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Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

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Fairydust26 · 12/03/2018 20:56

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

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dogzdinner · 01/07/2018 08:35

fairy thanks I do keep meaning to try them. I should get one on standby on my phone.

NT sorry to hear that. I've not slept too well either. What do you worry will happen to you when you're asleep?

NT53NJT · 01/07/2018 09:43

I fear that I won't wake up again 😣

dogzdinner · 01/07/2018 09:48

Do you have diagnosed health problems?

NT53NJT · 01/07/2018 11:33

No, none.
It's since I had a bad reaction to an operation in march.
Got a doctor's appointment on Thursday and am on the waiting list for some 1 on 1 therapy sessions

larla · 01/07/2018 11:52

Sorry to hear that NT53NJT. Hope you got sorted soon although Thursday is a long wait when you're going through that. Have you tried a sleeping app or a meditation app?

Piano007 · 03/07/2018 14:23

Hi, I also have anxiety. What an interesting thread. I just started hrt but still feeling down and anxious. But this thread cheers me up Smile

Piano007 · 03/07/2018 14:28

Oh, what I meant to say was that it makes me feel better to see that I am not alone with anxiety.

larla · 03/07/2018 14:34

I'm clean the house today. Currently washing down walls. Something is wrong with me. Cleaning for me usually just hovering and washing places I can see not pulling out wardrobes to clean behind them.
This weather shows up all the dust and dirt everywhere. Grin or maybe I'm just finally starting to grow up and be house proud.

dogzdinner · 03/07/2018 16:00

Ooh, it's a bit hot for cleaning Larla If it makes you happy though...

Hi Piano glad that the thread is helping you. I mentioned menopause to the gp (older male) and they completely dimissed me - all they said was 'are you still having periods'? Seemingly clueless that symptoms start before your periods stop. I may go back to see a different one. How long have you had HRT for?

Piano007 · 03/07/2018 16:17

I am on my 11th day of hrt...

larla · 03/07/2018 16:58

It is hot. That's why I am hiding inside. I gave no idea why I am cleaning. I am getting frustrated though. I keep getting a spot nice and clean and then I decide to empty out something to clean. At the moment it's my wardrobe. Not the clothes just the sh1t I hide in there when I do my normal clean. Grin
I am now taking regular breaks. I am much more productive that way.
I did find lots of little cards that my DS made me and some from past Students (Early Years Teacher). I got a little emotional.
DS turned 19 on Sat. He is away on hols at the moment.

dogzdinner · 03/07/2018 17:10

Aw my eldest DS is nearly 19 too. I do miss them being little. Must be nice having little ones to work with though (and perhaps remind you how hard work they can be!)

Hope the HRT works for you piano. I don't know how long it's meant to take to feel the effects?

Bought some rescue remedy this morning. Not sure if it worked, I do feel calmer but may be because I'm knackered

larla · 03/07/2018 17:25

Rescue Remedy is really good. I took it before My driving test years ago and passed it. Before that I failed 4 times.
Hi Piano. Hope everything is going well for you.

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Fairydust26 · 03/07/2018 18:51

dogzdinner I find rescue remedy good as well you can put the drops in water i find it easier to take it that way than carrying the drops around with me plus it reminds me to drink moreSmile.

Been feeling good these last few day fingers crossed it continuesGrin.

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Embracethechaos · 05/07/2018 06:34

Hi, it's been a while. I gave birth to my baby prematurely with an oxytocin induction so my hormones are everywhere. Physically I recovered well but I got extremely sleep deprivated and had a week stay in hospital, and my meds have been changed a number of times and I'm recovering well at home, am getting daily visits to monitor my mood. I'm glad I didn't have more stressful waiting and obs appointments and that my baby was delivered safely as the effects of my medication during birth are unknown.

larla · 05/07/2018 07:17

Congratulations embracethechaos. Glad to hear everything went okay.

Piano007 · 05/07/2018 09:11

Congratulations Smile

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Fairydust26 · 05/07/2018 19:37

That’s great congrats Embracethechaos😊.

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larla · 07/07/2018 14:19

Handed in my notice yesterday. Have 2 weeks left. I'm a little nervous. DS hasn't been home and I'm so lonely. I'm trying to stay out of the house as much as possible as I am worried about my depression and anixety getting worse. He has birthday cards here from last week too.

AsleepAllDay · 07/07/2018 15:47

I must not text my ex
I must not text my ex
I must not text my ex
I must not text my ex
X 1000

It's fine & he always writes back and we talk about silly shit but i feel so beyond the task of scraping myself off the floor & accepting that we're done

The thought of him with other girls scalds me yet I can't seem to focus on all the things in my life that are there and need attention!

Now in bed with an anxious headache Shock

Embracethechaos · 07/07/2018 16:02

I'm enjoying having a baby and spending time with my family. my midwife is very pleased and surprised how well I'm doing. As my mum is staying I am arguing with my mum, about meds and feeding (she's pushy about breastfeeding when we're doing mixed since hospital and it works well). I know we wind each other up in stressful situations so it wasn't my plan for her to stay but we needed her when I was discharged sleep deprived. She's been good for me but I enjoy my freedom, which I'm getting back now I'm more physically active. I've been cleared to drive by the dvla (my meds are sedating) but I don't want to yet.

larla · 07/07/2018 18:43

Embracethechaos I know what you mean. Not baby releated but when I was recovering from an op a few years ago, I had to stay at my family home. I lasted a week barely. I had to get back home. I don't live far from parents.
I am so glad you are coping well.

AsleepAllDay, I have no advice to offer as I've never been in a relationship that meant something but don't text him. Easy for me to say I know but you need to break away and texting each other isn't going to help either of ye.

AsleepAllDay · 08/07/2018 22:02

Thank you @larla - am restraining myself right now, as hard as it is!

dogzdinner · 08/07/2018 22:14

Can you text someone else instead?

Or just occupy yourself with something else - write a list of all the annoying things about him.

AsleepAllDay · 08/07/2018 22:17

Yes I can @dogzdinner - just finding it tough, I really miss him. Definitely have a lot to focus on - starting a new job this week, picking up new things like driving lessons, going to yoga. Am emerging from a big depression period so just trying to deal with lots of change & upheaval. We finished while being a LDR that was meant to be temporary... sigh