Parents of anxious kids/ teens support thread

[Stilllivinginazoo]

Hi
Welcome to parents of anxious/ teens thread.idea is to share tips and advice and listen and support each other on days things are getting tougher

Zoo - sorry to hear it wasn't a good day for DS. Could something like hypnotherapy help? Some people find it effective in breaking bad habits/obsessions. I've heard people with ocd type anxiety can benefit from it. Apologies if you've already looked into this as I know you've done so much already . Hugs and chocolate to you today x

Cats - so difficult when you have introverted DC and you worry about potential vulnerability leading to bullying. It's good DD is communicating instead of keeping it to herself. Let us know how it goes with the school counsellor.

Hugs to all the parents here x

Hug much needed Viking I'm starting lose will to live he's had 3 more panic attacks which red face and racing heart and each time he screams and dramatically throws self at my feet screaming help me...

Zoo
Hugs galore from across the pond xx

zoo. I wouldn't know where to start with advice, how you reassure someone that they're not going to die?

Thanks guys.i just get down he seems muc h more intensely panic ridden when I'm alone with them all and he gets less one to one attention.it feels like whenever he's asked do something he doesn't want to it sets him off,if I'm giving attention/trying to do something it sets him off.ive sat here and cried tonight try decide how we can move forward when I'm constantly battling just to keep my head up let alone keeping going

Why are so many MH issues showing up in DC these days? Is school/friendships so much more stressful?

DS2's flash point seems to be when I say, "Right, TV off, time to go." He had 9 hours sleep last night because he gets home from Adventure at 6.30, he fell asleep in our bed at 8, but he was still in our room at 5 for WiFi. Stupid aunt tells our family coach that I put him to bed too early.

I apologise because I can't remember if I've posted on this thread, but I have been reading it.

I just wanted to share some news in case it is helpful to anyone.

My dad (10) has been anxious since starting school. Started self harming at 6, finally accepted into camhs at 9. She was referred for ASD assessment and in the meantime her psych at camhs wanted to do a full cognitive assessment. That was in August, and last week we got the results which apparently explain everything. I'm in shock, and still learning what it means.

The results are that she is in the 75th percentile for verbal reasoning, non verbal reasoning and working memory (all high average), but her Processing speed is in the 5th percentile (very low).

It explains why she is behind at school, hates school, has panic attacks when I give her instructions at home (i.e get ready for school), has removed herself from clubs, can't cope with games she doesn't already know, struggles to keep up with conversations where the information is 'new' to her.

Next step is to get an echo so that she will get the help she needs at school, and we are making lots of changes at home to reduce her information load.

Haha oops. Not my dad, DD!!
Echp!

Hopefully answers will now mean finding solutions and you and your family can move forwards.so pleased for youputyourbackintoit

DS was little monkey today,whilst I took lil zoo to school he rang his dad saying j was sending him in with dd2 and panicking...I'd already told him I was dropping then collecting them both as dd2 and I were heading into town straight after(her school has a mid winter break(today and tomorrow off as it's a long term) he was also text him last night saying I wouldn't let him do X,y,z.....

He's been in today,upstairs now getting changed out if uniform.was an absolute nightmare aallday yesterday.fingers X today will be at leasf a little easier!!

Viking for you
The view on a crisp frosty walk with lil zoo to school today!was stunning and bolstered me up beautifully
Sadly it's now foggy and murky and dank out,so glad I captured the beauty earlier

Hi everyone. I hope your days are going alright. Spoke to HoY at DD's school and it was positive. They are going to move the seating plans around a bit, have a help session on anxiety in children for parents planned and are going to have a chat with the SENCO about the possibility of a processing issue with DD. I feel relieved although still a bit stressed out from making a fuss and feeling like I have been v critical. I have to stop over-thinking!

That all sounds positive Cats. 😊

cats sounds like you handled it brilliantly!love idea of school doing anxiety support for your child for parents
I love hearing everyone's little positive steps.hope is a powerful motivation for us all to plod thru difficult days.xx

The trick with DS2 in the morning is not letting him near DD before we get out of the door, then sending DD on ahead. Only one DC this weekend, so it'll be lovely and relaxed. I hope everyone else has had a good day?

Zoo how beautiful!!! Just stunning, and thank you for continuing to think of others while you are dealing with your own diffficulties. You have a kind heart. .
Struggling a bit today so it is much appreciated. Took sick day and had blood work done as been lightheaded lately. Stressed thinking about how to get DS1 to attain a certificate/diploma in his future.
Parent/teacher interview for DS2 today - sigh, I see a bumpy ride for him in as well. Just need an hour or two of self-pity before putting on the big girl pants again .
Have a pic for you as well, but not as scenic as yours - first snowfall last week as DS2 and I were leaving school grounds. Hadn't even brought out the winter boots yet !

Cats My DS2 participated in a small group anxiety program last year (through the school) which he really enjoyed. Received a little certificate upon completion (just to boost confidence). Wonder if they might have something similar in your school board, especially if they already have help sessions for parents. Nice to hear things are progressing well.

Philomena looks like you will have a much needed enjoyable weekend - you deserve it!

PutYourBack sounds really positive - getting the ball rolling will only benefit your DD.

Viking do you get lots of snow? Love a snowy picture!thank you

School are concerned about his attachment to one staff member to point he freaks she's even talking another student.also refuse to do anything academic
As of Monday we are agreed no increase hours but increase schoolwork rather than little projects he's interested in(various insect factfile)
He's to attorney hour each of math and English,then hour his choice curriculum i.e art,history etc
He's not going to handle it well,none of us are expecting him to,so rougher rides on cards.they also expressing extreme concern over his physical symptoms as more extreme than any they've ever seen before working with anxious children.he goes scarlet and sweats and I've never experienced a pulse as fast as his his.theyve requested another gp check(booked for Friday,along review at camhs)
He freaked so badly last night I beg do take him a+e.he got arse with me and we now not speaking.i feel really unsupported and exhausted by it all

Oh Zoo, I'm so sorry. Can you make self-care a priority today as it is not a school day? As for camhs, can they make DS a priority based on the school's remarks re: extreme level of anxiety? Does camhs take anything from school into consideration? Strongly agree to try another gp.....this can't go on without proper supports..

Snow typically stays on ground all winter. We probably get lots by British standards, but not necessarily Canadian standards

I came to bed this afternoon for a couple of hours sleep
Might do a face pack with dd2 later if she fancies it.x
Snow on ground all winter.wow.where I live in u.k that's HUGE!!!!!

Good luck with school today everyone!
We've had tricky weekend as D's has developed a nasty cold/sore throat and being bunged up and panic attacks are very hard for him to handle.debating whether schools the place for him today,esp as he's starting his "proper work" regency today....

What did you decide? DS2 really doesn't like me being stern with him, I think it all started when I asked him to take his shirt back off in case there was poo in his Dry Nites (we have ongoing issues). He now has to come into the kitchen with me to turn the boiler down, so that he doesn't follow DD into the bedroom.

I spoke to SENCO and they agreed best stay home today,but try tomorrow
He's slept mostly so far.not eaten anything so he's deffo feeling very under the weather.
Lil zoo has it too now so I've got them both home!!

Oh dear.

DD said she felt ill just before school actually... That might just be a morning thing with her though.

Well. DS2 didn't get to sleep until 8.09, so DD had to stay up until then. 😭