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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

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Fairydust26 · 12/03/2018 20:56

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

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dogzdinner · 08/07/2018 22:19

Good luck with the new job 😊

larla · 09/07/2018 11:17

Good luck with the new job.
I went to the Queen gig last night alone. It was some show. I met someone on the bus on the way up. It felt really nice to be with someone but I still felt my anxiety spike from time to time.

Anyway it never crossed my mind to ask him how old he was, I knew he was older. Turns out he's nearly 60. He didn't look it, or act like it. I really liked him. I may also be lonely and desperate. Smile

Even though he has a daughter 8 years younger than me, I think I might keep in contact with him. If it doesn't work out he might be nice to have a friend anyway.

I am still not sleep great, I don't know if it's the weather or not. I got to sleep at about 2.30am and I was awake again at 6.10. Put on some relaxing music and drifted in and out of sleep until about 10.30 when I finally got up.

AsleepAllDay · 09/07/2018 13:56

Thank you! Smile trying to stay focused on the positives

A friend is always good to have! It doesn't matter if something happens or not - if you like him, stay in contact

CalmBlueOcean · 09/07/2018 15:27

Hi everyone. NC for this thread. Glad to see I'm not alone. Hope you are all ok. I'm in the middle of a big anxiety episode and just realized that this is much more of an ongoing problem than I thought. The anxiety latches onto a different problem each time but it's still always the same anxiety. I have just started some online counseling which is better than nothing, but interesting to hear about other people being on meds.
How does everyone cope best with their anxiety? Therapy, meds, self help?

larla · 09/07/2018 15:43

I'm on meds but thinking about doing some one line counselling. I'm still not sleeping and although my aniexty is somewhat controlled my depression is still not managed and I think talking might help.

CalmBlueOcean · 09/07/2018 15:53

larla therapy has helped me more than meds. I've had medication for depression before (not on it now) and it helped but the talking helped the most. There are lots of online services which means you can get started right away. It's not quite as good as in person (for me) because it's not as in depth, but it's good that it's quick and I can contact my therapist every day and not have to wait for an appointment. Let us know how it goes if you give it a try.

larla · 09/07/2018 16:02

Thanks CalmBlueOcean. I will give it a try and see.

Embracethechaos · 10/07/2018 18:47

My meds are pretty sorted but I'm getting easily irritated this afternoon with my dh now instead of my dm. I'm a control freak really, my mental health midwife picked up on that and I don't like not having control of my meds, I couldn't remember whether or not I took them and was obsessing over the time. Now I can concentrate on baby but a little comment my dh made this evening has got to me... About discrete breastfeeding... When I was feeding my baby with a nursing dress, and only my brother in the room. It was a small comment that wouldn't usually bother me but it reminded me of previous issues....

larla · 10/07/2018 20:52

Feeling a bit sad today. I can't seem to let go of things. DS was home Sunday night. His Debs/Graduation/prom, is next week,I asked him to come out to my parents house for photos. My Parents house is 10mins away from the town they are meeting in.
DS is not Keen. He wants us all to go to GF's house. It is 30mins drive away and we don't get on.
He huffed that he has to drive through the meeting point out to my parents and back again.
I would offer to go into the town for photos but my parents have a lovely garden that would make a lovely back drop for this special day and it's the done thing that photos are taken in both set of parents houses.
I feel like GF and her family are taking away these moments from me. I just feel like crying. I don't care about him moving out, I just want to share these special moments with him.

larla · 12/07/2018 21:46

Fuck, so fucken messed up right now. Feel like crying and still over DS and his Grad. I am so upset and just feel like what's the point. Jesus I must've been a Shite parent for DS to do this to me, not only me but my parents too. Everyone is so upset but because of my MH I can't just brush it off. I keep dwelling on it. I'm not sleeping, barely eating. I feel like shit.
(Sorry for the language)

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Fairydust26 · 13/07/2018 15:24

larla how are you feeling today?Flowers.

