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Mike Thalassitis - Love Island

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 15:01

I'm genuinely shocked to hear about Mike from Love Island been found dead..

It just goes to show that no amount of money and/or fame will make you happy.

I've read ( I don't know how much of this is true though) that he lost his friend on Christmas Eve and his Nan a few days ago who he cared for. I've also read that he was in debt.. again, whether this is true or not.

I just feel like sometimes you're not heard, or cared about or given support until it's too late and until you've actually gone through with it.

I don't know why I'm posting this to be honest. I've been feeling quite low the past few days and then seeing the news about Mike this morning has really just, kind of upset me a bit I suppose.

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 19:51

@QuirkyQuark I'd be really interested! I might have to see if they are doing any more training through work.

I first went on them when I was 19 after having a panic attack at work and other members of my team had noticed my low moods and none crying a lot. Then the self harming started.

I'm 25 now and been on and off tablets. I got to a point last year and I was thinking, I think I'm ready to not be on any tablets. If I have a panic attack, I'll deal with it, I'm not gonna die. If I have a bad day, I'll get over it.
But I realised I'd been telling people for that long that I was okay and 'fine' and I actually wasn't, and then one night I self harmed and it was a nasty, but fortunately not bad enough, cut that I realised I wasn't okay and I did need my tablets.

I think some people are ashamed of taking meds but if you need them, you need them!

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QuirkyQuark · 17/03/2019 19:59

I don't get some people's attitude to medication. I have chronic illnesses too and I refuse to be a martyr to pain. I apply the same to my mental health. Antidepressants keep me on an even keel when my brain chemistry has gone haywire again. I'm relatively lucky that I have a good medical team around me that keeps an eye but I'm excellent at hiding it if I need to.

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 20:07

@QuirkyQuark I wasn't ashamed or embarrassed to be taking them, I felt I'd got to a point where I felt strong enough to be able to deal with it on my own which I obviously can't. I look at it now that it is an illness and I need medication to help me with it.

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RunAndBeeHappy · 17/03/2019 20:13

it was in woodland close to latimer rd....theres no woodland

i also feel pity for the person who found him. as an early morning runner this is my worst fear if i'm honest, must feel so helpless

DancingintheSpoonlight · 17/03/2019 20:19

The media need a shake up. The articles some of these rags make up...constantly hounding and analysing. No wonder so many struggle in the spotlight.
For example Paris Jackson is said to be struggling with mental health especially since that documentary about her dad. She's a young person with every lense waiting for her next move. Who wouldn't struggle with that pressure?
I liked what fellow love island contestant Chris Hughes said about everyone needs to stop calling him muggy Mike- he had a proper name.

Flowers for everyone who has struggled and for those who continue to do so.

Mog6840 · 17/03/2019 20:19

I can't stop thinking about this today and it kept me awake last night.
It's just so terribly sad.
A close family member of mine died the same way. Someone who was successful, confident, was the life & soul of every party with many friends.
As a family we had no idea how bad they were feeling and unfortunately if the person doesn't let on how bad they are feeling, how are you to know and step in.
The way he chose to go is so intentional. There no coming back from it...it's not a cry for help. It's just so tragic.

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 20:23

@DancingintheSpoonlight they definitely have a massive part to play in it! You can't step foot wrong without them doing a story about it!

They're constantly waiting for you to do the slightest bit wrong or say the wrong thing.

@Mog6840 I'm so sorry to hear about your loss.
I know, like I mentioned before I can't seem to get my head around it but I've experienced this close to my or felt that way my self so I guess I'll never understand until I'm in that position myself and I would never wish it on anybody.

It's a shit world we live in, it really is. And if I'm being honest, I don't see it getting any better any time soon.

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Mog6840 · 17/03/2019 20:28

@JustBeenNosey You're right. Just so much sad, awful news at the moment Sad Xx

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 20:31

@Mog6840 you're right, there is.

Hopefully it will get better. And hopefully this will help people who are in a dark place to see the light.

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RockyFlintstone · 17/03/2019 20:34

There is a particular contestant from last years Love Island that I have been worried about since they left. She seems very unhappy, gets an absolute ton of shit thrown at her online, being called all sorts of names and things haven't gone well recently with her relationship. Of course I'm only looking in and it might be that she has lots of family support and is doing OK, and I know it is so silly, but I genuinely do worry about her.

That 'my door is always open, my kettle is always on' is a load of craaaaaaap. There is one person I know who posts that shit on FB that would be the absolute last person on earth I would go to with my problems!

