My heart is broken

[Wibhay]

I just had to have my beloved cat Rita pts. Part of my heart has just died with her.

I am finding it hard to get through each hour so can not even think about tomorrow. I would never get another animal as I have no interest in animals anymore.

You've clearly got a big heart there so it wouldn't surprise me at all if you gave some room in it to another cat sometime soon. It's actually a compliment to your girl and how wonderful she was - not in the least disrespectful.

My dad begged me not to get any more animals as both him and my mum are devasted too and I couldn't have agreed more that I'll never have anymore. It wouldn't feel right. My heart will never recover. Like a broken vase you can glue it back together but it will never be the same

I miss Rita that much I just want to get her out of her grave so I can hold her in my arms again

I miss Rita that much I just want to get her out of her grave so I can hold her in my arms again

I would urge you not to think about doing this OP.

I dont understand why your dad has urged you not to get anymore animals. Have you had any pets before Rita?

My beautiful boy had a stroke on our doorstep nearly 2 years ago. He was absolutely fine in the morning and then an
Hour later we were rushing him to the vets . It was utterly awful saying goodbye as they couldn't save him . He was 14 but in perfect health , it was such a shock . We still have his brother and got them both when we first got together . They were my babies too and continued to be after I had children .. When my dad died they both came to comfort me and he was my buddy .. It's so so hard to lose an animal . I feel the same about getting any more as I know I'm on borrowed time with his brother and it's going to hurt all over again. I feel your pain but it will get slightly better day by day . Be kind to yourself and cry when you need to .

Actually, have you had any close deaths before? (Pet or human.)

Have you read this poem - it helped me

You should attend your GP, OP, or go to A&E directly.

All of my grandparents have died and I've have other pets

Had

Hello OP, we are really sorry for your loss, and that you're feeling so dreadful.

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Thank you pp i came on here for some support from other people but have now been left feeling embarrassed and like I can no longer seek my support here. I am capable of calling rl people for help as I did the evening that Rita died as mentioned in a previous post.
Thanks everyone for your support it really did help me but I don't feel I can continue on here now. Wishing you call a Happy New Year

Wib
Please keep posting. You really shouldn't feel embarrassed. There is absolutely nothing to be embarrassed about. Some of your posts were a bit concerning and anyone reading them would be of course be a bit worried about your welfare. Many people fully understand what you are going through and they have posted seem really lovely comments

Don't go wib.

We have all been there. But we all react differently.

We are just worried about you as your seem very raw.

please don't leave, there's no need to be embarrassed. we all remember how it feels when we loose our beloved pets. I hope you can manage to get some sleep tonight and that you get through another day.

be kind to yourself. x

There's a Kipling poem about how your heart is torn . It is and we all understand, have been there, dread going there again.

But you have been a better and more loving person because of this. You have given comfort and love. And you will be able to look back with pride and affection.

But just now you need to cherish yourself.

How are you today?

Wib, if you are still reading, then noone judges you, everyone gets how hard it is.

Grief can be so unbearable to endure. Do know you are thought about, and that people care because they understand the pain.

Other pains get highlighted, or come back into focus, even if you can't recognise exactly what they are, if that makes any sense.

x