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larla · 14/07/2018 11:03

Still in a heap. I'm just so disappointed. Here we only have one Grad ball. It's a massive deal. I am hurt, angry, sad. I've booked myself a hoilday for a few days in August just to get away, clear my head and have fun on my own maybe even get a spa treatment. Never had one before.
I know should be able to shrug this off but I find myself dwelling on it and being upset.
Going to look into some online counselling.

dogzdinner · 14/07/2018 11:42

I kind of know how you feel. My DS16 is with my exh at the moment. Exh treated me really badly, lots of cheating and lying, which has been the root cause of my anxiety. I hate it when he's with him and it makes me really anxious. It's a tough time when kids grow up and move on, even if you don't have anxiety.

Can you find something nice to do today? A bit of self care?

larla · 14/07/2018 11:57

Thanks Dogzdinner, sorry you were treated so badly.
I'm going to a football match today with my sister. Going to a show next weekend. I have a good social life bit it doesn't really help. I always have a sick feeling in my stomach.
Myself and DS were so close for long. It was always just the 2 of us. He was always happy and laughing had a strong sense of right and wrong as in he couldn't understand why people would steal or be nasty to their family. He's doing that now.
I know part of it is that I'm finding it hard that's growing up. I'm trying not to be overbearing though.

dogzdinner · 15/07/2018 21:55

It's probably better that you have things to do, even if you still feel it in your stomach. At least it is some distraction. I know what the feeling is like.

Me and DS used to be so close too. He's come home from his dad's and told me about things he was doing there to help out, garden jobs etc. He doesn't do anything like that for me, so it really hurts. It's really hard. I keep being told that even if he drifts away now he will come back because of the strong bond we had. I think we have to hold on to that

larla · 15/07/2018 22:37

Everyone keeps telling me that too. They day he will see the light and come back to me.(emotionally not physically if you know what I mean) I don't think that will happen but if it does I hope he still has friends left.
At the moment they are waiting for him to come to them but they won't wait forever.

Original poster
Fairydust26 · 16/07/2018 19:47

How’s everyone doing? I’m feeling good at the moment hope I don’t jinx myself!.

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larla · 16/07/2018 20:28

Today is a bad day for me. I'd feel better if I slept longer but I seem to be only sleeping 4/5 hours and even thoes are broken.
I am someone who needs a lot of sleep. I don't do well going to sleep at 1 or 1.30am and waking up at 6am.
Does anyone find any herbal sleep remedies that work? I don't want to rely on sleeping tablets.

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Fairydust26 · 16/07/2018 21:23

larla essential oils are good for sleep there’s percific ones you can get for sleep you just rub them on your pulse points or spray on your pillow, In the past when I’ve used them I found I had a much more restful sleep. Also lush recently came out with a body lotion which I think is called sleepy which has had loads of rave reviews for helping people sleep.

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larla · 16/07/2018 21:33

Thanks Fairydust26. I was looking into weighted blankets but I can't afford them. Will look into the oils and the body lotion.

larla · 16/07/2018 22:14

By the way glad you're feeling good Fairydust26. Hope everyone else is good.

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Fairydust26 · 17/07/2018 02:46

I should probably take my own advise as I’m sat here wide awake unable to sleepAngry.

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Embracethechaos · 17/07/2018 06:43

Sleep.... My consultant identified it as my main issue. Sleep deprivation makes everything worse. I do take medication which is sedative (not sleeping pills). The information I was given on sleep tablets is they are good for resetting sleep patterns short term but most shouldn't be used for more than 2 weeks. For me I find routine important, difficult for a newborn but even more important. I have a horlicks, no late meals, caffeine or screens after a set time, 8-10pm. I was doing this along with yoga and cbt from 8 before meditation. Also I downloaded a night filter on my phone as blue frequency light really messes with your body clock. As much as I love the long days, I'm glad the days are getting shorter as I don't sleep well when it's bright outside.

Embracethechaos · 17/07/2018 07:48

Anxiety for the day: driving. I've not driven for months, then I felt as anxious as when I was newly qualified. Today I'd like to drive.

dogzdinner · 17/07/2018 13:31

Re sleeping - I use ear plugs and an eye mask. it does help.