really helped me is to do one thing that makes you feel even a little bit good everyday, even if it's only for 5 mins, a wee bit of escapism/you time can really help - a bath, a walk, a cuddle, a book, retail therapy (only if money allows, a chat with someone you care about, whatever it is could you do something that is nice - and easy everyday? Maybe chatting on an unrelated Mumsnet thread could be it...
I really hope you are feeling better soon, life can be hard, but thats what makes you appreciate the good times...there will be more.
Love and hugs

Tortington · 09/08/2007 00:32

e-mail me creamycustardoathotmail dotcom.

i lost my mum recently.

lets get all berevement councelling on yer ass
i am in no way a qualified councellor

must go to bed i have to drive to kent tomoz

VeniVidiVickiQV · 09/08/2007 00:34

Custy - you are wonderful

NDW - there is no shame in being depressed. You really do need to go and see your gp. You are closing a door on the fastest, easiest form of help for you.

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:36

Thanks, custy, I know you have had a really tough time recently. I will mail you.

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:40

I've been to my GP in the last year VVVQV, but felt I was getting better with everything. Recently there has been a bit more strain & much as I want to keep fighting it, it is all getting on top of me a bit, so maybe I should go back to my doctor.

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UmSami · 09/08/2007 00:40

Oh NDW, it never rains hu? I can, on the surface, identify with alot of the situations you are facing, I lost my mum suddeny at 16, divorced at 23, have a family that i no longer speak to, and a new set of in-laws that come with their own set of complications!
Maybe i've said too much! But I just want you to know that as black as things can get there is always a way to find a light at the end of the tunnel, (cliche - sorry!) if any of this strikes a chord feel free to unload. Like custard I'm not a cuncellor, but I do care.

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:41

Thanks for your advice.

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 00:44

Thanks, UmSami. I am having a bit of a low night with one thing & another, but I may well be better tomorrow.
Sorry to hear you have had such a hard time.

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VeniVidiVickiQV · 09/08/2007 00:48

Things always do seem better in the morning. But do go and see your gp again anyway.

UmSami · 09/08/2007 00:52

Ur welcome , I really hope you do feel better tomorrow, but vvvqv's right, think about going to see your gp - and keep going until he/she puts you in touch with the right support - it's easy to ignore things when you have a good day or too, but if things keep coming back it can really help to find a way to smash them with mallet once and for all (or at least put them safely into boxes that you can revisit without fear), as for me-I'm really enjoying the good times right now and the past has made it all the sweeter.

mamama · 09/08/2007 01:59

Only just saw this but I hope you are ok - I have had a few threads like this, where I changed my name and just needed MNers to talk with me for a bit because I was feeling so horribly depressed so I do have some idea of how you feel. Let us know how you are in the morning, won't you? Please take good care of yourself x

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grouchyoscar · 09/08/2007 03:10

NDW I know where you're coming from. I've been on a form of ADs on and off for a decade and I hate it. I constantly feel like one of those self important wallowers myself.

I'm on Citalopram at the moment and it is clearing a very foggy dark place for me at the moment. I'm determined not to do what I have done in thge past - Feel fine so stop taking them and then go backwards 6 months later.
This time I have sought a good councillor, one who deals with the underlying problem rather than the superficial surface stuff. I feel fine at the moment but I'm going to give life on a good level another 6 months, speak to my GP, then start withdrawing slowly and hopefully by this time next year I'll be AD free for life.

I suggest you speak to your GP and don't feel bad about it. You have your reasons for your depression and remember, it is an illness, same as any other you see the doctor for. And talking is good too.

Got to go and get some sleep now. I'll check in tomorrow

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Notdoingwell · 09/08/2007 08:41

Thank you all. I am quite embarrassed to have started this thread last night. I was feeling very low with everything & needed to get it out, so I guess I used MN as a bit of a diary. I didn't want to use my regular name, so couldn't give away that many details, but it has been one thing after another just recently, and I am feeling very overloaded & down...and I've got my bloody period, which makes things even worse!

Custy - I will mail you later when I get a chance.

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