Parents of anxious kids/ teens support thread

[Stilllivinginazoo]

Hi
Welcome to parents of anxious/ teens thread.idea is to share tips and advice and listen and support each other on days things are getting tougher

I'm at work so quickly place marking, need to read this thread and post my worries when I can

Welcome Chippy .

Just checking in....mmmm cake . Please post a pic if you're happy with the result, Zoo!

It's all gone viking so I cant never even got a slice

I am making gingercake tomorrow and I will demand a piece of that one..will post photo if I remember before I eat it all
Welcome chippy

oh no Zoo - not once slice to indulge in?

*one

Not even acrumb on the knife..they are like a plague of locusts sometimes ....

Hello everyone, may I join you? DD11 is having some issues with anxiety and a phobia. She's been put on beta blockers and we're now awaiting the referral to a child psychiatrist. Going private as I get the cover through work but it's still very slow going.

She's got a cold at the moment which isn't helping but the number of you saying your kids don't sleep and wake often is ringing big bells here... She's never been a good sleeper and struggles to switch off.

She's just started High School too and trying not to tell anyone about her issues (although pastoral are aware) which is hard but her choice. Constantly trying to manage her anxiety and remember the "rules" is exhausting.

Off to read more of the thread!

trinitybleu welcome
It's interesting so many reach a head at around 10-12 years.i deffo think hormones are at play somewhere in the mix

DS was up til late fretting.forgot take phone away so suspect was up til silly o'clock.hes very tired and complaining feels Illl.just looks tire to me so I'm not falling for anything.its not all day,he has to go!(and do on duty to take him in!!)

I think the hormones don't help, it's true.

One good thing about this is the phobia means she won't currently touch her phone, so that's something to cling onto!

Yep, DD's 11 and I think it's a combination of hormones, anxiety and introversion. I also think she may be autistic, I am, and her inability to remember "real world things" like putting her purse in her school bag for her cinema trip today, seems like an autistic trait. Also, poor executive function, which I also have. She's a gifted mathematician, but thinks very slowly. I think she'll score low in the maths SAT.

Year 6 Philomena my youngest(lil zoo) in year 6 and she's feeling the stress being heaped on her to perform well in SATS...
DS was drag out of bed(went back to sleep thinking I wouldn't wake and send him- erm dd2 would be hell on earth if I didn't!!)and sent in.seems cope better going in with dad(annoying but hey if he goes in easier I'm all for that)
He's quite clingy now.im hiding in kitchen scrambling eggs and making frittata as DP around for few days and D's won't eat frittata but likes scrambled eggs with Jake in(hardly much difference really.but heyhoo)

Jake?I put kale!!!

So DD just went into their bedroom where DS2's playing with Lego and he thought she was hiding some from him. I think he's calmed down again.

Oh dear Philomena
DS went loopy when we passed some nuts in a wholefood shop this afternoon,then again when cat scratched him and he was wearing a vest and it scratch his chest slightly.for few mins convinced go die sepsis......
He's now watching a dvd in his room I eat dinner in peace.thus rule is absolute.bother me at dinnertime.heads will roll!!

DD's positively zen-like compared to your DS zoo. for coping.

I'm utterly drained at the mo..it's constant freaking over X,y,z....

I wish I could help, but then if I could cope with DD's anxiety I wouldn't be on this thread!

Philomena it helps to know we are not alone

Ah Zoo my ds can be like that when he is particularly stressy, a tiny scratch is a major wound, another child accidentally hurting him is always deliberate and set out to maim etc and we get sudden alleged mystery illnesses as well. Luckily he doesn’t do it all the time but I agree it is wearing.

All good this morning, although DS2 woke up hyper, which usually means he's tired. DD took an age to get dressed, so she had 20 minutes to finish getting dressed, brush her hair, have breakfast and get washed. My autism is getting rattled by some prat sitting behind me in the Sainsbury's café humming and whistling. Talk me down before I shout at him. 😠

Picking DD up at 12 for another CAMHS appointment. 😆

Morning friends .

Philomena good luck with the cahms appointment.

Zoo hope DS can de-escalate somewhat now that Friday is here. You need a break and a gigantic bar of chocolate!

Had a stressful two days - not sure what DH's problem is but he's currently not speaking to me...didn't like what I said about something last night. Something/someone is bothering him at his job and although he knows not to bring stress home - he has (although he won't admit it). I know he's wrong but I just get on with things as normal so kids don't notice.
Monday is the big meeting between DS1's psychiatrist and the school team and us. Leaving work early for it.

Positive vibes to all! xx

Sorry I wasn't around earlier when hummer was annoying you Philomena how did the meeting go?!

Oh dear Viking if any consolations DP is ignoring me for reasons unknown...I'm losing will to live!!D's starts 2 hours at school a day Monday after successfully completing near hour and a half

Zoo - argh SO sorry...hang in there! Wish I could lift your spirits somehow or send you a big cake to enjoy BY YOURSELF! What is it with sulking DPs??! Sorry if this sounds like it belong in Relationships , but 3 years ago seriously considered leaving with dcs. Things got better and I realized I need him for DC issues - can't do it by myself although thought I once could. But I can only described the sulking as childish - I would never sulk. But God forbid I tell him it's childish!

CAMHS went well, we have one more session before they decide what to do, we're also waiting for a date for DS2's ADHD assessment.

That sounds positive Philomena
Do you know how long the waittil ADHD assessment will be?
Viking I often think like that,but with my own MH not convinced I could manage all three by myself so here I am....