Parents of anxious kids/ teens support thread

[Stilllivinginazoo]

Hi
Welcome to parents of anxious/ teens thread.idea is to share tips and advice and listen and support each other on days things are getting tougher

So after a week of mornings starting at 4.42am, I've put him to bed at 5.40. I can't do this on school nights though.

How's everyone's Saturday been?

Philsometimes an early nights best for everyone!!
We got tiny trees to put in their desks and mini baubles.ds and dd2 got into a row how to group baubles on the family tree and it spilled over into the in ndividusl ones til he lost confidence to put any on
He wasn't too bad having his bloods taken yesterday,bit stressed evenings running up to it and was freaking a bit during but he held it together just about and I was proud of him

Yet another for zooDS. You've got a lot to be proud of.

Phil how early was your start this morning?

I brave bit Xmas shopping in town with dp...not sure if taking D's would've been less stressful.......

4.08 zoo. He's going to bed in 5 minutes.

Happy Sunday, ladies .

Zoo I can't go shopping with dh if I want to keep my blood pressure stable

He didn't actually go to sleep until 7.

Someone on another thread said try the wake to sleep method. I'm not keen, because that would mean setting my alarm for 3.08.

Viking
Phil erm no.if I woke lil zoo at 3 she would reset for 3am.permanemtly

Yeah, I don't think I'll try that.

hi, is it ok to join this thread? I have a DD10 who has ASD, PDA and anxiety. She is under a specialist branch of CAHMS (not sure if this is just our area which has it) who work with me and DH to support her, and she has a (private) therapist.

She had a breakdown at the start of the year after months of escalating hallucinations, and we are now a month into the hallucinations escalating again. I've just arranged with school that she will do half days till the end of term - we have made all the minor adjustments possible, so I figured we needed to make a bigger change.

msgee welcome.goodness that's sounds very difficult for you allhave they said what hallucinations maybe triggered by?

We had tears when dropped D's at school and beg not leave him.cery hard firmly say goodbye and walk awayhe managed his 3 hours but still not best pleased with me...

He's old enough to understand that you're trying to help him though. I worry for the future of a lot of the young people on this thread. My 2 have it much better by comparison.

Ugh, 3.47 this morning. I sent him back to bed. He couldn't get to sleep until 7 last night either.

Hi all, I'm going to join in as well even though mine with lifelong severe anxiety is now in his 20's and self-managing I can certainly offer support and words of wisdom in this area.

Phil
Knittedjest we never stop worrying about our kids,regardless of age. welcome

zoo they think it is 'just' anxiety combined with ASD. Last year we had some obvious triggers but not this time.

for all, sounds like we could all use one today.

Aaaaaaarrrrgh

DP takes D's as much as shifts allow as he is much less difficult(major separation anxiety from me)
DS didn't want get ready today.i usually leave him here whilst i drop lil zoo but his reluctance get sorted I had chivvy him them take him with me.cue panic attacks and clutch at me most way to lil zoo school so never got even a sentence of time with her.he then panic all way to school til I list it and told him he would have walk by himself if kept it up as I know doesn't do it with dad and I'm annoyed(not my finest parenting hour)

Could you please make mine a triple espresso MsGee? 😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴😴

The number of times I lose my rag with DS2 zoo! I don't have anywhere near your cornucopia of patience!

It's all a facade phil great swathes of my thoughts are not as polite as what exits my mouth!!
I had anxiety as a child and back in the day pull yourself together/stop being silly really hurt my confidence/left me very sad and hurt.i don't want my son to feel like I did.so I continue to do my best to engage brain before open mouth but I do have days when I forget who im Talking to!

Hi, I've only just seen this thread. I've had a difficult few weeks with dd (14) who says she has panic attacks at school, though never at home or out of school. I'm really struggling to cope. Her dad has little contact with her, he's more like an uncle or a friend of the family, he's fun but not a parent iyswim.

It's lovely that you all support each other, just reading this thread has made me feel less alone

If I stop posting, I've fallen asleep in my millionaire's hot chocolate.

Does anyone with children who don't sleep know what helps?

Also zoo, sometimes most of the time I'm not angry, but shouting's the only thing that stops DS2 doing whatever he shouldn't. The Mum Tone (TM) doesn't work.

liveandlearned welcome
Phil mum tone has virtually stopped working on all levels here..usually I escalate to screing fishwife before anyone notices I'm cross!!!hope you get some sleep tonight

Welcome McGee - it sounds as though you are on the right track with supports. Best of luck - my DS2 is also 10 and has ASD and is a worrier.

Welcome knittedjest and livedandlearned.

Philomena does DS take melatonin to help him sleep (think I asked you this already )?

Zoo hopefully today is better than yesterday - we're only human, even the best of us have parent fails .

In the process of sorting paperwork to get DS1 in that 'treatment classroom' at the hospital. Faxed physician's referral to intake worker yesterday. Visit with DS likely next. Very worried he won't like it. Intake worker made it clear student needs to want to come .

No he doesn't viking, I should definitely look into that. Usually he falls asleep very quickly, just wakes up early. He had a very restless sleep last night. He crashed out straight away tonight. It'll be interesting to see what time he wakes up.