If I die can I insist dh takes dc to see my parents?

[SweetElizaRose]

I'm fairly sure I'm going to die. I suffer terribly anxiety and recently have come into contact with chicken pox to which I am not immune. I have a strong feeling it's going to kill me.
I'm an only child and my parents will be devastated. Dh does not get on with my parents and I likely to take the children and go ang live with his mother. Is there any way I can legally put anything into place to give them some access? Dh works full time so I'd like my parents to be able to do some of the childcare. Also my dc are close to my parents so I feel they would benefit from seeing them as ds in particular will be very upset. Dd is only a baby so won't really know either way.

It's really worrying me. Or do I just have to discuss it with dh and hope he will be reasonable?

Well done for making the GP appointment, Eliza. Do tell them everything about how worried you are. And please make sure the GP knows that you haven't been taking your meds- maybe they can help to reassured your husband that the meds are safe while bfing ?

Well done op. Don't be afraid to take notes with you of what you want to say- it's easy to forget details under the pressure.

Please detail all your worries to the doctor, explain fully about your negative thoughts. Use this thread, if it's easier just give it to them to ready through. You deserve all the help they can give you, but you must let them in first.

Good luck

No I've talked about the meds with dh again today and he says I can only take them if I stop expressing and feeding dd.

So proud of you.

You promise me you will tell him you ate certain you feel you and your daughter are going to die very soon and how overwhelming you find these thoughts?

Explain your concerns about chicken pox, if you feel the GP is not understand how important it is to you show him this thread.

If you like I will write a post below that might put it all out for you, you can show it to the GP if you like.

Tell your husband to fuck off, you can take whatever the doctors tell you not what he says. Your husband knows shit all.

Perhaps Dh should hear it from the doctor himself how important the meds are at this stage? Let the Dr know what Dh is saying to you. Good luck

He can feck right off he doesnt get to tell you what you can and cant do speak to your Gp about your medication and its up to YOU what you take its up to the GP to tell you whats safe to take

Dear Doctor,

I have been talking to this new Mum for a few days online now. She is incredibly distressed at the thought of chicken pox and has investigated whether you can refer her to get anti virals privately.

Can you please take her concerns of chicken pox very seriously, she is certain that death waits around the corner from chicken pox. She can't buy larger size clothes for her child because she is sure she will die first. She is not sleeping at night and is extremely anxious at the thought of what chicken pox will do to her baby, who was born prematurely and is very precious to her.

Please take her distress and concern seriously. She needs urgent intervention today. Please.

Also as an added bonus I can't get my sugars below 16 which is either because I'm sickening for something or is stress.
Thanks gin

Do tell the GP that your husband doesn't want you to take the antidepressants.

It really isn't your husband's decision or business what medicine you take. That is between you and you doctor. He really needs to understand how ill you and and support your recovery, not hinder it as he is now.

Don't let the doctor rush you out of the door, you need to talk about chicken pox, your anxieties and blood sugar. They are all important

Is your DH working today, Eliza? You say he still doesn't want you to take meds while you're bfing, but have you told him your worries about the chicken pox? Does he really understand how scared you are?

Eliza, please tell your GP exactly what Gin has drafted. He/she will take your concerns for DD seriously, and will help you to deal with your anxiety. Please trust your GP's judgement over and above your DH's. Respect the GP's knowledge and expertise.

And you know what I've noticed about your posts? Your overwhelming love for your DC. Your little DD smiles at you - she knows you love her, you make her happy. That is priceless to her.

Best of luck today- we're all there with you xxxx

Thinking of you. Really need these intrusive anxious thoughts sorting out urgently. Hope the doctor can see that.

Well done for making the appointment, it is the first step to you getting better. You have got lots of support on here as well

Your husband has got no right at all to say you can't have anti-depressants if you're breastfeeding/expressing. The doctor can give you ones which are safe and will not affect your milk.

Good luck for today xx

Thinking of you this morning.

Good luck thinking of you.

Hope it goes well at the doctors x

I'm glad you're going to the drs. I hope it goes well.

Well done for making the appointment, hope you get some help and maybe some tablets that you can take safely while BF and that the Dr can help with your worry about DD and cp xxxx

I have some antivrials.

How do you feel now?

Are they for you and/or your DD?

Do you take them if you get CP?

What about the other tablets?

Sorry I don't know much about anti viral tablets x