Parents of anxious kids/ teens support thread

[Stilllivinginazoo]

Hi
Welcome to parents of anxious/ teens thread.idea is to share tips and advice and listen and support each other on days things are getting tougher

No.

Hope waits not too long.xx

Thanks zoo.

That's why no parent likes non-uniform days.

Sorry posted on the wrong thread. I’ve asked for it to be deleted.

Glad Camhs is going well Philomena, camhs for us is creating more waves but I think that’s to be expected in the short term but they really should provide more info and support for parents of children going through counselling

Philomena glad to hear the appointment went well.

Zoo same.

Can I join you please? My dd 5 has developed awful separation anxiety at the age of 11.... I'm a single mum and just starting to try and find time for a social life ie 1 night out a week with friends. She is going to her dads for 1 night on my weekend .... for her the weld is ending and I have no desire to go out at all. 😔

Welcome wtf2015
One thing I think a lot of us have learned is the importance of self care,try keep ourselves feeling human whilst we take on board our children's intense distress.for some that's a coffee in academic,others eating chocolate whilst hiding from the DC or painting toenails.anything to give us a lift to battleon.going out with friends sounds perfect and as she's at her dad's no harm will come if it if you go out and enjoy adult company.please try and go,I'm sure you will feel better for it

Tough night here.ds struggled at choir tonight as we have some "disruptive elements" started and it freaked him out...
He then kicked up as DP was here try get undivided attention which I stamped info for making very clear when he's not here I couldn't do it so don't encourage him to think that's a norm coping mechanism..

Busy day today.lil zoo has open ballet and dd2 off to town with friends

As and my phone's on one again
Not sure how cafe becomes academic,but there we are.damn autocorrect!!

Just had to have a whole session with someone from one of ds’s clubs re how his immediate aggro/stress out when something goes wrong and then inability to communicate about it (he just totally shuts down) puts his safety and others at risk. He seemed to listen to them more than me but who knows if we really got through. I suggested he speak to camhs about strategies to deal with things like this and got a “hmm well maybe” which I think based on experience means no!
I agree about the taking care of yourself being a bit of a lifeline.

What do you do when you want your DC to burn off some energy but he wants to flop in front of the effing Chipmunks?

Then it started raining and now he's all hyper.

I'm in favour of hamster wheels big enough for DC Philomena but don't think such a thing exists...
Took D's phone as he will play/distract all night he's now got lil zoo hyped up and they're running around upstairs screaming and shouting
I have strong urge to wake them in the morning at silly o'clock...

You really should! 😈

The weighted blanket arrived, someone on here told me you shouldn't leave them on all night, so I don't know how useful it will be.

I’m all for massive hamster wheels. Ds forgot to take his wallet out with us yesterday, not a big deal I could have lent him some money although not as much as he had, cue absolutely massive meltdown and running away (the sort where security and others have to search for someone). He has been in his room since 6 yesterday. I am about to wake him and see if today is going to be any better.

I asked DS2 if he'd like me to put him on a giant hamster wheel, he said "Yes please! That would be fun!"

DS is on one revving up as tomorrow it's 2hour attempt.in SENCO unit(he's been avoiding it since someone flipped a table and he freaked out)I have CBT so he has to be there at least an hour to give me 30 mins in that(an hour app but she's flexible in these circs)
Just had nice long shower and am hiding in my room mnetting doing a menu plan/shopping list

Hope tomorrow goes well zoo. 😊

I've just had epic mum fail moment...

Barely out shower he's in my room asking if can die from low blood pressure as dizzy.erm nope I said.go read a bit if book school gave you your classmates reading in English.undr 5mins he's back heart racing.ask lil zoo to colour/draw with you I came in here for time out.she don't want to,kept pestering me to go downstairs.i just had mad fishwife rant about time out meaning a little bit peace and quiet (less politely out I'm afraid to say) sent him down promising to be there and crack on with dumplings for the stew cooking in mo.i don't want think about dinner.i want time out by myself..it's only going to get worse as day goes on

You can tell him that I've naturally had low blood pressure my entire life, and I'm 51!😂 HTH.

In pregnancy mine dropped to 80/60 and I'm still here 😂I admit I felt constantly dizzy and carried banana and salted crisps with me EVERYWHERE!!

Philomena let us know how it works out with the weighted blanket. We had one too - bit of hit and miss with both DCs (recommended by DS1's therapist a decade ago). Hey I'm 51 too .

Zoo oh no hang in there - hopefully DS eventually gave you time to yourself. I struggle with this too although it could be worse I suppose.
Tell DS I've been dizzy too lately and aren't worried (this is coming from someone who has periods of health anxiety!). Think my iron's a bit low from that time of the month .

Dreading tomorrow's big appt with school and psychiatrist....blech.

Well, he woke up at 5.40 this morning. I've put it on him again tonight. He'll go to sleep whatever time I put him to bed, it's the waking up between 5-6 that's the problem.

Philomena it's no consolation but my youngest was always like that til few months ago.up before dawn no matter what time went to bed.i just accepted it eventually as fighting it was more effort and I'm a morning person.shd sleeps til gone 6now but I still get up at 5.nice start to the day having bit time by myself to get a few bits done!!

Viking nope.i sent him to bed and he knows once I'm stressed banging around will put me off my food.he did it on purpose whilst j try to eat.not before he knew was ready(dd2 ate with me and went upstairs to wash her hands before we sat down) and been quiet since about 5mibs after j gave up try to eat if he comes down anytime soon I'm tempted strangle him,he's been playing me all weekend and I know it's worry about tom but I've reached the end of my rope and I have absolutely no sympathy or patience left!!

Good luck tomorrow.will be thinking if you.xx

Zoo thank you.
If it's any consolation I'm going through somewhat similar with DS2. Every Sunday he asks to stay home from school Monday. Tears, whining and banging things around for hours - it's relentless. Thankfully it's only Sundays I need to brace myself for this crap.
Wishing you peace and calm xx