Anxiety support, Hand hold or chit chat come say hi #2

[Fairydust26]

Hi everyone this is part 2 as the original thread is full up! But as the title says this thread is support for all that are struggling and could do with a handhold and a chit chat so come and say hello😊.

Thanks Fairydust26. It does feel better writing it down. It helps me sort out my head.

Hope everyone’s doing well and enjoying the sunshine?.

I actually hate this weather. It's very hot. (30 degrees today) I prefer it when it's cooler but not too cold. Spring and autumm are my favourite times of the year.

I took the new job yesterday. Looking forward to starting in September.

larla congrats on the job! Hope things work out well for you😊. Gosh 30 degrees wasn’t that hot for me thankfully but I much prefer spring and autumn too when it’s too hot it makes me feel worse.

Yeah, I've been feeling strange today. The only way to describe it is it's like my skin was hyper sensitive. Does that make sense? I suppose it's a reaction to feeling like your in danger but my medication kept it from going too far. I'm sure if I am making sense or not.

@iarla I'm exactly same can't stand it when it's hot like this I prefer it when you can just go out in a t-shirt and jeans without feeling like you're going to weld to the floor.

Hope everyone is doing ok tonight 💪

I find the warmth makes me feel cosy and comforted, but if I'm too hot I get flustered.

I'm away from home at the moment and earlier I drove past a speeding camera and realised I was going too fast. I know there's no excuse, it was on a big main road, no buildings around and I hadn't noticed it had reduced to 40. I don't know if the camera was turned on. I've got really anxious this evening about it and also worrying if there were other cameras I've missed. I know there's nothing I can do about it and I know that nothing may happen but I can't stop the feelings of anxiety.

It's been so bad recently I feel like I'm struggling with even some basic aspects of life things I used to enjoy now induce anxiety. I don't know whether to go to the gp. They gave me beta blockers before but I can't take them as they send my blood pressure too low.

larla congratulations on the job. I think I know what you mean about skin feeling sensitive. It's an unpleasant feeling.

You should talk to the GP dogzdinner. It can do no harm to talk.

I was meant to be going to a concert with a friend Sunday week. Her work is messing her around because she handed in her notice. She has decided not to go to the concert. I am gutted for her but I d9nt know what to do. I am tempted to go myself anywat bit it would mean a whole day alone in a crowd of people.
Bone of my other friends or family want to go.

None not Bone

Is it something you've ever done on your own before?

Funnily enough I was thinking of going to a concert/festival thing on my own. I don't have any friends to go with.

I've never been to anything like that before though and I'm not young, so I'm not sure if I would feel out of place. And as my anxiety is so bad I've decided against it.

I've never done anything like that on my own. I'm not very good at interacting with people I don't know. People used to say they thought I was a snob before they go to know me. I am incredibly shy. I'm not that young either but the tickets have been bought and I really really want to go.

I'm like that too - and I think people have probably thought I was aloof rather than shy. However since being on my own I've become better at talking to people and I find I want to connect more.

I don't think there would be a need to talk to people if you didn't want to or are you worried about feeling lonely?

Feeling lonely. Having no one to talk to while waiting for the main act to come on. Don't like the support acts. Was looking forward to relaxing outside in the sun and having a laugh.
Still nothing ventured nothing gained. It could be a good experience.

larla will you be standing or seated? Also you could always skip the support acts I’ve done that a few times and just watch the main act.

Standing it's an outdoor event. I don't know if there is any pub nearby where I could sit and watch the world go by. Getting a special concert bus up so no option to go later in the day. I live 2 hours away.

Oh that’s a pain I’m sure if you went you’d have a great time however I totally understand not wanting to go by yourself these things can be hard enough even when your with other people.

Larla, could you take earphones with you? Listen to podcasts/audio books in between acts? I’ve watched a band on my own once when I was at a festival with friends and no one wanted to see the same band as me. It was a bit strange, but no one paid any attention to me.

I’m on 50mg sertraline. I’ve been taking it for 2-3 months now. I can’t decide about it. Some days I feel numb. Like I do not care about anything. I’m not sleeping well but that might be the heat. I’ve started waking up, panicking that something has happened to the DCs overnight. I’ve not felt like that for months.

Good idea Juliecloud. I could bring my kindle and my iPod.

Does anyone have any good techniques for getting back to sleep? I find it really difficult to get rid of the worrying feeling once I wake in the might.

Last night, I woke up and for the first few seconds I actually felt completely happy - I'm not sure what I had been dreaming about. It quickly went and was replaced by dread. Fed up with it

Oh dear. Was out last night with a friend. I wasn't drinking but friend was. When friend is drunk there are topics I usually don't bring up as she can be a bit of a moody drunk.
Last night however she was missing me off. She was going on about labels on kids. ADHD etc. She doesn't believe in them they are just bold kids etc.
I was saying no they are real.
She says "Larla believes in the because DS was diagnosed with ADHD."
After her going on and on I said to her. "You'd feel differently if you had kids, you'd be bringing them to try and get them to everyone"
After that the mood went sour. She said I pissed her off. I was condesending. I treated her like an idiot etc.
The other person with us had no idea what happened, why she suddenly flew off the handle. He thought we were just having a discussion. Couldn't see anything wrong with what I said. I didn't say it in a condesending way, just stated it like a fact.
Anyway I should've been the one upset. I went through years of trying to get DS assessed and when he was they wanted to put him on meds but I refused. He wasn't violent with it just extra sentivite and unable to sleep or concentrate. He was/ is also impulsive. .
I had a hard time with him when he was younger. She knows this. She remembers. That's why I'm awake now dispite the fact that I got to bed at 3.30.

Oh dear that sounds like a stressful evening. People can be complete arses when they're drunk.

Yep I usually stay away from topics involving children as it's a sore point for her. It is true though that once you have children you see things differently. Of course you do.
If she remembers the conversation she's going to be thick with me today. We'll get over it, we always do. I am usually able to handle it better.

dogzdinner I find guided meditations help loads keeps your mind distracted and stops the running thoughts, it’s very soothing and you eventually fall back asleep.

Having a particularly bad night tonight. Don't want to go to sleep in case something happens to me whilst I'm asleep.

Starting to annoy me so much now.