BartonHollow · 17/03/2019 20:35

As someone who has seen Love Island but not his particular series, I was quite taken aback by how upsetting I found it

Basically public entertainment should not come at the price of doing things which in the long term can deeply negatively impact the mental health of individual participants

dragonsfire · 17/03/2019 20:38

@RockyFlintstone do you mean Zara yes I think the same 😢

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 20:42

@RockyFlintstone are you on about Megan? If so, I wonder how she copes with all the stick. She seems like a strong minded woman though to be fair.
Yeah I'm the same, I wouldn't dream of going to them with my problems.
'Sorry to bother you, I've cut myself and it's a pretty bad cut, if you're not busy could you take me to A&E'
I wonder what people would have responded to that 🤔

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RockyFlintstone · 17/03/2019 21:03

Sorry, I didn't really need to be 'cryptic' there, yes I was talking about Megan.

I hope Zara is OK too.

ketchupormayo · 17/03/2019 21:12

It's really sad. Sophie Gordon from the season before him also committed suicide. 2 people from the same program that hasn't even been around that long is a worry

MollyButton · 17/03/2019 21:14

We do need to get over the attitude that you should recover from mental health issues and come off the medicine.
It's crazy! I have a medical condition which means I am on a medication for the rest of my life - there is no stigma. There should be no stigma if the chemical your body needs is serotonin instead (or whatever).

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 21:17

@RockyFlintstone haha no worries. I feel as she at least, comes across, as a strong person but like we've all said before, this could just be a big front and she might really be suffering deep down with the abuse she gets on SM.

@ketchupormayo I know it's worrying really isn't it. If they had been on 2 different reality shows it would be still bad, but I think because they have both been on Love Island it doesn't paint a good picture.

@MollyButton that's what I've learnt to understand and accept now. That the chemicals in my brain just mustn't be wired up right so I need medication to help with that. And if I neeed to be on medication for the rest of my life, then so be it.

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dragonsfire · 17/03/2019 21:26

Megan is a difficult one I genuinely don’t think she should have been on the show.

She is very insecure but also does court the attention- it is concerning.

My fear for Zara is she was photographed not looking perfect and suffered terrible criticism then her relationship fell apart!

Saying this it is also hard to be the supportee my brother care to me with suicide thoughts when I was 19 I genuinely could not cope myself (we lost family members when young) I was the youngest. Sometimes the supporter needs support and a break to.

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JustBeenNosey · 17/03/2019 21:39

@dragonsfire yeah she said in an interview that before she went on the show that she wasn't in a good place and she went on there to find herself didn't she.

Aw bless her. I haven't seen a lot of read much about Zara to be honest.

It is hard. I felt for my mum. The night is self harmed and I went downstairs and told her, it was her reaction that was the worst thing and her been upset that kind of hit home as well that it isn't a 'normal' thing to be doing and is isn't right that i was doing it

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HebeMumsnet · 17/03/2019 22:03

Evening, everyone.

We just spotted this thread and wanted to pop by with our usual links to our Mental Health resources in case they were of use. You can also go to the Samaritans website or email them on [email protected] any time.

Flowers to everyone affected by suicide or struggling with thoughts of suicide or self harm themselves.

JediJim · 17/03/2019 23:13

Very sad to hear about Mikes suicide too. Had all to live for. Nothing should ever be that bad that someone should end it, but the mind is a complex thing.
A guy I went to school with killed himself a few months ago, he wrote suicide notes and then went on a family holiday, already knowing he was going to end it.
Don’t really know what to say,just devastating for the families.

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JustBeenNosey · 18/03/2019 07:23

@JediJim it's so sad isn't it. That people can plan it and still carry on with their lives as though everything is okay ThanksSad

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JediJim · 18/03/2019 21:53

Anyone watching Harry’s Heroes on ITV? About ex England footballers. Some of them were talking about addiction/mental health. Money and fame still doesn’t stop depression..

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JustBeenNosey · 18/03/2019 22:02

@JediJim no I've not got it on.. there's a problem with the sky Q box in my bedroom apparently 🤔😂

It's so true. A lot more people are depressed than you think.

This horrible mood still hasn't shifted 😩😩😩

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JediJim · 18/03/2019 22:13

Mental health has always existed. But I think life now is particularly crap for people, hear in the UK.
We are completely divided by Brexit, house prices are ridiculous for young people, lack of job opportunities and a horrible government that has gave us a decade of austerity. Socially and economically we are a mess.